Trans girl comphet is pretty damn real, it delayed my transition for a significant time because the idea of "trans woman who is a lesbian" was just Not Accessible to me
Comphomo? Touch grass. Realize that "trans woman who is a lesbian" breaks cishet brains the first time you bring it up.
Comphomo? Touch grass. Realize that "trans woman who is a lesbian" breaks cishet brains the first time you bring it up.
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not even kidding lol
I had a female fiancé at the time and was incredibly puzzled as to why he thought that was relevant.
And now... Though I've discovered I'm bi I feel like too many men find me attractive.
Then years later I realize I'm demiromantic and don't really wanna date people like that lmao
And so did my other one.
Separately.
They were right in my case but come on now
I was so surprised I had to ask why that was relevant, and explain that gender and sexuality are separate.
She was the first to know and has known most our relationship?????
My response: “eww, no, why would I do that?”
“But you’ll have sex with women who used to be men?”
Like, trans women couldn't even medically transition with a doctor if they weren't into men until the mid 2000s...
No Mom it wasn't
It fucked up gender research theory for decades before it was exposed. 🤷😢
yet some part of me was still like “…it me?”
And then for twenty years I didn’t. 🙃
(your display name made me lol, btw, A+)
I haven't thought about Sluggy Freelance in ages, sheesh
Even the most supportive cis people assume trans woman = fucking men
I literally thought I was a lesbian until age 40 and was on hormones for a year at that point. When I was 14 I came out as trans, in 1996, *and everyone assumed I had to be into women* because who would bother doing it if they were a gay man? Some of us get told we must be gay women!
Still yet, despite studying lesbian like a theology: I still get a flurry of fear when I have to describe it to a cis person.
So funny, that what was sent to me as a bit turned into my reality years down the line.
https://youtu.be/2nPeB1Tst78
short version is that before I transitioned I felt a lot of shame about my attraction to women. and then when I did transition I had to lie and say I was strictly into men to get HRT
Het trans are ABSOLUTELY valid in their choices, but it’s not for me
"That's just straight with extra steps" 🫠
It’s part of the fascist “The enemy is both strong & weak” internal contradiction. 🤷
but most of the people I was coming out to were gen z coworkers
I didn't think I could be into guys until age 40, one year into HRT. Took me forever to come to terms I might be bi.
Also I cracked her egg and she went t4t straight-passing in college.
it's just the "let men be masculine" joke again
https://bsky.app/profile/jessothomson.co.uk/post/3lfpdfmnx6k2t
This has to be one of the bleakest sentences I've ever read.
This entire case is four doctors discussing the pathology of a trans woman who had already been raped multiple times in a men's prison and whether women like her should be forced to go through the same.
I'm interested on bullshit transphobic medical arguments, but at the same time don't know if I want to read that nightmare fuel.
and it kinda felt like he didn't think we had any internality to begin with
"Mom, I'm trans."
Moment of silence.
"So when did you realize you like men?"
She's better now, but it absolutely broke her for a moment.
"I'm guessing you like men?"
"No, I have a girlfriend."
"Oh, so you're technically a lesbian?"
"...I *am* a lesbian."
https://www.howtogeek.com/devops/what-is-hsts-and-how-do-you-set-it-up/
(or inversely, show opposition to said gayness via emasculation)