Own your shit. Keep growing, healing. Apologize. Don’t hold grudges. Work really, really, really hard to see things from their perspective even when you don’t wanna. Make the boring stupid stuff fun when you can. Laugh a lot. Use your words. There’s no wrong way to marriage if it works for you both. - ThreadSky

theradr.bsky.social • 99 days ago

Own your shit. Keep growing, healing. Apologize. Don’t hold grudges. Work really, really, really hard to see things from their perspective even when you don’t wanna. Make the boring stupid stuff fun when you can. Laugh a lot. Use your words. There’s no wrong way to marriage if it works for you both.

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What’s the secret to a happy marriage?

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danampatton.bsky.social•99 days ago

I think that last part is really important. Outside of abuse, every marriage is different. Like parenting, every child is different and no advice works for everyone. What we’ve done in 23 years wouldn’t work for every couple.

andyfraser.bsky.social•99 days ago

I’d say “don’t think love and connection is like some magic backyard that never needs work. Rake the leaves, plant the flowers and prune and weed and fertilize and enjoy it. But don’t expect it to do all that on its own”

roby-zz-dahlia.bsky.social•99 days ago

A really good bit of advice I heard about a happy marriage was to "Love other things together."

jenwith1n.bsky.social•99 days ago

Not a secret and won’t guarantee happiness, but I realized the other day my husband and I are constantly thanking each other for things and I don’t remember hearing any adults doing that when I was growing up. I highly recommend it!

theradr.bsky.social•99 days ago

We do this too. And I thank my kids also, just as the same “respect a human” thing. Here’s hoping the next gen learns new ways of doing it.

catus14.bsky.social•99 days ago

Purely anecdotal on the basis of 59 years experience, I would suggest it helps if you love each other from the beginning.

andwrit.bsky.social•98 days ago

This is pretty much me this week vacationing in Florida with my 91-yr-old dad.

lazartagwolf.bsky.social•99 days ago

and don’t repeatedly hiss “what in the goddamned fuck?” over and over when you see that wet laundry has failed to make its journey into the dryer again.
That’s passive aggressive.
Or so I’ve been told.

sheilafram.bsky.social•99 days ago

And restrict the larger than allowed carry-on baggage from each other’s family at the counter Hello every time there’s calls & get-togethers.

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