iridescent-violet.bsky.social
Transfeminine middle-aged person from small town Ontario. Social democrat and interested in international relations and history.Justice for Ukraine and Palestine.
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all human categories are "artificial constructs" we can observe nature but anything we say about it will be filtered through our understanding. There is no God decreeing these definitions You are free to define your reality as you see fit but we all have to live in society where constructs exist
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several of the ones that do it are really popular too. Drives me nuts
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This is true although they will very strongly deny it. They believe themselves morally superior to "males" based on some essential female quality they were born with and they come up with other ways to express it because they know that sounds bad.
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matter of opinion I guess. I'm thinking it's easier to win over someone who is just apathetic about politics than a committed fascist
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Yeah I agree with you there. Americans need to reckon with race,gender and class even though those are hard conversations. We all do in the west but especially the US. Doing nothing to stop evil is only marginally better than supporting it
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I know it's more complicated than the binary but most of us are identified as something and there are aspects that can't really change. For me making peace with that is an important part of moving on and accepting the need to transition. Point is it isn't a limit or something to be hated
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even that horrible Nancy Mace person is trying to claim to be a feminist lol
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Man, cheapest ones I can get are $4 a dozen here. Americans get groceries so cheap compared to here
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I separate sex and gender in my mind. "Male" is sex- how my physical body was "assigned" when I was born. Nothing will change that but it shouldn't dictate how I have to live my life either or my identity. Biology is also to some degree mutable.
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nothing really "liberal" about that though it's just someone being being dumb and acting as petty as Trump acts.
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I think they mean different things to different people. To me male is just talking about your body it doesn't mean being a man or having to live as one (and of course we change our body to be more in line with what we want). I respect your point of view though.
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only an idiot would side with Hamas. You can simply be on the side of the Palestinian people's self-determination which is also against groups like Hamas who oppress Palestinians
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obviously some ppl use both "AMAB" and "male" as an insult and an invalidating thing and that's wrong but isn't the whole point that the biology we are born with should not determine how we live our lives? So what if you're AMAB?
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perhaps a slight disagreement here. I don't believe we ever *cease* to be male just because we modify our bodies to be more female. I understand it's a point of shame or dysphoria for some but what is the point of pretending we were born with a different body?
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a lot of people have the attitude that state terrorism is "different" if they even acknowledge what Israel or Russia does to civilians. Of course it's bullshit. It's the same thing whether a government or third party does it
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That was like my favourite song when I was 16 (still love it). Could also be about Trump if Trump had more self-awareness and a better vocabulary.
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Yeah I think trans people are an example of important parts of the socialization "not working" on some ppl. I think the 70s radfems were more trying to look at it as how culture impacts our views of gender in subtle but powerful ways which is very important but it went off the rails.
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Every time people accuse me of being an Evil Radfem Who Thinks Men Are Innately Evil, it's just so ironic.
No, I'm an evil radfem who knows cis men can be better and disavow misogny, and most choose not to bother.
That's worse.
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"I used to support universal healthcare and bodily autonomy til someone was mean to me on the internet!" utterly pathetic even if they did run into an overly snarky person on the left.
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most of the assholes are "bros" though. I think it's kind of clever.
makes them sound like Russians when that's what they seem to want to be so bad...
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or trying to make a better deal for Canada with JT hopefully.
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thing is most archetypes that we might associate with positive masculinity (ex. noble warrior, stoic protector, nurturing father) also have feminine versions but we as a society elevate the masculine and denigrate the feminine)
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I'd be interested to hear trans men's perspectives on how they view masculinity. It is honestly very hard for me to see it as anything but negative
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gender is socially constructed of course (art least this aspect of it). masculinity would be whatever society as a whole deems appropriate or ideal for men. Positive and negative in it although it's easier to see the negative with how a lot of men express it
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yes that is what I'm referring to not the way he moves and stuff. He clearly loathes women and the feminine. Not saying misogyny and masculinity always go together but they certainly do for him.
I think the anti-trans stuff with right wing men is also a fear of the feminine in themselves
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i think there is more than one model of masculinity or femininity especially if you bring different cultures into the mix. Trump embodies it at its most toxic and western/American.
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How so? I don't see him that way? He is like a caricature of what patriarchy says a tough man is supposed to be but it just comes across as weak and desperate because he doesn't have much to back it up with but obviously many still respond to it.
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obviously many do since Trump ran on a platform of toxic masculinity and racism and sadly got a majority of the male vote. feminine power certainly exists. Strength isn't "masculine". Weakness isn't "feminine". Trump is very weak but masculine.
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let us hope they can be free...
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let's not forget the cinematic masterworks that are Pieces and Basket Case
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It is like saying "there are no gay kids because kids don't have sex so they can't prove it to me!"
These people put absolutely no value in the feelings or happiness of others just want everyone to follow their "rules"
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I often wonder how my life would be different had I persisted in transitioning in the 90s rather than hiding it. It took a lot of courage especially back then. Never too late though I hope.
and you're right of course about not needing to prove anything to anyone.
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Best way to counter TERFism is with trans inclusive radical feminism. It uses the same framework and shows where the GCs are wrong and blinded by hatred. TIRFs were of great help to me in rejecting the TERFs.
(luckily I found a few who were very patient with my self-hate and stupidity)
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it'd be nice to be able to prove it to people like the GCs and know that it isn't just "something in my head" but then what if it is? Would my feelings for 30+ years be wrong because of some test? Pinning things to a biological basis is a mixed blessing even if it were possible for this.
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I wouldn't want to assign someone's identity to them even if it were possible. People usually figure it out we need to work on making these different identities more accepted in society moreso than worrying why they exist. Intersex people are also treated terribly still.
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Iran is doing transition now to gay cis men. I suppose you could also get data from that though it would be equally tainted.
My experience is also proof that this doesn't change as I did everything I possibly could to talk myself out of it and make myself hate the feelings in my GC phase
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Abusing children is abusing children. I don't care if he enjoyed it or not though I assume he did because why would you otherwise?You know Reimer ended up committing suicide? Really sad and horrible
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This is just promoting the same kind of gender essentialism GCs practice with different language IMO. We are complex creatures and the way we relate to our bodies and society is not well understood in many ways.there is infinite variation within "ASAB"
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I think his "experiment" is tainted by the abuse so we shouldn't use it like we certainly wouldn't use a Nazi experiment if their abuse of people obviously effected the results they claim to have got.
Some kind of gender identity probably exists but I don't want to go full pink and blue brains
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and yeah btw Money played sexual games with those kids as part of their "training". It came out later. He was a terrible person.