kfadams.bsky.social
Parent | Wife | PhD | Oregonian | Trans | Computer Scientist | Systems | Early 40s.
TL a mess of tech, science, politics, defense, humor, trans stuff, and games.
I’m awkward AF.
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E2?
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Mine had a bunch of 1s, that’s all I got haha
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It’s long since lost but I had my random ass ICQ number memorized for *years*
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“Uh-oh!’”
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Great, what are you doing about it?
Hint: a letter or yammering speech with no action is insufficient.
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Step 1) identify the problem accurately.
You finally did. Thank you.
Please don’t spend another 6 months dithering on step 2-DOING SOMETHING.
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Decided I was working from home the rest of the day after the site emergency response teams were summoned over the almost never used PA system.
Been at the same company ten years, and has literally never happened before.
On top of a bunch of other low grade ominous stuff….
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Awww, thank you!
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*a* selfie.
I swear I’m not completely illiterate…
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We don’t need answers to questions we already know the response to.
We need action.
What are you doing?
Not tomorrow, not a focus group.
What are you doing *right now*
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We were mutuals on Twitter before I left. They had a non-trivial following (10-20k) and routinely got into very public arguments with transphobes, flouted their legal credentials, etc.
It’s why a lot of folks are kind of WTF-ing as he (at the time) would go toe to toe a lot with detrans grifters.
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They could take a quiet path, clarify, and just exit stage left but nooopppeee.
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Maybe I’m just retconning, by I remember finding their frequent vitriol, even on our behalf at the time…. Odd and occasionally counterproductive.
I wonder if some of that was born of internal conflict which suuuuccckkks, but also way to throw us under the bus.
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I think once you hit your late 20s age gap is kinda irrelevant as long as both parties are open about what they’re doing. And even then at worst I might raise an eyebrow but it’s not my freaking concern.
And once you’re in your 30s, pffft, give it a rest guys.
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But you’re calling into question *life saving* care that that overwhelming majority of trans people approve of because of your mistake.
Please, leave us in peace.
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It sucks that you’re struggling with your identity, I think the entire trans community sympathizes deeply with that. I haven’t seen a single serious post that questions your hardship there…
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Make no mistake Hendrix, if you were just another quiet detransition, nobody would bat an eye, and we’d all wish you well.
But you spent years as a highly visible, vocal, and combative proponent of trans rights.
And now you’re trying to take the high ground while throwing us under the bus.
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Yayyy!
My wife has been working with one of the regional branch libraries in Portland and it’s her favorite part of her job.
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There are some dipshits, there always are, but the community seems much more collegial and willing to forgive and try.
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And I have vastly more active followers than I ever did on Twitter.
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Okay, I am totally stealing that phrase.
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What an unserious person. I will never be able to unsee the people suffocating in their own bodies because the virus melted their lungs. Whole families showing up together at the brink of death. Myself & my colleagues putting on garbage bags & months-old N95 to resuscitate them in hospital driveways
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I love living wife as a trans woman, I like seeing myself in the mirror and going “holy shit! That’s me!”
Every step I’ve taken has made me feel more alive, but if I had to *start* with 2 years of social transition I’d have died.
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But because that narrative was that you have to loathe yourself and your body to be “really trans” I just never let myself explore it. I just repressed and ignored it until I was almost non-functional but even then, I wouldn’t meet the dysphoric criteria.
I am so, so much happier and at peace now.
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This hits so hard. Thank you for sharing.
I was very similar, I didn’t hate myself, I just didn’t _care_.
I wasn’t suicidal but I _was_ a ball of depression and anxiety.
I knew I quietly wanted to be a girl since I was 11.