You might be right. There is a gray area between toxic work culture at one side and a hypersensitive non functional system on the other side. I am trying to stay in the middle lane.
Gonna give you the benefit of that doubt here: maybe you've just not recognized your privilege and the effect you're having on your hospital's culture. If you accept your argument, you really don't need to edge against the toxic culture in that so-called middle lane,
especially when you're least likely to be harmed by toxicity. That's a damned broad region between not making fun of the vulnerable (or making fun of the privileged so vulnerable catch stays) and a place that's so sensitive it's not functional. Unless you're saying insults are part of the function?
The "burden" of being a white man is that you have an ethical obligation to look at the impact your actions have on others and see if you can use your privilege to advocate for those who might not have the ability to advocate for themselves without fear of reprisal.
I think that’s true statement and I probably or certainly underestimate the privilege being born with my skin colour. To my defence I might add that it is very easy to forget because diversity in skin colour is nearly non-existent in my part of the world….
OK, but skin color is one dimension. Disability status, gender, orientation are others. Maybe take this opportunity to think about how your comments might not be offending your colleagues, but are very very likely offending your patients or changing how you think about them, and not for the better.
The way my colleagues and me are making fun of each other has nothing to do with insulting, because there is no intention to harm the other person. But I understand you. It is always difficult when the “ toxicity” depends on the people involved.
It doesn't feel like insulting *to you.* Maybe this is a learning opportunity? When @realqrampage.fightins.online tells you the impact of your words/actions, it's an opportunity to learn from that.
I think you’re right, actually. My thinking about privilege was coined in a way that I always felt privileged to be in that profession, to get the exceptional training I got and I felt privileged to be in a position where I am able to care for patients and being involved in medical education.
This is one of the forms of privilege you have. There are others, and there might even be ways in which you are NOT advantaged. Recognizing how these different things co-exist is how we understand the concept of "intersectionality," where things are not all 1-dimensional "good" or "bad."
you’re an old white dude who is at the top of the white supremacy hierarchy, and you love maintaining the status quo. that’s why you’re upholding toxic behavior. anyways, you’re not worth my time because you’re not smart enough to reflect on any of this, so stop fucking talking to me.
When you start thinking one profession or specialty is more or less important than yours, you open the door for jealousy, hate, and rankings where it doesn't belong. This impedes progress to a point where we go backwards, like we are now.
That was supposed to be a joke….of course i don’t consider any specialty (or human being) as inferior. I put it deliberately there as a joke.
The whole point of banter is that every joke is wrapped in mutual respect.
No, that isn't "Respect." That is how power structures are maintained. You get to say "Can't you take a joke?" when people are hurt, and blame them.
Do you really think everyone gets to make those jokes? Maybe people laugh because you have power, not because you are funny.
You are right. It’s not that everyone is throwing jokes around. If you work several years with the same group of people you get a sense who might be humorwise on the same page and who is not (not judging). So at my shop it’s more a group of friends making fun of each other.
bro what do you mean "of course" you don't? Like there aren't millions of people who do view some kinds of people as inferior, at all levels of society? Like there aren't millions of people who "joke" about it because they actually mean it? "Of course" like how would anyone know that?
"I am behaving exactly like someone who has contempt for whole classes of people but OBVIOUSLY if you simply PEERED INTO MY SOUL you'd know I didn't really mean it, come on!"
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The whole point of banter is that every joke is wrapped in mutual respect.
Do you really think everyone gets to make those jokes? Maybe people laugh because you have power, not because you are funny.