Stop! Good behavior check: Are you extending the same empathy you show towards others, to yourself? - ThreadSky

candlekit.bsky.social • 8 days ago

Stop! Good behavior check:

Are you extending the same empathy you show towards others, to yourself?

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heckpup.bsky.social•8 days ago

;w;

sheppyalex.bsky.social•8 days ago

That's hard ^^;

candlekit.bsky.social•8 days ago

But so very important

melunnia.bsky.social•8 days ago

Definitely notttt haha..

candlekit.bsky.social•8 days ago

Give yourself one big big hug stat, hatchie-patchie

lil-rascal-hiro.bsky.social•8 days ago

Uuuh, guilty of charges? 👉👈

poofylionet.bsky.social•8 days ago

I had a huge moment of realizing this yesterday thanks talking to my best friend about how I handle social anxiety and it's been helping me today in being just kinder to myself and my friends

candlekit.bsky.social•8 days ago

You are doing great marinerita. Proud of you

theresagaumond.bsky.social•8 days ago

Yes, and I think it's backfiring.

I recently lashed out because that empathy wasn't being reciprocated.

I was caring a lot about the feelings of someone who actively refused to do the same.

It was torture and people I care about have been having to take the brunt of it.

I have since stopped.

theresagaumond.bsky.social•8 days ago

I haven't stopped showing empathy at all, mind you. I've just made a single exception for who gets it.

the.choco.one•8 days ago

I'm doing my best!!

candlekit.bsky.social•8 days ago

*Click click*

the.choco.one•8 days ago

WAFF! 🥰✨

shadetavish.bsky.social•8 days ago

Nope!

candlekit.bsky.social•8 days ago

Then start!

shadetavish.bsky.social•7 days ago

How when I don't see anything in myself worth empathy

basyboo.bsky.social•7 days ago

I think so? I am trying to give myself breaks from work, and understanding when i make an error.

pottypantsfluke.bsky.social•7 days ago

Kinda. Most the things I'm mean to myself about are things that apply to my friends too so I'm trying to stop that. Now my failures that I don't share with my friends? Those are free game, baby!

candlekit.bsky.social•7 days ago

What about failures that friends have that you don't? Do they deserve sympathy? Then, do yours?

pottypantsfluke.bsky.social•7 days ago

I don't have the same angst as I did earlier now that I've had a nap, but I tend to rationalize that as not knowing everything about my friends' lives while knowing my own. I've had good support structures my whole life so failures reflect worse on me for living life on easy mode compared to others.

candlekit.bsky.social•6 days ago

That's a very uncharitable way to see yourself. I think that it doesn't diminish your struggles, and it's better to be thankful for thst support, than to moralize failing. Failure is part of being human

kandicritter.bsky.social•8 days ago

no i'm still like 5 more years away from that but im better than i used to be

candlekit.bsky.social•8 days ago

You're doing progress. You're doing good!

fox.nappies.dev•8 days ago

Fuck thaaaat!

candlekit.bsky.social•8 days ago

Austin, swear jar

fox.nappies.dev•8 days ago

Bogus ;-;

tristeabdl.bsky.social•7 days ago

No, I know I have no excuses

littlestlilly.bsky.social•8 days ago

lil-vyx.bsky.social•8 days ago

Hrmmm…. Not sure I’ll ever be able to

candlekit.bsky.social•8 days ago

Start right now! Reat after me:

"I ought to treat myself kindly"

goatpamperd.bsky.social•8 days ago

Trying my best this month but this month had a bunch of depression flat ups that make goat brain dumb and feel bad or be anxious.

It like a seesaw a seesaw of brain goblins!!