A simple question to ask yourself (/myself): what are you doing actively/ regularly to become - healthier - stronger but also - smarter - funnier - friendlier There are so many playbooks for the former, but what’s the accepted wisdom/strategies for the latter? - ThreadSky

threepointone.bsky.social • 98 days ago

A simple question to ask yourself (/myself): what are you doing actively/ regularly to become
- healthier
- stronger
but also
- smarter
- funnier
- friendlier

There are so many playbooks for the former, but what’s the accepted wisdom/strategies for the latter?

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kentcdodds.com•97 days ago

spending time with people eating good food and doing active things

kentcdodds.com•97 days ago

My wife and kids mostly fill this for me. I also do this with friends.

pck.rocks•98 days ago

There's a dude from India named Sid who had a few thoughts, some decent literature around it too.

threepointone.bsky.social•98 days ago

"Sid" lol

ianjones.info•98 days ago

I was told by my former boss to join an improv class to become funnier/friendlier. He paid for it too. Jury’s still out on if it worked but it was a lot of fun

dizzyd.esq•98 days ago

I’m getting funnier, I hope, because I hang around @sarahedo.bsky.social :)

sarahedo.bsky.social•98 days ago

Dizzy IS getting WAY funnier. I don’t believe I deserve the credit though

rosnovsky.us•98 days ago

This solution may not be very scalable ;)

nirinarabeson.fr•98 days ago

For the last three points I’ve had great success focusing on listening skills, how to ask questions to people and generally letting others talk more than myself.

alexz90.bsky.social•98 days ago

others seems valid, but can you really become funnier doing something ? I rarely see this trait changes over time

parth.dev•98 days ago

Ok so then what are you doing to become harder better faster and stronger?

betes.bsky.social•98 days ago

It’s the most difficult easy thing to do. Be your own champion.

rachsmith.com•98 days ago

Being friendlier is something I’m consciously working on all the time, especially in settings such as my kids school/sports. At some point in my 30s I realised there was a repeating pattern across my life of people mistaking my shyness/social anxiety & RBF for being a bitch who dislikes everyone.

rachsmith.com•98 days ago

So that looks like smiling and saying hello to everyone whether we’re actually friends or not. Introducing myself. Asking people questions. All stuff I find hard. It has totally paid off though.

georgerodier.com•98 days ago

I think the answer is the same as how the playbooks for the first section were discovered:

Try things, find what works and what doesn’t, iterate

silvenon.com•96 days ago

Smarter can mean a lot of things, but it sounds like you’re referring to social skills in general.

For me regularly spending time with people helps a lot, along with hearing about spending time with people.

And, unlike healthiness, judging your own character is kinda up to other people. Tricky…

silvenon.com•96 days ago

For “funnier” I watch comedy, like to analyze why something is funny (or isn’t) and also occasionally perform open mic standup, which is great for practicing creativity in getting some point across, if comedy is your thing.

threepointone.bsky.social•98 days ago

Is “posting” a valid answer?

rtorr.com•98 days ago

Be the playbook (I just made it up and it sounds smart)

joodaloop.com•98 days ago

i became at least two of those things through posting

retropragma.bsky.social•98 days ago

You inspired me to make this gist 😂

https://gist.github.com/aleclarson/a6fb4cd50bcdcadcd69dd001f0e30c0e

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