I’m not even a stickler for etiquette rules but bruh yall don’t wanna bring baby shower gifts, don’t bring gifts to the dinner party, the birthday party, don’t wanna bring a dish. We have truly lost our way because that’s basic community
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I think it’s the economic situation right now. A lot of folks ain’t got it. For my baby shower(s), I just wanted folks to come and not feel ashamed if they couldn’t bring a gift.
The village showing up is more important to me rn. Give when you can, even if it’s way later, but just show up for me.
Also, I look for what folks can do more than a gift. Lets barter if you dont have it. I still want to celebrate with you though
This doesn’t count for folks who are leeches. it’s for the folks who just cant financially give at the moment. Can you cook, can you clean, can you donate old items etc?
Exactly. Most new moms would be THRILLED with a couple of frozen meals or a “coupon” to come hold baby so mom can shower and nap. Or to come do laundry. There’s so much you can do without spending money.
I’m not discounting the economy but even the legit poor people I’m around find ways to contribute because that’s what community is. These people on social media particularly are just lazy and inconsiderate
Couldn’t have said it better myself and to be honest with you as somebody who has done that in the past, I’m at the point now where people have to do that as well I’m not the only one that’s going to be giving or overly showing up!
Basic community but I know the folks that are trying to fight against this are the same ones going “we don’t have parties anymore” and “why folks don’t throw cookouts anymore”
It’s the fact that people wanna go against the grain so bad when this is literally just common etiquette and basic human decency if you’re attending a baby shower bring a gift if you’re attending a dinner party bring a gift bring a bottle of wine. Bring a dish. A birthday party that should go w/o
The POINT of the baby shower is the gifts. My cousin delivered 5/20. She was so scared that her shower was cancelled because she NEEDED the gifts. I told her that we’re still sending her gifts, she just doesn’t have to mind her face at the weird relatives presents this way.
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The village showing up is more important to me rn. Give when you can, even if it’s way later, but just show up for me.
This doesn’t count for folks who are leeches. it’s for the folks who just cant financially give at the moment. Can you cook, can you clean, can you donate old items etc?