kfadams.bsky.social
Parent | Wife | PhD | Oregonian | Trans | Computer Scientist | Systems | Early 40s.
TL a mess of tech, science, politics, defense, humor, trans stuff, and games.
I’m awkward AF.
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What an unserious person. I will never be able to unsee the people suffocating in their own bodies because the virus melted their lungs. Whole families showing up together at the brink of death. Myself & my colleagues putting on garbage bags & months-old N95 to resuscitate them in hospital driveways
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I love living wife as a trans woman, I like seeing myself in the mirror and going “holy shit! That’s me!”
Every step I’ve taken has made me feel more alive, but if I had to *start* with 2 years of social transition I’d have died.
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But because that narrative was that you have to loathe yourself and your body to be “really trans” I just never let myself explore it. I just repressed and ignored it until I was almost non-functional but even then, I wouldn’t meet the dysphoric criteria.
I am so, so much happier and at peace now.
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This hits so hard. Thank you for sharing.
I was very similar, I didn’t hate myself, I just didn’t _care_.
I wasn’t suicidal but I _was_ a ball of depression and anxiety.
I knew I quietly wanted to be a girl since I was 11.
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Didn’t know about Amaya, but they were always kinda uh, concerning IMO.
When I was still on Twitter I ended up having to mute her(?) after multiple instances of pages long word salad.
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I wish cis people more widely understood that accepting and even embracing something is not the same as wanting it.
I wish I was born in the “right” body. I’d vastly prefer that.
But my existence as a trans person is preferable to trying to continue pretending I’m cis.
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In fact, the trans community I’m a part of was IMO excessively cautious about it. Almost irritatingly so. But I also understand _why_
At every opportunity they would remind me I didn’t have to transition, and only I could make the determination to do so.
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Dangly earrings bumping/rattling softly as I walk.
I know for some it’s not gendered, but for me it was a long held desire I kept at arms length.
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You know how many people told me I’m trans? Zero.
They told me only I could figure that out.
How many encouraged me to transition? Zero.
Most said I should carefully consider it and that it has high costs.
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I think my (slight) surprise is that usually their tactics seemed more directly deceptive (downplaying impact, moaning about protestors, lawsuits, buying off fence sitters) than distraction look over here at what the trans are doing.
But today I learned….
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Have you tried posing in your Speedo near it?
Birds and squirrels *love* that.
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We also are more likely to be neurodivergent and have anxiety around social interactions. So some self selection to boot.
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you can’t placate fascists with half-measures, because deep in their hearts they want the full measure and will forever find ways to return to it. you can only STOP them
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>.< JFC I work in AI and even I am like “noooppeee”.
There’s a reason we don’t let kids learning arithmetic use calculators.
The same should go for AI. To say nothing of the disaster AI checking tools are….
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It’s how we got to the “I identify as an attack helicopter hurrr durrr” bullshit.
There are no good answers, but pretending it’s not used against us is absolutely naive.
We’re even seeing a resurgence of people thinking being gay is a choice.
(See @erininthemorning.com recent comments on this)
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What shocks me is how I’ve watched relatively intelligent people tie themselves into knots to rationalize this insanity.
One of my in-laws is a rabid anti-vaxxer and will absolutely corner you to screech about it seeking validation.
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Yessssss.
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Minoxidil can “go systemic” if you’re doing it orally, or so I’ve heard but it’s meant to stimulate hair growth, as opposed to simple blocking DHT.
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Finasteride and minoxidil have wildly varying effects depending on the person. The few docs I’ve seen suggest the opposite on Fin as regards body hair, that it may reduce it. It’s often prescribe for trans feminine care so that? 🤷♀️
Obviously more reading and expertise than from someone like me.
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And let me be clear, I’m one of the lucky ones whose family and friends largely accepted me.
So shed no tears for me!
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I hate the pain that comes with it.
I hate that for so many it’s a choice of sacrificing their existing connections or sacrificing themselves.
We just want to live our lives and be who we are.
But it brings me hope to see stories like the above.
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But if a few people in masks start lighting stuff on fire? Then you have news. This creates an *enormous* attentional advantage towards the most violent and chaotic kind of protest.
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People really don't get that you do nonviolent protest specifically to generate THIS kind of thing.
It's not "be nonviolent so the cops don't hurt you"
It's "be nonviolent so the cops are seen HURTING NONVIOLENT PEOPLE"
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So you’re anti-science?
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Now it's out—that's how it happened.
Yes, it's serious, but not *as* serious as assuming (as I and others first did) that this specific crowd might realistically represent the army as a whole.
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Those things are more calorie dense than uranium….
But oh so delicious.
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I realize the law is shockingly fluid and complicated but how the ever loving fuck is this not a brain dead posse comitatus no-no?
Like, I’m not so naive as to think that’s all it takes to stop this administration but not a single challenge??!?
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Thissssss.
I always felt kinda icky asking anyone out. Like I was just mimicking how you’re supposed to act and do things without even an inkling of intuition as to why.
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Oh good.
Like… I’m not a law person so maybe one can chime in… but this seems like a brain dead posse comitatus no-no?