This is not a black & white issue
I've never rehomed any fur buddy - I'm incredibly fortunate to be able to say that &
I've had some really tough / brutal times in my lifetime.
Many have had similar moments
Not all have been as fortunate
(& often not as fortunate as those who judge them)
Totally agree. My daughter has a rescue and she has had a few people who dump their dog at the pound for any reason, later we learn they have a new dog. I am proud of her because she always helps and never judges, her focus is all on the animal and saving its life. She is amazing!
This is not always possible.
Maybe you've lost your job and the lower cost rentable homes in your area don't allow pets.
Maybe you've suffered from an accident or illness and need to move into a nursing home that doesn't allow pets.
Try to understand that people don't always have the choice...
a really wonderful thing we can do is share and create groups and shelters to get animals fostered or rehomed when people have no choice.
check out 'who's a good boy' on my FB
this is difficult for some, I actually have a FB group to help with this, most of the dogs, the elderly or sick can't take them with them to the LTC facility and family refuses. and most landlords do not allow pets anymore.
buuuut if you have a choice, obviously pick a different rental.
I work in Animal Rescue and relate... we foster over 40-50 kittens/cats a year and it hurts when they get returned because adopters move into a new place. In Florida a lot of these are from elderly pet owners who have to relocate to assistedliving/family. Sigh 😪
Kittens are easier to adopt than an adult cat. And they are not spayed or neutered near enough. I’m allergic to cats and I’m sad for them. Look at your local shelters that are mainly filled with pitties or pit mixes. More puppies than owners who want to buy or adopt. It’s just as sad
I was just thinking about how income affects dog ownership especially. Unlike cats, they’re super expensive and you can’t sneak them into a rental. Vet bills are insane. $400 minimum per visit. It’s a sobering responsibility and there are people who are flippant about it. Most folks are sincere.
Please share some links to resources to help people keep their animals or a safe place to place them until they can be united. You have more access, Cheri. Help all of us and we will help everyone we can.
I know you mean well, Cheri. But the most painful part of a traumatic life change is the impact on the innocent. Animals are blameless no matter how unjust their human’s actions. Maybe we set up or share resources for these crushing situations? A national database that connects locally? No ?? asked?
I just retired, sold my business and my house, downsized and moved across country. I bought an RV so I could keep my animals with me. Not everyone has that luxury. It cost me significantly. I did it intentionally because they were my priority. I’m stoked that I had the funds and mobility. Think!!
Sometimes a person is in dire straits. Have some compassion. I personally haven’t been in that spot, but I’ve cared for dogs and cats for folks that are up against it. They were in so much pain that the least I could do was give them some comfort that their mammals were safe and loved.
You shouldn’t feel guilty in the first place. That’s a very sound legit reason. I’ve taken in dogs for months because the owner was in a situation where they couldn’t take the dog exactly then. How many will take in a dog temporarily?
An assumption. Maybe the rent has increased to unaffordability. Maybe they're sick and can no longer afford to live on their own/take care of their pet. Maybe they're moving in with family and they can't have their pets there. There could be any number of reasons.
This would be amazing if it were always made possible. And if we acquit Luigi, then perhaps we can make this the reality. Just tell Blackrock that Luigi is back on the streets, and we'll probably get better housing situations.
Nah. Either they don't want the dog, in which case you don't need to be forcing the dog to stay with them, or they've already tried to keep the dog in which case you're moralizing something they already hate to do.
My current dog was rehomed. Her previous owner had Alzheimer's & had to enter a care facility. Two previous dogs I acquired when a family friend had no choice but to move to an apartment after leaving an abusive spouse. Having been the new home for 3, I won't make a blanket condemnation of rehoming.
Counting back to childhood, I've had 3 dogs from accredited breeders, 3 from shelters, and 3 that were rehomed from first-or-second degree acquaintances. I've been happy to have had all 9 in my life.
People ask me how I can deal with taking in handicapped or elderly dogs. I’m a sucker for both and it makes me happy to give them a nice home for their remaining years. I’m also selective. I’ve had English bulldogs for 60 years and I know I wouldn’t be the right home for a large active breed
Our dogs have been our family and every move we made in the military was based on them, too. Our cocker spaniel moved across the world with us to an overseas assignment. Was it easy? No. Was it cheap? Hell, no. Of all other dogs, in our 43 year marriage, not one has been left behind or given away.
Cheri, you do have a lot of money, don't you? Some people can't afford a camper to spend their retirement in, let alone get any form of a decent healthcare, and rehoming a dog is a responsible choice in many lives. They don't do it out of laziness.
It was either be homeless along with my cat due to changes in circumstances outside of my (or my cat's) control - or rent an apartment I could afford, but with a strict no pets allowed policy.
People who do this, more often than not, really DO NOT want to do this, but are forced to. It is systemic.
My 90yo mother was left with a dog when my half brother who lived with her finally passed after a decade of destroying his health. She was more than ready to move to assisted living.
