In college I wrote an essay on a sort of funny intergenerational food pattern in my family: grandma hated cooking, never really taught my mom; mom was solo parenting an extremely picky eater, was more interested in survival than skill; taught myself to cook online. Seems kinda common now! - ThreadSky

vanderhoofy.bsky.social • 57 days ago

In college I wrote an essay on a sort of funny intergenerational food pattern in my family: grandma hated cooking, never really taught my mom; mom was solo parenting an extremely picky eater, was more interested in survival than skill; taught myself to cook online. Seems kinda common now!

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kbrmemphis.bsky.social•57 days ago

It’s all relative…more important to be balanced than stylish …

kbrmemphis.bsky.social•52 days ago

vanderhoofy.bsky.social•57 days ago

Lots of fascinating little broader socioeconomic nodes in our story here: grandma (Black, born in the 1920s) was raised on a farm where she learned pretty traditional ways of frugal living, involving growing your own food!then she went to college, rare and super cool

vanderhoofy.bsky.social•57 days ago

By the time my mom (Black, born in 1958) enters the picture, my grandma is working full time and doing cooking and cleaning for a husband and three kids. They had occasional housekeeping help but otherwise she was on her own and she *hated* it. Relied on prepared/canned/frozen foods

vanderhoofy.bsky.social•57 days ago

My mom went to college and lived on her own for 20 years before I came along. It was a weight conscious age, and she has always been a low-fat grazer rather than a “make a meal” person. Still is! She’s pretty picky compared to me now, honestly. Does not self-identify as a cook at all.

vanderhoofy.bsky.social•57 days ago

When I come along, my mom has a cool but taxing professional job! Due to the circumstances of my birth, she’s pretty much on her own logistically but, thankfully, not financially. One small problem is that I am a NIGHTMARE to feed from the beginning

vanderhoofy.bsky.social•57 days ago

I take a long time to wean because I’m allergic to milk solids in formula. We’re talking Exorcist style vomiting, a lot. There’s other GI stuff than won’t get figured out for years. I come out of that with a pretty serious food aversion, and only eat white foods until like age 8

vanderhoofy.bsky.social•57 days ago

At this point, my mom is convinced I hate her cooking. Has conversations with my pediatrician that are like “so long as she’s getting these nutrients and this much caloric intake, please do not worry about it.” I will, of course, eat fast food (only chicken and fries and plain hamburger buns)

dmgreene.bsky.social•57 days ago

Similar generational pattern here, though more ethnic white immigrants. Paternal grandmother was just happy to be here, celebrated by not cooking / using canned everything. Maternal had 12 kids so food was fuel. Mom largely inherited that, but for baking. PBS + blogs taught me and I got hooked.

dmgreene.bsky.social•57 days ago

Spouse and I have also gotten into looking through 70s ads and cookbooks to understand just how much diet culture destroyed our moms. I swear my mom smoked mostly as an appetite suppressant. MIL showed us a TaB commercial last week that shook me to my very core.

vanderhoofy.bsky.social•57 days ago

Oh 100 percent, I really think we cannot fully understand how much a couple heart disease studies and media hype caused American eating patterns to change drastically in 15 years! Affluence got rid of frugal regional foodways, diet culture got rid of American foodways altogether

adownie.bsky.social•57 days ago

My grandparents learned to cook in the depression, so they overcooked everything, which got passed down to my parents.

My mom experimented with magazine recipes, to varying levels of success.

I had to learn from cookbooks and TV cooking shows. Traveling overseas really kicked me into gear though.

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