I often feel really average in every way - not particularly intelligent or attractive or outstanding in any way - and sometimes it makes me really frustrated, but I’m trying to find grace in accepting just who I am and to stop drowning myself in comparisons - ThreadSky

ripeteeth.bsky.social • 1 day ago

I often feel really average in every way - not particularly intelligent or attractive or outstanding in any way - and sometimes it makes me really frustrated, but I’m trying to find grace in accepting just who I am and to stop drowning myself in comparisons

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ivorycloudscape.bsky.social•1 day ago

i know the feeling, & it fucking sucks. but as hard as it is, there’s a certain kind of peace in accepting your own averageness in the grand scheme of things, & i think it’s admirable you’re trying to do that.

ivorycloudscape.bsky.social•1 day ago

fwiw, though, i don’t think you’re average (nor do a lot of people here). you’re one of the coolest, most interesting and accomplished people i know. you’re a creative force to be reckoned with, & i always absolutely love hearing your thoughts on wine-making, frankenstein, monsterfucking, etc.

ivorycloudscape.bsky.social•1 day ago

also, cannot stress enough that your writing is incredible. like, seriously. i read your fics when i was younger, & you were (& still are) one of my biggest inspirations for my own writing. & to top it all off, you’re kind, funny & witty & it would be unfair if you weren’t also such a lovely person!

ivorycloudscape.bsky.social•1 day ago

sorry for the convoluted reply, but long story short, i totally get your frustration - it’s an incredibly difficult thing to grapple with & unfortunately, our monkey brains are horribly adept at comparing ourselves to others ad nauseam. please don’t beat yourself up for it.

ivorycloudscape.bsky.social•1 day ago

but i promise you, even if you aren’t a world-changing genius, you’re still a wonderful, intelligent & formidably talented person to the people who know you. if i can one day be half as cool as you, i’ll be very happy indeed.

ivorycloudscape.bsky.social•1 day ago

please believe me when i say that you’re a gem & i, along with many others here, adore you for it. sending you so much love. ❤️

mousieta.bsky.social•1 day ago

there is literally no one else on the planet exactly like you. there's deep value in that. i appreciate it.

ripeteeth.bsky.social•1 day ago

<3 <3 <3 thank you

aileenie12.bsky.social•1 day ago

You are important no matter how “average”

heliant.bsky.social•1 day ago

I can assure you, having just now finished In Search of the Wind, and I’m finding my eyes filled with tears, that you are anything BUT average.

ripeteeth.bsky.social•14 hours ago

Thank you! I’m so happy you enjoyed it - that one is extremely special to me and easily my favorite piece I ever wrote for them

heliant.bsky.social•13 hours ago

Also, I have a terrible wing kink so it was great that I got a good dose of it.

ripeteeth.bsky.social•13 hours ago

I love wing kink! I miss the heyday of Supernatural wingfic kink

heliant.bsky.social•14 hours ago

Perhaps it’s presumptions of me to say this, but it is so obvious to me how much of yourself you poured into Crowley. Your post yesterday about how you were feeling about yourself and at the same time, I’m finishing that fic from the point where Az is back now…I can’t even put it into words.

ripeteeth.bsky.social•14 hours ago

<3 I really identified a lot with Crowley, Aziraphale is a lot harder for me to project into. I think the only character I’ve ever written that felt closer to myself is Kim Kitsuragi in Disco Elysium. But Crowley is written from a deep place of anxiety and insecurity and a need for connection

heliant.bsky.social•14 hours ago

Yup. I definitely identify with Crowley. The insecurity, the attempt to fool the world that I’m just fine when in reality “what do they really think of me? Am I a fake? “ And people telling me how ‘nice’ I am? Right, sure.

ripeteeth.bsky.social•14 hours ago

I feel you. Crowley’s admixture of deep loyalties and creeping insecurities is a fascinating and unfortunately extremely relatable combo!

ripeteeth.bsky.social•1 day ago

comparison is the thief of joy et cetera et cetera

iodhadh.bsky.social•1 day ago

This is a good way to approach life but I would also like to assure you that you're beautiful, remarkably clever, interesting, passionate, talented, and have an incredible sense of personal style/aesthetic that makes everything you do look like it's out of a glamorous midcentury theatre production.

ripeteeth.bsky.social•1 day ago

friend, you’re gonna make me cry <3 ty, ily

mittencrab.bsky.social•1 day ago

I do very strongly believe in this (comparison thief of joy) however omg teeth I have always seen you as EXTREMELY smart and attractive?! And you are outstanding in so many ways (your number of talents is wild!! Photography??? Culinary??? Art??? Writing??? Sommelier in training??? Like OMG)

mittencrab.bsky.social•1 day ago

I guess it's both a little funny and sad to me that so many people go through life feeling average whilst other people think they're aspirational levels of amazing. Comparison DEFINITELY thief of joy (I keep yelling that one at my students because it's the thing that keeps me going, personally)

ripeteeth.bsky.social•14 hours ago

MITTTSSSS, I’m sobbing, tysm. I look up to you SO much and this means a lot to me

mittencrab.bsky.social•6 hours ago

Omg what nooo I look up to YOU waaaah 😭😭😭💜

aroceu.cloud•1 day ago

you are so funny and cool and smart and unique ! average is only in the eye of the beholder.... ^_^

ripeteeth.bsky.social•1 day ago

ty, my friend!!!!

fioreail.bsky.social•1 day ago

Really just the human experience though, most of us are average, it is why it is average. But that doesn't mean everyone's approaching the median in the same way and that something extraordinary can't come of of it.

ripeteeth.bsky.social•14 hours ago

That is very true and there’s something really beautiful about it

yonah-at-sea.bsky.social•1 day ago

The discordance between this post and my perception of you is fascinating but also sure yeah a healthy self-image is good I guess.

ripeteeth.bsky.social•1 day ago

<3 thank you. my self-confidence is prettyyyy low at most times so that means a lot

quarkitty.bsky.social•1 day ago

I understand the feeling but you are simply one of the COOLEST people, dust off your shoulders a bit and keep your head! 💜

quarkitty.bsky.social•1 day ago

Keep your head up*. But I kind of like how ominous this sounds otherwise.

ripeteeth.bsky.social•14 hours ago

my heart loves the ominous vibe <3 <3 and tysmmm that means a lot

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