Religion pays a part sometimes, no doubt, but not always. I think the worst part, for me at least as I got older, is that no one believed me, not because of religion, but because no parent wants to think they failed their child at that level. So we move on.
I donβt understand these parents, I was raised catholic - no longer, but if this was my child I would have burnt the church to the ground and told everyone why
I did not shed a tear when my parents died. Over the years I have tried to talk about my experiences, and usually I was told I shouldnβt say such things because they were my parents and gave me life. This is how abuse is perpetuated.
My father is a Tyrant. Still, he lives by his LIES and wickedness. He use 2 beat our mother & us, and sexually assaulted 2 of us, he comes from a horribly dysfunctional family, only one of his 5 siblings was ok. That's because she fled. We don't owe them forgiveness or love, we owe it to ourselves.βοΈ
I don't understand how parents can walk away from their children
Your children are your number one priority
They are you and you have one job... you protect them and nurture them
People that don't do that are monsters
Happens more than people think, and the parents act the same way, they refuse to believe that '' The Good Father'' would never resort to that kind of behaviour, so they try yo beat the devil out of you, but instead they beat your love of them out of you.
My uncle molested me for 5 yrs and my mother invited him to my wedding knowing this. She knew I did not want him there. The worst person on the happiest day of my life thus far. She didnβt want the family drama. We are no contact since. she doesnβt know my beautiful children that I protect fiercely
Iβve been to Sunday school twice, dragged there by my paternal grandmother. I knew it was all bullshit when I was 8. My parents supported my decision to never return.
My Dad recalls, "the older boys at CYO told me to avoid Fr. Bill cause he, liked little boys. I didn't even know what that meant then, but knew from their tone it was bad. I avoided him & was ok, but if I'd ever been molested my Mom would have backhanded me down the stairs for DARING
I got the same violence from my father daily. You are right about no one cares. Forgiveness, give positive thoughts mediated on to change the negative anger and betrayal thoughts. Takes a lot of time to reprogram ourselves. Still had problems with authority. No nice people in military or business
No. I really didn't.
The author is anonymous. I did not assume it was you. It also could be fiction but written by someone with empathy or knowledge of such a thing. I took no notice of who posted it ... my eyes went to the bottom of the letter first. Sorry about that.
I think that happened a lot in the past.
Hopefully we've grown since then.
But from personal experience, kids today are very quick to call the police about "assault".
My dad was at the receiving end, when he told an 11 yo to stop vandalizing a newly restored medieval pump.
Didn't touch him. /2
Kid ran to the police and reported him for assault.
30 minutes later the police was at my dad's door, asking him why he had assaulted a kid. Which he would never, ever do.
When he took them to the pump and told them what happened, PO apologized and said they had to follow it up because it was a kid.
Sympathy and understanding for the victims whose lives resemble this article. I hope you find the support to cope and a future full of happiness with someone who loves you.
I had a catholic friend whose mother wanted her brother to be an altar boy. The dad and uncle told the priest there better not be any funny business reported back to them by the kid, or they would pay the priest a visit and beat the snot out if him. The kid had no issues. They all knew. Crazy.
Right? Where was Jesus when physically and emotionally abusive parents ran the show for years? Watching you siblings get physically injured by a parent. Where was Jesus. This Iβve never figured out.
And this story is all too common. So many people have been hurt by predators and pedophiles especially by those who were supposed to be the good guy. Itβs atrocious.
He raped my mom when she was seventeen (in California), giving me my sister, and again three years later (as an adult) to bring my brother and me into the world.
This happened to my step father as well, exactly how you described it. He had already lost his father to a shipping accident. His mother was a devout Catholic. In those days priests reigned supreme and children had no rights, nothing. I hope you are doing well.
Why are people wrongly assuming that the person who posted this was the author of the letter? Itβs clearly a photo of someone elseβs letter to a newspaper. Nowhere did the post say βI wrote this anonymous letter then took a pic of it when it was publishedβ.
Horrifying, so sorry this happened. Parents should always listen to their child. Especially if it is something that would clearly be upsetting the child.
I can relate to this entire piece. As a kid of the 60's, alter boy, an attempt by a Priest to "groom" was thwarted, BY ME! I ran home from an event where the Priest made an early move. I was 11. My Father did not believe me. Years later I discovered that many of my school mates were abused.
Happens way too often, children abused by Church, Camp, Coach, Trainer etc. It all starts with grooming young children.
Parents who don't believe their children, double the pain for these kids. So listen to your kids. It may come out in small doses, but listen!
That was standard 1950s
Sadly still going on
Priest molesting children every day
They will not even give the kids a break during Lent
Long considered just another perk of the job
The violence my mother tolerated from my father and step father to herself and me and my siblings scarred us all for life and 3 out of 4 of us utterly failed to create a loving family and be adaptive enough to be employed for life
I alone dodged that bullet somehow
If the alt right actually gave two fucks about kids they would be banning mass, not drag story time. I would never trust a religious leader around kids, and I was raised catholic.
