I’ve been seeing people post about how none of their cis friends have checked in on them and actually I’m fine with not receiving messages about how “nothing this administration says can dim your light 💖” or whatever
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But like when I “check in” with a friend because I know they have something going on it just means “I asked them how they’re doing with the thing BEFORE I started bombarding them with ‘help me choose which shirt goes with these pants 1/11’” or whatever
posts about “to any trans people reading this: you are SOOO valid” just sound like they’re fundamentally misunderstanding the problem to me and scan like the poster isn’t planning on doing anything more substantive than having warm fuzzy feelings
Lol, just now seeing this thread. It seems kind of silly to ask how people are doing, when it's all just a scale of bad-to-terrible. In the words of George W, just send cash.
oh I thought it was a response to this thread and thought it was hilarious but if it wasn’t that’s even MORE hilarious and making people laugh is honestly the best possible friendship right now so
Just hilariously timed!! Had a balance in my Venmo, thought I'd spread cheer (I was super annoyed by all the cis people reposting the "you are valid" image today, as though you need me to condescendingly confirm your existence)
update one of my friends saw this and venmoed me $10 with a (tongue-in-cheek) message about how valid I am so it turns out there IS an acceptable way to say that 😂
Seriously, like maybe this is cold, but it does me no good. The thought is nice, but "hey I'm thinking of you" when something bad happens to queer people makes me feel a little weird at best 😅
What I'd love is if they started just being consistently louder with their allyship
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if they are actually your friends, are you not in fairly constant contact anyway?
am I having another "words mean things" moment or
As someone else I follow put it earlier today:
What I'd love is if they started just being consistently louder with their allyship