For me, one aspect of being #Autistic means feeling very dysregulated if plans change last minute even though I know objectively nothing bad is happening and it will actually be fine. It’s not anxiety about the future, it’s a state of confusion and disarray because expectations are not fulfilled - ThreadSky

andypandy.bsky.social • 68 days ago

For me, one aspect of being #Autistic means feeling very dysregulated if plans change last minute even though I know objectively nothing bad is happening and it will actually be fine. It’s not anxiety about the future, it’s a state of confusion and disarray because expectations are not fulfilled

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shacaro.bsky.social•67 days ago

"confusion and disarray" is such a good way of wording that feeling.

catroverted.com•68 days ago

Do you have any advice for coping with that? My fiance is really struggling and it's hard to find resources for adults.

I hate how everything is like "how to manage your autistic child" instead of resources for autistic people themselves.

andypandy.bsky.social•68 days ago

For me, if I have the time and space, I isolate and stim, listen to music, so I can centre until the feelings settle a bit. Also, not be mad at myself about how I react. If it means cancelling all plans to stay home where it’s safe, then so be it. Accepting myself was a big step that helped

andypandy.bsky.social•68 days ago

That’s just me though, and something I was able to work on with a supportive neuroaffirming therapist

catroverted.com•68 days ago

I didn't know neuroaffirming therapists were a thing! That's great to know. And thank you for the advice <3 I will pass it along. He has AuDHD so things can be very difficult to him that will only be a bit difficult for myself.

andypandy.bsky.social•68 days ago

It’s tough when you’re not ok and you just wish you were. But it seems you are a very supportive and understanding person in his life and that’s great to have 🙂

catroverted.com•67 days ago

Forgot to reply to this <3 Thank you so much! I do my best :)

seththebrave.bsky.social•68 days ago

I would recommend connecting with the Autistic community, like online and finding an psychologist who is affriming and very well educated and supportive. My psychologist has helped me so much and without her life would be more difficult.

catroverted.com•68 days ago

Thank you <3 Thankfully like 80% of people I follow are neurodivergent (and I am as well!) so I feel good about the wonderful community here! I'm going to do research about a neuroaffirming therapist near us too. I hope they are as great as yours is to you!

seththebrave.bsky.social•68 days ago

I also hope you find a affriming therapist. Never give up. It took some time for me to find my perfect psychologist. I had a previous psychologist which was not great at all.It takes standing up for yourself and doing your research in finding the right one. Never ever quit looking for the right one.

seththebrave.bsky.social•68 days ago

Lovely to meet you! Are you following @itsemilykaty.bsky.social ? She very well informative. I would also recommend Devon price book unmasking autism I am currently reading it.

andypandy.bsky.social•67 days ago

Devon’s book helped me to face up to so many obstacles without the self judgement, it’s been such an important book to me. And he has a new one coming out soon, unmasking for life

itsemilykaty.bsky.social•67 days ago

Thank you. I recommend Devon’s book too.

seththebrave.bsky.social•67 days ago

You are welcome!

dancingmonk.bsky.social•68 days ago

True

nhojjohn.bsky.social•67 days ago

My son had to give up teaching because he could not persuade his SLT that he was incapable of coping when he was suddenly expected to take a class different from the one he had prepared for. Their unwillingness to make reasonable adjustments led to retirement (in his thirties) on health grounds.

adamroo.bsky.social•52 days ago

This is true,I may not be on the Spectrum but a lot of my friends are. So when Plans suddenly change They're thrown for a loop and ask me if Everything is ok,and I have to Reassure them that Everything is going to be fine.

seththebrave.bsky.social•68 days ago

So on point!

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