I can't put my finger on why, but the phrase 'friendly reminder' (or, even worse, 'gentle reminder') is unbearably grating to me. Instant turnoff. Whatever it is that you are asking me to do is not 100 percent not happening.
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I'm reminded of my manager asking why I responded to intentionally annoying emails by opening with "thank you". I said "thank is standing in for 'fuck'." I could literally see her re-winding her tape of emails I'd sent her.
Because it's never gentle or friendly, it's patronizing weaponized niceness designed to leverage compliance through public shaming and suggests that you're an idiot child who is unaware of the context of their own life?
Legit question - in the case where someone is *actually* trying to remind you of something, how would it be best phrased so as not to create the atavistic and/or oppositional instinctive response?
People are also just grossly misusing it? This is the third time this week someone is telling me a piece of information for the first time in the form of a 'gentle reminder.' I cannot be reminded of something I didn't know!
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