I hate feeling like the difficult person trying to negotiate an outdoor venue that is COVID safe to catch up with friends. Look what my friend suggested as a place with an outdoor courtyard to placate me. This is not outdoors. "Oh Ingrid why don't you hang out with us more?" THIS IS WHY. - ThreadSky

thatingrid.bsky.social • 50 days ago

I hate feeling like the difficult person trying to negotiate an outdoor venue that is COVID safe to catch up with friends. Look what my friend suggested as a place with an outdoor courtyard to placate me. This is not outdoors. "Oh Ingrid why don't you hang out with us more?"
THIS IS WHY.

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thatingrid.bsky.social•50 days ago

Yes,it's very pretty
But what part of this would allow airflow?

keepingsanity.bsky.social•50 days ago

I hear you. I was told “good job, baby steps” when I recently hung out with friends at a home (with my N95) where the hostess opened the front and back doors and had strong hepa filters running. I didn’t eat or drink anything.

thatingrid.bsky.social•50 days ago

People suck.

keepingsanity.bsky.social•50 days ago

I thanked the hostess in a group chat for keeping the air moving as much as possible. But no one else will offer that in the future. So I rarely go and I won’t host outdoors anymore. I don’t want what you’re willing to give me.

Sorry for the loss of the friend group. It’s rough.

laurensbca.bsky.social•50 days ago

I fell for an “outdoor patio” group lunch event, only to arrive to see the patio completely enclosed in plexiglass and full tables jammed together. Three years ago. I can’t join that group anymore as it’s a choice to make excuses or make them upset with my requests. So I no longer see them

thatingrid.bsky.social•50 days ago

I've already lost 2 close friends over this precisely. And I'm an introvert with a small friendship circle, I don't want to lose these guys too. But I'm not willing to put my health at risk. I've suggested two other safer options. If no-one agrees, that's it, I'm choosing out.

calbeargirl.bsky.social•49 days ago

It’s very annoying to see enclosed patios described as outdoors.

sepfieldpatient.bsky.social•50 days ago

Ya, Melbourne has some very confused ideas about "outdoors"

I have lupus (extreme sun sensitivity) & multiple heat sensitive conditions. I generally don't even try to make plans when I can only see people outdoors, in the shade, in a space with a very narrow temperature range.

thelanddownunder.bsky.social•49 days ago

I get it. I have to keep repeating to my friends that I’ll only eat/drink outdoors which of course is all to do with ventilation rather than ‘unlined room giving the appearance of outdoors’. They might be getting sick of it but I’m holding my ground. Three have been very sick in the past month 😬

misguidedjenni.bsky.social•49 days ago

It's warm because there's no air flow 😱 Don't blame you for passing up the invitation

shazh.bsky.social•50 days ago

I hear you! And there are actually a fair number of restaurants & cafes with genuinely outdoor seating. Why choose something that's not?! Even before covid, I preferred space and sitting outdoors to eat. I don't need my meal to have a side serve of covid & RSV

j-sonearmyonce.bsky.social•49 days ago

My friends don't get it either. I pretty much gave up about a year ago. I only see them once in a while over the warmer months, just at the park.

thatingrid.bsky.social•49 days ago

It's really difficult, isn't it.

kateraindrops.bsky.social•49 days ago

Yeah, I've been to indoor places with more airflow! (we had booked an outdoor table at a place, realised that the inside was totally open on two sides and we got a table right on the edge, with no one else around. Huge high ceiling and no blazing sun)

upswept.bsky.social•49 days ago

Totally been there, too many times. It's exhausting.

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