It's normal I think to always have that grief over what could have been, and worry about should've would've could've... But living in the past just holds us back. We gotta feel it, but keep moving to enjoy the present yanno?
If I can climb outta the pit I dug for myself, and learn how to be nicer to myself, anybody can. Just takes time. I've come to accept life is just about healing, growing, & experiencing. I'll do it forever, so will you and anyone else that decides they don't want to waste more time.
It is for me. I got caught in the cycle of sort of Punishing myself for not being proud of myself, Until I hated myself for making myself miserable, so I continued to do it. There was a choice, the suffering I was familiar with or the risk of Change. Which would lead to either worse suffering OR joy
Yeah. I feel that fr sometimes
.. BUT... We wouldn't be the people we are today. That's some other reality, not this one. We can mourn who we could've been, but we gotta be proud we survived too. & Know that some of the things we love the most about now, we wouldn't have if things were different
Once we're free of the past, we take control of our future. We decided it will be better than the last decade, so damn right it will be. Maybe our 40s will be even better than 30s, who knows, but we're gonna find out:)
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and therapy + sucking it up
“Violent outbursts.”
“General sluttiness.”
“Thanks to denial, I’m immortal!”
"nobody 'wins' at life. The finish line of the race is death. I'll get there when I get there."
I don't know who said it to me first, but it's really helped me ever since.
Thats kinda was what got me at first into this position...
.. BUT... We wouldn't be the people we are today. That's some other reality, not this one. We can mourn who we could've been, but we gotta be proud we survived too. & Know that some of the things we love the most about now, we wouldn't have if things were different