Remember when we all earnestly wrote little blog posts about the difference between a kink and a fetish, and the language continued to shift without caring about that particular kind of prescriptive specificity?
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I understand language evolves but I don't really understand the meaning of the terms anymore. I had to drop 'fetish' entirely when someone whose life is kink listed off all their fetishes trying to narrow mine down - I have a paraphilia, and it's not those. That comes with its own assumptions though
There's some solace in the DSM recognizing the difference between paraphilia and paraphilic disorder, but it's not much, especially when it 'recognizes' like 7 paraphilias, none of which apply. Dancing around clarifying that it's not damaging while also establishing that it's no one else's business.
I think it is incredibly useful we acknowledge that for some folks this is mandatory and for others this is optional. But these days I do that conversation through the asexual spectrum discourse.
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