There was a TV show here in the UK called Sun, Sex & Suspicious Parents. These are the vibes this is giving off. Fyi, it had Parents following their kids secretly on holiday watching what they got up to.
i was married twice; both were mommie's boys. neither mother could let go. i was in my 50s & still getting daily nasty calls from the queen of demons, telling me what to cook or not cook, etc. destroyed my long marriage. the emotional incest was repulsive. we;re divorced & i am alone. mommie is 101.
Sounds like she's either using her kid for content or being creepily clingy. It would still be questionable even if he had agreed to it beforehand but surprising him like this is just cringy and sad.
Yikes! I’m all up for partying with my kids but there are certain boundaries you just don’t cross. I feel his embarrassment, the mum’s in the wrong here.
I don't even have to read it. Some mothers need to learn to let go. It's not always easy but damn. They are grown. Find your own friends and let them learn to be adults without you there
Nah, that's not a "cool mom" as someone replied. To surprise your son then make it all about you is just sad. A mother and son CAN go somewhere together and have fun if that's the plan. In this case it was not, and underscores that she needs to respect his boundaries.
Crashes, so shows up uninvited, but knowing. Yeah, not gonna spend time reading this. If you think that's okay, you need to grow the fuck up. People need space, and freedom, and the ability to choose what they do and who they do it with, and if my parent did that to me, I'd stop telling them things.
Well, I haven't really thought my parents were "embarrassing" since I was about 17, and certainly not as late as college. That kid's a little old for it.
It's not like she stormed in there and dragged him out by the ear. How insecure do you have to be to get upset by your Mom having fun with you?
The sport boy moms hold on the tightest bc their whole would revolved around the boys’ needs and driving them around and some got confused about what their role is, imo.
I went to a gay nightclub last night with a few 40-50 year old mom friends. We’re cis-gendered. My cis-gendered, 21-year old son asked if he could come with me. I tried to talk him out of it. We had a great time. His 21-year old trans twin was home. Every parenting journey is different.
This is not cute or endearing, it's very cringe. One of the best ways to get your kids to cut you off is to disrespect their boundaries and disrespect them out in public, especially when they're adults. I go out with my adult child when my adult child invites me to, I don't impose myself.
Creepy…. I’m a mother to a 22 year old son. I refuse to be labelled with Creepy Karens like this. I’m humiliated for him. Break the trust and you will break the bond.
No. I'm a boy mom, but you need to let go at some point and let your kid create their own life, separate from yours. That is the hardest part of parenting — letting go. You have to let go and let them do their thing--or they will resent you later on. Look at his face--he is NOT happy.
I don't understand the "boy mom" label. Yeah, I said that when my kid was little, but everyone I knew understood it way I meant it ... the unique challenges of raising humans who fling themselves off furniture, are generally kind of gross, and a unique brand of chaos-filled joy that boys carry.
The label has turned into something different-like the above-mentioned situation. I don't know when it changed--but over the past few years, I have heard that term being used to talk about moms who can't let go. I consider the label more like you thinking of it. Social media says otherwise. 🤷♀️
Man, that's weird. I'm over here groaning that mine is living with me through the last year of his bachelors and his masters lol. Its like son, I would die for you, but you are costing me a fortune on my grocery bill and have you ever considered spending even more time not home? 😂
As a mom of 2 males, & a mom who never did anything like that, I think it's hilarious. Our kids do things throughout their adolescence/teen years that annoy/humiliate/infuriate us as parents. A little pay back is too funny. (That may not have been her motive, but it would have been mine.)
My mother showed up uninvited at my place on a Saturday morning after I left for college. I was sitting on the couch with a girl in my lap wearing nothing but my boxer shorts. There were beer cans and half-naked, passed-out college kids everywhere. She never showed up again without calling first.
Alot of yall probably didn't read the whole thing.
While maybe embarrasing for the son that night he still loves her as do her other sons. Every family's unique. All that matters is the family's love for one another.
The definition of cringe. And her rebuttal video where she said everyone is obsessed with her was as tone deaf as her first video. Like girl YOU posted the controversial video for attention and thinking you're funny or cool, but are pressed when we all collectively said ew lmao
Seems like a really out of place power move/meshed identity. He’s a young adult and she should come when she’s invited. Lacks respect. She will wonder why he doesn’t come around later in life.
Yes. He is still dependent, even though he’s a young adult in college. She is doing damage to their relationship. Nobody likes feeling like a victim and if he has to avoid her to keep from feeling that in the future, he will. And she will wonder why
I feel bad for anyone this guy dates. (As someone who has been in relationships with men whose mothers smothered them, I speak from experience. So toxic!)
Ugh. I didn't go clubbing in college (no interest). If my mother had done that sort of helicopter parenting, though, i'd have left school and found a job as far away as I could get. :/ As a parent, I wouldn't do that to a child of mine.
of course only supportive comments showed up on the later videos -- you can delete comments and some people who don't get why their behavior is problematic do just that to any negative ones.