Our archbishop was found guilty of pedophilia. As soon as i heard he'd been accused of it i asked my son if the AB had ever touched him because he'd served at the altar with the POS.
Any parent that doesn't do that is a POS just like any parent who would disown their kid for being gay is one too.
Sunny days wouldn't be special if it wasn't for rain
Joy wouldn't feel so good if it wasn't for pain
Death gotta be easy, 'cause life is hard
It'll leave you physically, mentally, and emotionally scarred
- 50
I can relate to this type of betrayal. I experienced a lot of it growing up. I cried when my mom died but it was the death of my dog two weeks earlier that tore the deeper wound in my soul. He never once betrayed me. Never did anything but provide me with love and healing. I miss him so much
Just because people can create babies, does not make them good parents. Plenty of shitty parents out there. Sad for this poor child who experienced that π₯
Yes I think of it as betrayal as well. It was pretending she didnβt see. It was not paying attention because she βhad so much trust in himβ or at time just plain looking the other way. It was betrayal!
I went through the Catholic education system in Ireland.
I am very happy in my paganism now and I cannot wait until this last vestige of the Roman Empire finally dies in my country.
Totally understand. I lost my parents to MAGA. I talk to them about the weather. I initiate nothing else and deflect any stupid talk about Canadians booing our anthem they never cared about before, etc. They are insane and died to me about 20yrs ago. Their soulless corpses still shamble the earth.
Who is on their side? Sinead OβConber had to find that answer from the Irish Catholic Church, and the people worldwide. Not too many on her side. More children than you know have been molested or raped by pedophiles wearing priest cassocks. They get caught they get sent to another place and no past
While the Archbishop of NY gave the invocation at the GOP convention. Disgusting. Probably as the NY Archdiocese has to sell properties to pay for the rampant abuse. I guess Dolan figures Trump will bail him out and thank goodness Roe overturned- as if he cares about life.
Similar thing happened to my sister and brother only it was our fatherβs friends. They and the rest of our siblings can never forget. The old bastard now has dementia and is sitting in a nursing home abandoned. Not a single one of us (we are 8) will go to see him.
This is exactly how the Republicans in the US behave. Trump is an abuser on a national level. He has battered, threatened and bullied his party into the same behavior as a battered woman or molested child. He
Represents the dark side of America.
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Devastating
And so much of it went on in the uk!!
Is it still??
Sadly it's more common in a time when it should have ended.
I'm sorry for you too. SURVIVORS ALWAYS BREAK THE CYCLE. Victims continue the horrible acts...
I'm so sorry.
I know how you feel.
Your children are your number one priority
They are you and you have one job... you protect them and nurture them
People that don't do that are monsters
Wish I could offer a great big hug, strong shoulder, and open ear to that person.
The author is anonymous. I did not assume it was you. It also could be fiction but written by someone with empathy or knowledge of such a thing. I took no notice of who posted it ... my eyes went to the bottom of the letter first. Sorry about that.
You never know what someone has gone through. My heart breaks at this.
They need support so they can heal.
Hopefully we've grown since then.
But from personal experience, kids today are very quick to call the police about "assault".
My dad was at the receiving end, when he told an 11 yo to stop vandalizing a newly restored medieval pump.
Didn't touch him. /2
30 minutes later the police was at my dad's door, asking him why he had assaulted a kid. Which he would never, ever do.
When he took them to the pump and told them what happened, PO apologized and said they had to follow it up because it was a kid.
I mean, Jesus clearly allowed it to happen....
Almost....
He raped my mom when she was seventeen (in California), giving me my sister, and again three years later (as an adult) to bring my brother and me into the world.
Guess what they're up to?
He's abusing the world stage, all of us, 24/7
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/oct/24/trump-nyt-ad-george-conway-pac
ALWAYS believe your child.
I never did.
I never thought of her as a mother either.
Parents who don't believe their children, double the pain for these kids. So listen to your kids. It may come out in small doses, but listen!
Sadly still going on
Priest molesting children every day
They will not even give the kids a break during Lent
Long considered just another perk of the job
The Keepers. Maryland school abuse
Spotlight. Boston
All over the world
Predators!
I alone dodged that bullet somehow
https://thehill.com/blogs/blog-briefing-room/news/464357-investigation-finds-nearly-1700-priests-accused-of-child-sexual/
Any parent that doesn't do that is a POS just like any parent who would disown their kid for being gay is one too.
Do we even have to ask if the parents are Republican?! π€£ππ€£
St James Church, Brighton destroyed so many lives. No wonder the church was burnt to the ground.
Joy wouldn't feel so good if it wasn't for pain
Death gotta be easy, 'cause life is hard
It'll leave you physically, mentally, and emotionally scarred
- 50
I feel I was slapped, twice.
I am very happy in my paganism now and I cannot wait until this last vestige of the Roman Empire finally dies in my country.
This echoed all the gaslighting from my MALE abusers, and corroborated them as correct, and me as deserving of it.
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I am on your side!!!
Represents the dark side of America.
That is Ukraine!