Agreed except when politeness is actually passive aggressive self defence tactics while trying to figure out the quickest exit route to remove myself from an asshole’s idea of “reality”. Yikes!
I was just talking about this to someone this morning! Young women need to hear it. In addition, it’s ok to lie to creeps in order to be safe or extricate oneself from a dangerous situation.
I got myself, my teen daughter and my single woman neighbor a defense pack of stun guns, pepper spray and a kitty knuckle Keychains. I have them in our cars and at my front door along with a ring doorbell, and security system recording everything.
Butt of hand to the nose.Bent knuckles to throat.Blow out their knee with foot on kneecap push backward.Takes 32lb pressure to ring a doorbell, 12 to take out an eyeball,stomp on bridge of their foot.Pressure points like temples, back thumbs out of joint. Stay in motion, don't be the only one hurt.
Email your senator:
The White House recommends emailing them because they can manage emails faster than phone calls or letters. https://Congress.gov:
Select your state from the dropdown list, then filter by "Find Your Senators" pull-down menu in the upper right corner. Select your state and click "Go".
It’s called a social contract. The paradox of tolerance. Should we tolerate the intolerant? No! Once they misbehave they have broken the contract and it isn’t binding on you. Punch a Nazi.
I was sitting across from a “space hog” at a high top at an airport restaurant not long ago. High top was just a couple feet wide. Place was packed. He starts moving his laptop into my space. I pushed that shit with my shit. No way are you taking up my space. Teach your girls to “take up space.”
I only just arrived in this thread and don't see him, did the block work? I'm also new to Bluesky and how blocking actions work – so grateful for this community
I wish I'd been taught that at a younger age (I know it now, of course). Unfortunately, that "be polite" thinking was also wrapped up with "if you aren't polite he may get violent" - because way too many men can't control their volatile emotions.
Now a totally different story. Brought up in the 50 Finland. Polite, serving, wait for your turn, don't think you are special, smile, don't say no, dress & behave modestly, obey elders, Mam & sir etc. Now! Come Hell or High Water, friends w different values, relatives, family - C19, racism, Trump.
LE Newbie cops start by stopping people and putting on bad ass cop stunt.The more they get away with it,the more comfortable they are escalating to brutality.Then they learn swaying the report of what took place. Consider you might get hurt but you're not going to be alone.Hurt back with confidence
That's true enough – we learn to placate for our own safety and it becomes habitual. It's hard to unlearn. Also hard to tell what men might/might not act on scary behavior. I agree the exhaustion is so real.
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The White House recommends emailing them because they can manage emails faster than phone calls or letters.
https://Congress.gov:
Select your state from the dropdown list, then filter by "Find Your Senators" pull-down menu in the upper right corner. Select your state and click "Go".
Everyday some rando being weird.
It's exhausting.