Extended family, conservative and potentially transphobic, confirmed to be showing up to my mom's big 70th birthday surprise party next month. Oh boy (:
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I haven't talked to them in years just because we're not close in age or location. I'm not going to preemptively judge anyone or assume anything. I will assume mutual respect until I'm given a reason to believe otherwise. But I will also not be taking any shit, so.
I think my cousin's kids are teenagers now. And they're going to see a happy, healthy trans adult existing in their midst. And I actually think everyone will be fine tbh
The cousin I was most worried about has already said she's excited to see me. I'm hoping this will all be normal and chill and no one's humanity will be up for debate at any point!
I'm also incredibly privileged to be a cis-passing white dude who is well-educated with a salaried job. That makes it especially easy for my family to "accept" me. Were I any combination of transfeminine, no college degree, working-class job, non-passing, etc? A very different story no doubt.
I also think that having been out for 7-8 years and physically transitioning the way I want to is a privilege in itself. I was able to start hormones and change my name and gender marker and get surgery, all relatively easily. Not everyone can say that, especially these days.
I "got in" before it was sooooo polarizing to be trans. People have had many years to get used to my existence. Now? It's just a different experience. The general public knows more about trans people, but there are massive drawbacks to that, as well as benefits.
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