I fear, reality is, that there are thousands of situations where someone is forced to move and living situations available could prevent keeping that pet. Sad, I wish it wasn’t so, but I won’t automatically fault people in this scenario. Totally a case by case situation. 🤷🏼♂️
The amount of comments who are (purposly?) misunderstanding this is baffling. Of course there are times where you have no choice. You can still be fcking pissed at people who HAVE the choice (and money) and decide to leave their dog behind. Don't pretend like this is something only poor people do.
Honestly this is a huge problem with cats too. I’ve seen complexes overrun with abandoned cats. Some end up run over in the parking lot, some end up food for coyotes (especially if they’ve been declawed). The ones that live bring new kittens into this life bc their owners couldn’t even spay them.
Yes! I thought about adding a bit about cats in my comment but ran out of characters. So many people who leave their cats behind don't even think about rehoming them, they just... leave them where they are. And the poor cat has no idea where it's family went and why it's not allowed back inside.
It’s honestly tragic. One cat, after giving birth, kept hiding her litter behind a car’s front tire in the parking lot!!! Me and a neighbor had to team up to rescue the kittens because mom would put them back if we tried to move them.
I hope you are kidding. But why stop there? Aren’t they also racist? Maybe they are wealthy and need a bougie dog to match? The worst puppy millers are the Amish. Dogs are no different than livestock to them and a way to earn income
You making a judgement of someone because of a political party? That’s why I asked if you were joking. Because I can’t think of any other reason other than a joke for the statement, and it’s why I asked.
Yeah, I'm judging someone for having belonged to a party that, even before Trump, championed bigotry, the exploitation of workers, and militarism. I consider those much more important things than giving up a dog for adoption.
Ridiculous take. You cant always find somewhere that will let you. My family had a Mastiff that we had to rehome cause after living in the same place for 10 years, the military moved us on base.
I read posts like this every day begging readers to take their pets. While pets aren't children, they have emotions. They look to us as protectors and as their families. They teach our children empathy and acceptance. And they're just frigging awesome.
💯 My wife and I rescued 9 dogs from certain death scenarios after moving to México in 2017. Rehomed 3 and kept 6. Our first landlord told us to leave. #1 requirement: finding a new landlord who would be okay with a half dozen dogs. We did!
Let's not make blanket statements without taking others' circumstances into consideration.Until you walk in another person's shoes, you don't know what they are going through.
With my divorce, I did the best I could. When my ex bounced and left me with our son, five dogs, and six rats… I was able to only keep two of the dogs. One was a foster dog we were taking care of for a local group, and I made sure the two dogs I had to give up went back to them as well.
The five rats also went to a good home, and I was in contact with the person for some time. I hated having to do it, but my ex literally jumped ship and fucked us over.
I mean aren’t you prejudging the meme maker? Who said the meme was specifically targeting people with unfavorable circumstances? Or did you want a three paragraph explainer to go with it?
Nope. I'm commenting on a lady who posted it to trash other folk. If she or the "meme maker" cared about unfavorable circumstances, they would've made it clear. But alas they didn't so now what? Did I ask for a three paragraph explainer or did you want to provide one?🙄
She's trashing all and not distinguishing those who are responsible but have to go through these kind of situations. Not everybody gives up their pups. 🤷🏾♀️
This is bullshit. Many may have to move and may desperately want to take their dog. It's not always possible to just find someplace that will take it that you can afford - if they're even lucky enough to find a place for themselves.
That is very much true, but at least look for someone you know and trust or find a rescue. When someone brought a dog to me that they could no longer keep under the circumstances, I would start to tear up and felt guilty for taking in the dog because I knew they loved the dog so much
As someone who has been involved with rescue for over 20 yrs, worked for a vet for 5 yrs, and is a member of a national breed club, I see and hear all kinds of stories and reasons for rehoming. The majority were the couple got married, got a dog, and now the dog is a problem with a child on the way
I understand where you're coming from, but sometimes unexpected things come up in people's lives. If you've never experienced something that would force you to have to give up a pet consider yourself extremely lucky.
That’s a very white middle class post. I find it infuriating as well but very few people give up their animals easily. Not sure what it’s like in the US but rentals are as rare as rocking horse shit in Australia and have been for a couple of years. Many people got animals when rent was easy.
I mean we’re both speaking anecdotally but my experience has been the opposite. Especially cats and birds. Many people just let them go, even if the cat is declawed and living in a coyote area. Birds are even worse, since they’ve never experienced wind before.
It’s gotten bad in my area. We try to get as many cats fixed as possible but we’re donation based in a very poor area. Dogs get rehomed but people just toss their cats outside assuming they will find a way to survive.
#peoplesuck #tnrsaveslives #spayandneuter
There’s a definite increase in accidental puppy litters because getting them spayed and neutered costs as much as a months worth of rent and low cost dog vetting is over an hour away.
Through my charity it’s $150 vaccines included. A regular vet it’s $600 minimum surgery only. And most vets require two visits and vaccines before surgery.
A slum lord tiny apartment goes $1200-1800.
