lauroraborealis.bsky.social
Writes a Parenting Ethics Newsletter at vitaincognita.substack.com The Mom with the snacks. Chasing a 4 year old.
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I want to know what adding depth to your presence means... Yuck!
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Mr. Probz Waves... There was someone who made a 1 hour loop of it for YouTube that I'm convinced was just for me.
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Yep, my assumption is that behavioral resistance happens to some kids but isn't a good enough reason to beat ourselves up about timing... We just pay attention our kids and look for windows when learning can work!
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It always seems like a know-your-kid thing... We tried too early for ours because the book we read made it seem like he'd be behaviorally resistant after a certain age. But because we started early, we had lots of time to try again when it made sense to return to pullups... Just seems very ymmv!
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It is stressful to consider how quickly and catastrophically that top would malfunction on my form. For her sanity, I hope it's secretly glued in place or something.
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Yes please. I finally deleted my bird app account and I don't want to be tempted to reactivate despite my desperate need for the memes.
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You're right, and you're close enough to the era of It's All So Difficult to take some serious joy from even marginally difficult trips. Recent challenges seem to fuel so much of the pleasure of new parenting seasons.
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Like... This is HIS playbook. Democrats have fully consented to the name-calling industrial complex. What unbearably smug nonsense. 🙁
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YIMBYBNTPIBY (yes in my backyard, but not today, please I'm begging you)
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I think you can write through a generous lens! Assume they tried their best and that they care about your experience, and you'll be fine. I used to write a lot of book reviews and one lens I sometimes used was answering, "what about me made this less good? Who might have liked it better, and why?"
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*cautiously sluts across the street*
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Similarly, Hawk Nelson was my gateway out of CCM exclusivity because they seemed to only be contractually obligated to mention Him once per album and were still sold on the shelves of Lifeway!!
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No one will mind the lack of dress shirt if they are focused on your minotaur mask.
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... Living? 😳
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I have recently developed 1 of these friends and they are perfect!!!! It's basically 80% texting about what's going on and 20% halfheartedly wondering if our kids could swing a play date on a given day, emotionally. Then we don't do the play date! It's great!
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Sort of the opposite of longing for the mines, I think!
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To answer your actual question, I neither want the feeling of friends nor do I want new friends. I want, as much as possible, to not be perceived. But a small quantity of entertaining and similarly-situated buddies seems like an adequate consolation prize if I must be perceived.
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My Mom FB groups are full of people introducing themselves in intricate ways to make friends. I have accidentally amassed perfectly adequate friends just by, like, being a sympathetic face at the park while other people's kids are being as wild as mine? Like, we just give each other the same 🤷♀️
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"I did finally got tired" is the kind of typo precipitated by the circumstances of the sentence. Actual poetry.
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Through some kinda magic, you posted this pep talk to me on my literal birthday, and to have one of my favorite writers/comedians tell me "looking good!" at a time when I'm working so hard on creating my new, better track record with my partner is... well, a great present. Thanks!
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Her vibe was that mother's Day is very much about the giving birth process. Which I fully believe is crazy difficult, but seems to be one highly challenging part of the wider parenting journey. I bless and release her to the many, many comments she will receive for her hot take. 🤣
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On the polar opposite, I saw someone saying adoptive and foster moms being celebrated as an example of inclusivity run amok... Tis the season for hot takes aplenty...
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I bet the Woke Marxist Pope won't invite the militia to the ball tho... Even if they are excellent company.
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Pope Princess I
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Same with discipline! When my kid does something unacceptable in public, I want to sneakily text all nearby adults and say, "I saw that, but if he gets bored and stops without any attention, it's way better than the huge row from stopping him." Lots of times, we're just rationing our intervention!
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Things are honestly much better! Disappointed to report that sobriety has improved every area of life. 🤣 I just like your take on things and we can all use some pep.
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I'd love a pep talk for coming to terms with having been the unhelpful, sometimes actively mean partner in my marriage after I've made some serious steps to not to be this way in the future. I'm already making changes, but a pep talk about moving forward while reckoning with what I've done? Thanks
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It has all had the MLM scamminess of crypto to me too.
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So far, I've mostly seen people use it to fill the gaps in their own knowledge or speed, and I fear their judgment for what AI content is high-quality enough is sometimes bad. I'm intrigued for how it can/does help people who are highly skilled and pretty speedy at content generation themselves.
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I tend not to weigh in this way, but the inflection would be different if I did. "Wow, my kid doesn't do this thing!" ( Me, feeling shocked and pleased because he does all the other baffling and odd and hard to handle things; he just doesn't have cover-the-board bingo yet, lol)
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Being organized. Like, organized houses look nice, and I like knowing where things are... but I in particular want to set each object down exactly at the spot where I no longer want to hold it. I functionally live in piles, and I only correct this behavior due to social pressure when hosting others.
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Yeah. I wish early-career folks could see it as a season where you are indistinguishable from low-competence, low-effort workers until you prove otherwise... There's no reason for employers to posit that you're a diamond in the rough, even if they ought to have better workplace practices. 🤣
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Yeah, it's a weird flex to look at career advice & choose to obey only what makes you less helpful/available/valuable at a time when no one has any reason to trust you have those traits! Earning trust doesn't require 90 hr workweeks, but it does require maximizing the time you do work.
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Yeah, I just slipped into 344th place in line on Libby, so I'm also curious for someone who has already read it to spill what they think.
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Yeah. I just worry the only people motivated by this would be wildly shortsighted... As your point about costs proves. 😳
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The timing is so creepy. The existing tax credits for children are so much more valuable than this, and they don't motivate people. It scares me who would find this motivating.
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Yeah, it seems like it'd be fairly simple to require churches to disclose how much money goes into staff pockets, and tax above a certain amount, prosecute fraud if they don't disclose... just figure out the real areas for fraud, and keep things simple for the churches operating on a shoestring...
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Lol fair 😂😂😂😂 not me over here being like, "EXPLAIN YOUR GENIUS BABY"
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I know your post is about the humor of the request, but it really does highlight this difference that I see but can't articulate between some kids' communication and my own kid. Your kid sounds fun to talk to though. :)
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My 5yo son can articulate words, socialize, and ask for stuff. But no one can talk to me about this kind of language use: he's never asked an abstract question/curiosity. All his curiosity is physical/shown through exploring, not talking. Do girls this age do it more than boys? I'm so fascinated.
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If it rides, I lives is a top tier rewatch. An unsung hero of the vlogbros canon
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Lol unperceived. What even is this phone keyboard.
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Love this rule! I've recently lost 25% of my body weight over about a year, and I'm so pleased by how few people have said anything. Love to be I perceived.
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Is it less bad if it's an awesome looking outfit that they mention, or just as bad as a body comment? I never mention bodies but I often feel torn when an outfit looks great and I want to tell them but also don't want to be weird...
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Yeah, I work fine w/ 3 hours managing my kid's needs per day. Between preschool and growing skills, the days are often fine! If he's having a fairly dependent day, like a sick day, or preK is closed, I remember the 4th and additional hours serving his basic needs/countless demands mostly cost me.
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Yeah, I have to assume this is averaging in people whose kids are 10+ and just... Exist and do stuff between school and bed, with minimal caregiving.
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Baja Blast Depression. Cucumber Melon Depression. Sour Cream and Onion Depression.