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nimthedragon.bsky.social • 25 days ago

This painfully relateable to me. Not so much in a professional context as in a personal one.

I'm sorry people have treated you so terribly. No one deserves that. Ever.

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mioko-san.bsky.social•25 days ago

oh, it goes both ways, professional AND personal

i think the funniest habbit i have is 'mio can't communicate'

- hey how have you-
- what is it? what do you want?
- well uh... how did you know?
- it's always that. been like that for two decades

nimthedragon.bsky.social•25 days ago

Just so I understand the last bit right, it's people assuming anytime you talk to them only because you want something? Or the other way around?

And sucks to hear it happens in both contexts that is just awful, I'm so sorry :<

mioko-san.bsky.social•25 days ago

most of the time I was a bucket for someone's emotional outlet. happens when you're an empathetic person. but when I needed to talk, most of the time, I was not understood or dismissed

I changed my way of approaching conversations and few people remained, those I now consider friends

nimthedragon.bsky.social•25 days ago

It's upsetting to me how commonly that happens. I've had the same kind of conversation just yesterday, and also had it plenty of times in the past.
It can be the style of communication, or growing a thicker skin, or simply enforcing boundaries.

None of that devalues you as a person though.

mioko-san.bsky.social•25 days ago

there's a sick kind of entertainment in establishing boundaries and watching people seethe and hiss at that

self-respect is important. I learned to say 'no' and it was the best medicine to saving my own energy from all this

nimthedragon.bsky.social•25 days ago

That's on them though. If they don't learn how to cope by themselves that's a basic life skill. It's especially atrocious if they just want to whine about the smallest inconvenience.

If a no is too rough, then "hey I'd love to be there but I really don't have the space right now" is a good option.

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