The folding of relationship and sexual preferences into people’s personalities has been very odd. Like poly’s not something you are it’s a framework to approach relationships from
Just commenting, I'm not trying to argue with you <3
I have my non-mono status in my profile for a few reasons: To clear up why I'm talking about having a wife and lovers like it's normal & make sure people know I'm above board, to indicate my default position on bonds/implied obligations, etc.
In my case it's more about normalizing the odd dynamic and minimizing conflict from people cruising by and doing a double take when I talk about my wife in one post and then getting together with a lover in the next.
I do see how it can seem to solicit a certain response. Is there a better way?
I just don’t know if it’s necessary to put it in your bio, like especially in trans circles even if we aren’t all poly we all know what it means and are pretty normal about it. I view it differently than like lesbian because there’s culture and media associated with being a lesbian, not so for poly
If we don't exist openly and honestly inside the lived reality of our relationships alongside monogamous relationships, then, what course of action do we have accessible to create culture and media associated? Whether you agree or not with non-mono, you can't really deny discrimination is pervasive.
Is it not open and honest enough to talk about it? Like I said originally poly’s not a thing you are, it’s a way you do relationships. It’s just never made sense to me to define my personality by anything other than what I AM, not what I do.
And frankly a lot of people who I admire wear three knowledge of their own hotness, and so the modesty seemed counterproductive. Frankly anyone who wants me to be super humble is gonna be disappointed anyway
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It can come off a certain way I guess, I can see that
I have my non-mono status in my profile for a few reasons: To clear up why I'm talking about having a wife and lovers like it's normal & make sure people know I'm above board, to indicate my default position on bonds/implied obligations, etc.
I do see how it can seem to solicit a certain response. Is there a better way?
And frankly a lot of people who I admire wear three knowledge of their own hotness, and so the modesty seemed counterproductive. Frankly anyone who wants me to be super humble is gonna be disappointed anyway