I think it's hilarious. Of course, I'd be embarrassed if my mom did this. But if it's a one-off surprise and not a common thing, it's a prank. He will tell this story for the rest of his life
I bet a lot of college girls wish college boys operated under the fear their moms might show up at clubs and parties. Doesn't sound like the worst thing to me.
Yes, absolutely! This would make a lot of women feel safer. I’m a man but I think I’m correct in this one. But, we can act like our parents, spouses, partners are there without them actually being there.
If the son was in on it then people need to let them be and keep their unwanted opinions to themselves. If he wasn't and she crashed his plans that'd be some serious boundary crossing, however.
I’ve done that, but I was invited to the party. I showed up, bought their first legal drink on their 21st birthday. Left some cash for a second drink & then headed out to do something with my friends. I had my own plans.
At my daughter’s college, they do a sign night for their 21st. Her friend had us waiting on the route with a drink for her. We brought extras for her friends. After, we left and the kids went on their way.
I would have been devastated. It was bad enough she hopped to the door in bunny slippers when my date arrived at age 17.
But Mom remained my best friend, confident, and mentor; the date...I can't even remember his name.
Absolutely not. I have a 29 year old and an almost 17 year old, and I would never. I have literally said to my sons that I am not their friend, I am their parent. It gives off an energy of controlling parenting. It’s also toxic.
Well my frame of reference is my SIL who goes to her 26 yr old son’s apartment every weekend to clean and cook meals for him. He finally moved out in January but still isn’t really on his own. And we blame the patriarchy. 🤦♀️
Not okay. My spawn is 21. I did my job raising him right, and now I let him go and live his life while praying that I taught him well enough to minimise his fuck ups and be there as a safety net when they inevitably happen.
I have no desire to vicariously (and weirdly) recapture my young adulthood.
If it's not hurting anyone, then it's none of my business. Some parents have great relationships with their kids and can embarrass them and little without it being traumatizing. Better than parents turning a blind eye to what their kids are up to.
Cut the apron strings. You can love your mom but this is way too much. Let him grow up and be his own man. If you have raised him right you will not lose him. Smothering any child always has a bad outcome. Either they distance themselves as far as they can or the become entitled beyond repair.
I suppose I'm a boy mom😂 but this would never ever even enter my mind to do. Let your kid live their own life. Be excited they have a social life.
His friends will joke about it for years and he will never forget it. Mom fail.
When I was in college and my mom visited, she went to parties with us. She was fun. At halftime of the football games, when we could leave and come back, she did shots with me and my friends at the bar. Some parents are just fun to be around. Honestly, my 21 yo is more mature than me!
How can this young man develop appropriate self image and independence?
Swap it. If a 'girl dad' showed up at his college aged daughter's club night, would it be framed as 'crashing' a party or as an abusive parent intimidating their adult child?
Look at his face. That answers your question. Also a good argument for kids going to college well away from their parents. Idk what possessed her. I would never ever have done that to my son
What when my eldest son was in college I NEVER would have considered doing this to him. That we share a close relationship and one of the REASONS for that is I know what the fucking boundaries are.
In french, we now have a (non official) composite word for this kind of adult : "adulescent". It's like "teenadult", an adult stucked in her/his adolescence.
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Poor kid.
(The woman needs to have her head examined.)
Now's the time to tell him to get a job.
I mean, he obviously has the time.
It's not like she stormed in there and dragged him out by the ear. How insecure do you have to be to get upset by your Mom having fun with you?
New science. Thank you for your efforts Goddess
Just no.
While maybe embarrasing for the son that night he still loves her as do her other sons. Every family's unique. All that matters is the family's love for one another.
Speaking as a gay dude I would be FURIOUS if my mom showed up to a club I was at uninvited. Like “get a restraining order” furious.
Take up a hobby that doesn't include ensuring your kid has no friends of their own. You want to cling to him? Knit him something to wear.
Also, that 2nd pic, he looks like Neil from the Young Ones... 😂
Funny but not funny
... can also turn out worse.
Look at her son - he couldn't look more miserable if he tried and rightfully so.
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This. 👆
But Mom remained my best friend, confident, and mentor; the date...I can't even remember his name.
It’s not about you.
I have no desire to vicariously (and weirdly) recapture my young adulthood.
His friends will joke about it for years and he will never forget it. Mom fail.
maybe she already has.
Don't crash unless your child invites you to.
Important to not know everything about your children unless they willingly offer it.
How can this young man develop appropriate self image and independence?
Swap it. If a 'girl dad' showed up at his college aged daughter's club night, would it be framed as 'crashing' a party or as an abusive parent intimidating their adult child?
Helicopter mom from hell.