I proposed to my girlfriend, she said yes, but she now wants me to book a dinner with her family and friends and for me to spontaneously ask her again in front of them all. I don't think I want to marry someone like her.
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Or. Have a conversation with her about why she wants this. You wanted to marry her - why does she need this? Maybe some open communication with her before you shut it all down. Maybe it is too much but possibly she needs some support working through family expectations/needs.
She's weird and he loves her. Clear that she loved the moment and wants it again in front of others. Clear that she sometimes doesn't think things through. Like this.
To me ditching someone for a fault we all have in some way is very weird.
My weirdness manifested in wanting to be proposed to in the most mundane way possible, in private. He chose the kitchen, beside the bin, when I was making a cup of tea. It was perfect.
This is another level though. She wants to fabricate the whole thing for a show. It’s weird on two levels- the lie of the reconstruction, which will be forever, and the attention she craves in the moment. For me both are big warning signs, and the poster clearly sees it. She’s got serious issues.
I’m just a bit struck by this. Isn’t the whole moment of proposal this magical thing? The story you will tell your entire life, to friends, to kids, etc. the great romantic moment. Shes dismissing that, she wants to cancel the one she’s had because it wasn’t good enough, and fabricate a new one.
Tell her mum about the proposal. It'll go round the family like wildfire.
If your girlfriend kicks off, use that as a catalyst to call the whole thing off.
Then call her mum and say how sorry you are that you won't be her son-in-law.
Just say, er no I'm definitely not going to do that because it's wierd. If you don't feel you can say that and/or you think she'll freak out if you do, run for the hills my friend, it's not worth it.
Gonna make a fool of you, watch out.
Make your life a misery; make you shut your mouth.
Gonna tell a tale on you, make your blue eyes cry,
And then you know we're truly through, bye bye bitch, bye bye.
I don't think she knows what "spontaneously" means.
That being said, I've read worse asks on reddit, so if you otherwise love her and there are no other signs of lunacy I might accommodate. But if you see even a hint of bridezilla, run.
Ruuunnnnn!
You proposing doesn't make her feel special enough. She wants you to play-act every decision in public so SHE can get attention from as many as possible. Unless you want that to be your life from now on, flee.
When my future son in law asked for permission to marry my daughter, I was very happy and said yes but that the proposal should be private and intimate. Would have retracted permission if he had made a public song and dance about it.
Balls to that. Couple I know said that they were going to DisneyWorld so they could do their proposal there and then tell everyone that's where they got engaged. I said that if that had been agreed, then the proposal had already happened, the venue being his car. Felt a bit guilty, but there you go.
Arrange it all, bring the romance, champagne, flowers, everything. And then don't ask her. Ever again. If she mentions it, tell her she's mad, she knows you're not the marrying kind. Gaslight her to the end of the earth.
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To me ditching someone for a fault we all have in some way is very weird.
I was sooo immature back in my 20s to a level that makes me cringe now. Glad my wife stuck with me.
If your girlfriend kicks off, use that as a catalyst to call the whole thing off.
Then call her mum and say how sorry you are that you won't be her son-in-law.
Make your life a misery; make you shut your mouth.
Gonna tell a tale on you, make your blue eyes cry,
And then you know we're truly through, bye bye bitch, bye bye.
That being said, I've read worse asks on reddit, so if you otherwise love her and there are no other signs of lunacy I might accommodate. But if you see even a hint of bridezilla, run.
You proposing doesn't make her feel special enough. She wants you to play-act every decision in public so SHE can get attention from as many as possible. Unless you want that to be your life from now on, flee.
If you loved her enough to want to marry her, what happened to I'd do anything for love?
Run whilst you still can.
Otherwise before you know it she’ll be a bridezilla and your firstborn will be having a gender reveal party.