Celebrating "women and non-binary people" on Intl Women's Day and only including afab enbys while excluding amab enbys shows that someone thinks nonbinary ppl are really our assigned genders and I don't want to be "celebrated" that way.
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Cis women are especially awful about this, but I've even gotten that treatment from binary trans women. It makes me feel violently dysphoric to be treated as "one of the girls" simply because I'm not a man. What part of "non-binary" is not clicking here?? Binarism is unchallenged among trans people.
That's why I prefer "Feministischer Kampftag" in German. The term has become increasingly popular in recent years because it includes people who also suffer from patriarchy but are not women. I don't know if there's an equivalent in English. The literal translation is 'Feminist Combat Day'.
God that sounds nice. I end up putting myself in the woman bucket a lot because when it comes to patriarchy that's where I relate. I'm not...idk super ridgid about only being enby, not sure how to describe it? I still align w/ and want women's spaces bc cishet men won't be there. It's conflicting.
As someone who has been abused/assaulted by several cishet women, I don't feel any less safe around cishet men than I do cishet women. The last pro-choice rally I went to, 100% of the men there were on the pro-choice side, and the anti-choice side was all women.
Making spaces for "anyone but cishet men" requires "passing" queer and trans men to out themselves when they might not feel comfortable. Heck, it does the same for trans women who aren't out as women yet, still being perceived as cis/het "men."
Sex and gender segregation tend to hurt trans people of all types, and the idea that women are more safe than men has given a lot of terrible women access to vulnerable people.
It's your identity. I'm an endo cis woman, but I totally get, that identity isn't rigid and can change. You don't have to present as or be anything other than who you are. Feeling or identifying 'womanly' sometimes, doesn't make you less non binary.
If people want to celebrate nonbinary people, nonbinary people's day is the 14th of July. It also happens to be Bastille Day which is pretty rad for us
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