"If it mattered to you, you wouldn't have forgotten" is a phrase that has plagued my life and made me feel like a terrible person and a bad friend What a relief to know it's just my brain is a bit shit in areas of memory - ThreadSky

radderss.bsky.social • 42 days ago

"If it mattered to you, you wouldn't have forgotten" is a phrase that has plagued my life and made me feel like a terrible person and a bad friend

What a relief to know it's just my brain is a bit shit in areas of memory

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hereticalramza.bsky.social•41 days ago

Oh my god I have had this said to me too. I'm sorry, I can't even remember my own phone number sometimes, what do you people expect from me? lol

spud.is.tired.fyi•41 days ago

I have heard this for as long as I've been able to hold a thought in my head and it beat me down every step of the way.

I. Remember. So. Much.
Faces, names, classmates, friends, songs, places, events.

Just not all at the same time. Or when it matters to others.

vikesfan47.bsky.social•41 days ago

ancientseraph.bsky.social•41 days ago

The one I get a lot along with this is "I don't understand how you can be so smart and so stupid. Where is your common sense?" And idk, let me know if ya find it

smashyrb.bsky.social•40 days ago

...and then you remember when it's no longer relevant :(

seafoamworks.bsky.social•41 days ago

my mom would scream this at me or say it in this snide cold tone like she was delighted at my frustration at forgetting something.

nezumiirok.bsky.social•41 days ago

Yes. Yes. Yes. I don't know if it's a British thing or what but I too heard this constantly growing up and had to believe it because it makes "sense".

Turns out I could forget my house is on fire. It has nothing to do with how much I value the memory, the wind blows away the messages in the sand.

radderss.bsky.social•41 days ago

lmao one time my mum forgot she was boiling eggs and it wasn't until smoke was billowing out of the kitchen that my Mum remembered 💀

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radderss.bsky.social•41 days ago

you're welcome ✨️

epicseshbro.bsky.social•41 days ago

They love to try to keep us down.

vfree3.bsky.social•41 days ago

Fk right? I literally don’t remember some things because of my ADHD. I use my phone as assistive technology, but it doesn’t help in the “softer areas.” I often feel like that fish Dori.

lillylady.bsky.social•41 days ago

I once forgot how to spell my last name, wtf do people want from me? 😆

fletcherstudios.bsky.social•42 days ago

As someone who's heard this a lot myself, I must ask: did you get a specific diagnosis, and if so- what? I feel like I've been hearing it all my life too, and seems to be worse now that my doc prescribed statins for my cholesterol.

radderss.bsky.social•41 days ago

I got diagnosed with both ADHD and Autism. They kind of clash in my brain a lot and contribute to a lot of stress and struggles

fletcherstudios.bsky.social•41 days ago

Thank you for sharing - my eldest was diagnosed with autism and I've heard more than once I should get tested as well.

tarjapk.bsky.social•41 days ago

I got my diagnosis after our youngest got her auDHD one. Then the oldest one got theirs and now we are a certified bunch of brain messes (my husband is autistic too) 😅

analogspeedrunner.bsky.social•41 days ago

It wouldn't only matter if you say: "Even now I can't remember."

lofichillguy.bsky.social•41 days ago

People say that to me before they know me at all.

Around the third time they have to remind me my glasses are on my head they realize it's not personal.

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