This is meant as comedy but I highly, HIGHLY recommend it to autistic MN transplants, especially if you come from the East Coast or another ask vs. guess culture. It clearly explains a lot of otherwise inscrutable behavior and will prevent both confusion and people getting mysteriously mad at you
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graybandit
"that's different"
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I know now, but it’s really not obvious to people who aren’t born here, especially when they struggle with social nuance anyway
In a similar vein I hope you’ve seen Aussie classic “The Castle”.
I always said the diplomacy gene skipped me and refused to go into the family business. Joke was on me, I became a software architect
waiter: are you sure? it's sour
me: yes, I'm sure
w: sure sure?
me: yes
a while later, he comes over with the juice, sugar and sweetener
he waited until I had a sip, saw my reaction and walked back in disbelief
A: would you like some coffee?
B: no thanks, I’m OK
A: are you sure?
B: I mean, I wouldn’t want to put you out
A: oh it’s no trouble at all!
B: well, if you wouldn’t mind!
This is commonly understood and people assume everyone else understands it too
Same exact script, too, all the way down to the 2x token refusals with the third being the "real" yes/no.
Very diametrically opposed to EC behavior, in my experience 😅
I could always feel the discomfort lift in the room when I said those magic words.
…cause you just keep cutting them in smaller and smaller halves
This may be Minnesota specific, but a lot works just as well for Wisconsin. MI too, I assume.
there’s a book version too!