Fun fact about me. I don't look at people in the eyes when they talk. I look at the mouth.
I found this to make more sense when I was younger, because, you know, that's where the mouth noises come from and that's where the most action is when people are speaking.
Yes, this is a very spectrum post.
I found this to make more sense when I was younger, because, you know, that's where the mouth noises come from and that's where the most action is when people are speaking.
Yes, this is a very spectrum post.
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I said, “I’m not making eye contact; I’m staring at your mouth”
So she kinda scrunched her body down to get her eyes lower to where I was looking and just said, “oh…”
I will look my wife in the eyes on occasion because I know she likes it, but I can't really maintain it for more than a few seconds before it gets uncomfortable.
I tend to get “lost” when I look them in the eyes. I’ve been trying to be more of an eye-looker and, when I think to remind myself, I can do it…
I just hope that the distance between eyes and mouth is small enough that most people do not notice?
I'm pretty sure that's what people mean when they ask for more eye contact. People who read lips never get chided for not making eye contact.
It's more a matter of averting gaze entirely that is off-putting. I say, autisticly
I may not be able to speak at times but that's ok, ~ I can read your mind ~
But I think I've perfected the art of looking away, so it doesn't appear to be an awkward, uncomfortable thing, even though it is.
I took a few classes to learn sign language. Looking at a person's face, rather intensely, is kind of part of the whole sign language thing. It's not just about the hand shapes and movements, it's also about the face (think the equivalent of tone of voice etc).
Communication is awesome.