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She/her queer disabled Latinx geek. Storyteller with a day job. Married with kitties.
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Hooray!!
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Thank YOU for making something that sparks such neat ideas! I'll be pulling another prompt today, and later this week using Deck of Worlds.
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Livejournal! It's how I met my husband, actually. Also RSS feeds of webcomics.
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10) Finally, no relationship is perfect - humans are involved. Own your mistakes, make the changes you need to, and tell your partner when they've hurt you. Have some grace, but hold your own - you're a partnership, which means you're both worth the work.
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9) It's not always going to be easy. People change over time, the world will come at you and the way in which you react to it will determine how you whether the storm. Having a partner means having someone on your side while you fight the world together.
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8) Say "I love you" as often as you feel it, in as many different ways as you can. It can be as little as a quick text or as elaborate as cooking their favorite meal. The longer you're together, the more ways you'll find to say it, and you can't actually say it too often.
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7) You'll develop your own language the longer you're together - lean into it. Having in-jokes and special phrases that you use as code words (for, say, "I'm overwhelmed and need to get out of here") helps deepen the intimacy of your connection, and confuses everyone else. Win!
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6) There's a lot to be said for routine (again, in our neurodivergent case, doubly so). I might be having a crappy day, but if I know it's Good Food Thursday, then there's something to look forward to. We try to establish patterns to keep things going smoothly.
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5) At the same time, have fun apart from each other! Marrying your best friend is one thing, but they shouldn't be your only friend. Besides, doing things apart from each other means you'll have things to talk about.
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4) Have fun together! What's the point in spending your life with someone if you don't enjoy each other's company?
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3) To that end, communication involves listening just as much as talking, and working on understanding what the other person is saying is incredibly important.
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2) Everyone says it because it's true - communicate! In our case, both of us are neurodivergent, so neither of us is great at picking up on subtlety, and "if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you" is utter BS. You can't fix a problem you don't know about.
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1) Falling in love can be as easy as breathing, but actively loving someone with respect and honor takes effort. It's worth the work when you both are willing to do it.
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I'm also a big fan of Mexican/Latinx grocery stores (we have several around me in the PNW) for cheap and bulk. Also, sometimes it's really nice to be able to buy a few tamales and freeze them for a "I need something nice that someone else made" meal. Also excellent source for hot sauce.