My own vet charges $75 for the appointment. Vaccine is $60 ea and 2 vaccines for the first 2 visits. $30 examination. With just that if I had my 1 cat done through them
(75*3)+(60*4)+30+600=$1,095.
And that still doesn’t include flea and dewormer.
There are of course times when you don't have a choice. Sometimes people don't have the means to find a place you can bring your pet to.
But at the same time, there ARE also many people who don't take pet ownership seriously and give then up for the SLIGHTEST inconvenience and don't even try.
I love all dogs, would never ever give my dog up, and f’in HATE this take. There are multiple reasons why someone has to rehome a pet. Illness, death in the family, dire financial circumstances, DV…you have no idea why a person has to do this.
I just recently stopped working Hospice after 10 years, and many times we helped people find homes for their beloved pets. It's heartbreaking for everyone, but there are so many circumstances someone may need to rehome a pet. This take is so cold & privileged.
Exactly. Some people have to, some people are just hollow inside, either way the dog deserves to be somewhere safe and this take stands in the way of making that happen.
Very often I felt guilty for taking the dog in and rehoming it. I know they didn’t have any other choice and with rescue they know it won’t be euthanized
Our elderly neighbor moved into assisted living and had to rehome her cats. She was absolutely devastated. But she went from being independent to immobile overnight after a fall. Yes, of course there are asshole pet owners, but we don’t know what people are going through!
Oh, that's a great point too! Even if not an asshole - you find yourself having to take on another job, unable to manage physically or any other reason... their health and wellness has to come first!
My grandma and grandpa on my dads side of the family had a cat once, they moved, any guesses on what they did with the cat. Your probably wrong, they locked the cat in the house leaving them to evetually starve to death. Glad I dont talk with them any more.
Sometimes the cheap place within good distance to your work doesn't accept dogs and it's either you are able to afford rent and eat. Or you keep your dog.
There are so many scammers out there who are offering pets up due to supposed relocations. A friend of a friend just tried to take in a corgi and lost the deposit to hold the dog when we discovered that the pics were taken from a famous insta feed.
Thankfully, it was an amount she could afford to lose. We were able to expose the scammer across a variety of corgi groups to prevent them doing it to others (from that account).
Bad take. People’s sitch can change on a dime. Reaching out to find a new stable caring place for doggos is responsible. I was blessed that I could bring mine when I went to care for my mom.
And please, for the love of all that is good, don’t show up to a rescue’s ADOPTION event with your dog and tell us that you are moving tomorrow and can’t take your dog. Most rescues can’t just take your dog with just a minute notice. Call. Email. Use the “contact us” on the website, anything.
Fortunately I’ve never done an adoption event, but I’ve bitten my tongue on many a phone call I’ve gotten. Do you have a dog with a similar coat color to my couch? I’m sure I’ve gotten worse but that came to mind first
I iwas getting a manicure and the girl sitting next to me was looking through all the sample colors and is checking pics on IG. Finally she told the girl to let her know when she was ready.The girl looked up and said, it’s such a commitment. I wanted to scream, Marriage and children are commitments
It's nice to own a pet. It's a big responsibility. Often expensive.
In an economy where people are having difficulty getting by, look for pets to take a big budget cut. On 40K a year, take home 30K. $2.5K a month. If your vet and food bill for pet is $100 a month, 4% of income.
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I've never rehomed any fur buddy - I'm incredibly fortunate to be able to say that &
I've had some really tough / brutal times in my lifetime.
Many have had similar moments
Not all have been as fortunate
(& often not as fortunate as those who judge them)
Never trumpers are cancer. Cut them out so we're not seen as elites who ignore our suffering base
Maybe you've lost your job and the lower cost rentable homes in your area don't allow pets.
Maybe you've suffered from an accident or illness and need to move into a nursing home that doesn't allow pets.
Try to understand that people don't always have the choice...
Most who rehome don’t think of the pet, it’s for their ease or current wants
check out 'who's a good boy' on my FB
buuuut if you have a choice, obviously pick a different rental.
People are lazy and take the easy way out.
People who do this, more often than not, really DO NOT want to do this, but are forced to. It is systemic.
All my dogs are dogs that were surrendered or ditched and the owners just never came forward.
People don’t understand how hard it is for a dog to gain your trust once they’ve been abandoned.
#peoplesuck #tnrsaveslives #spayandneuter
My own vet charges $75 for the appointment. Vaccine is $60 ea and 2 vaccines for the first 2 visits. $30 examination. With just that if I had my 1 cat done through them
(75*3)+(60*4)+30+600=$1,095.
And that still doesn’t include flea and dewormer.
But at the same time, there ARE also many people who don't take pet ownership seriously and give then up for the SLIGHTEST inconvenience and don't even try.
For-profit real estate is a pillar in an oppressive economic system that needs to go.
This is some "just pay off your loan instead of the minimum payment" bullshit
If you MUST, make sure your pet is given to someone you trust to spoil them and care for them for life.
In an economy where people are having difficulty getting by, look for pets to take a big budget cut. On 40K a year, take home 30K. $2.5K a month. If your vet and food bill for pet is $100 a month, 4% of income.