lebonenfant.bsky.social
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I think this applies to at least a quarter of IRL historical wars
(Wars of the Roses; Opium Wars; Peninsular War; Whiskey Rebellion; the Seven Years’, Thirty Years’, and Hundred Years’ Wars; World Wars…)
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Or do you just resent men? And in particular resent the young men who didn’t create the patriarchically oppressive society you grew up in and which you now blame them for?
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You recognize that requires “helping” women to adapt to the same, right?
You recognize that women at every socioeconomic level only dating men in higher levels despite there no longer being a systemic step-shift between men and women creates a huge issue for society, right?
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Who teaches them this, Elizabeth?
Might it be an issue that women preserving expectations from a patriarchal system creates issues in an egalitarian one?
Have you considered that they learn this from the women who won’t take an interest in men who don’t outearn them (i.e., the majority)?
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FFS. Is it a societal crisis that women go to other women for advice about what men want instead of talking to men? And that that seems normal, too?
Or that women are taught that if men outperform them, that isn’t about male talent but systemic oppression of women?
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And straight women should stop asking each other for relationship advice and actually ask men about what they want and need instead, right?
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This is a fine example of womansplaining.
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It continually astounds me that Palmer Luckey continually chooses to look like that despite having enough money to hire the world’s best stylists and barbers and personal trainers and keep them on retainer for life.
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“In a victory for Japan, Germany has joined the war against America”
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Yes. Yes, she did.
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(and would certainly be more directly relevant to the context of Scott’s comments as he explicitly does Not advocate abstinence, but rather moderation of porn viewing)
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Why does it have to be abstinence?
High rates of porn viewing/masturbation vs low rates of porn viewing/masturbation seems like it would be illuminating on the subject
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He doesn’t say that though. He’s not preaching abstinence—explicitly, he says he watches porn but he intentionally limits/moderates it so that he puts more energy into his relationship with his wife. And that is his advice to men.
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And because in reflecting on who He was as a young man, he knows himself enough to recognize that if he’d had such easy access to that stimuli through internet porn, it would’ve been much more tempting for him to put more energy into that than into those more positive pursuits
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Scott’s advice to men is: put more of your energy into your relationship with your mate, or into efforts that improve yourself and will help you attract a mate, and less energy into self-gratification that does nothing else for you.
He says “porn” b/c it’s the easy access path to masturbation
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Taking you in good faith, I feel like I’m missing the point you’re making here.
In the context of Scott’s comments and my questions in this thread, this feels like a distinction without a difference…
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Or for the studies you have done, or have reviewed, have any of them looked at how *a change* in porn viewing rates has impacted any of the factors you’ve indexed?
Does the same man have higher or lower quality (or more positive or more negative) results as he increases or decreases porn use?
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Or alternatively, have you done a study that examines the rates of porn usage among *lonely,* *unhappy* single men and compared their rates of porn usage to men who are happily in committed long-term relationships as two separate populations?
That would be another relevant set of data
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Have you done any longitudinal studies on men who would like to have a long-term relationship with a woman and compared the success rates of achieving and maintaining that between men who watch a lot of porn and men who don’t?
Because *that* would be the relevant data to refute Scott’s claim.
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It feels we’re talking past each other. Both Scott and I are talking about finding a mate and having a healthy, long-term romantic relationship.
You keep citing “has a lot of sexual partners” as though that is the same desirable outcome.
It’s not.
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The available data, including the data you’ve cited, does not refute this claim.
Men who view porn—and thus masturbate—more have lower quality outcomes in dating and relationships.
Scott’s advice was to…men.
Do you actually have an issue with his advice to watch porn less and pursue a mate more?
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Fair enough
Having read your post, your reply to Galloway strikes me as quibbling.
You yourself state that the point of porn is masturbation. Galloway is saying that men should put that energy into their partners and into having a drive to secure a partner instead of putting it into masturbation.
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On what basis are you making the claim it “cannot” be? There is an observable difference between the effect experienced by men and the effect experienced by men.
What explains the difference?
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Well, two things can be true at once.
AI won’t actually be able to effectively replace 50% of entry-level white collar jobs in the next 1-5 years, but dipshit investors and cowardly executives could nonetheless layoff that many workers under the misguided belief that it will.
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What data I’ve seen—and I haven’t seen much, nor do I claim to be an expert; I’m a curious layman—pointed to a connection *among men* between watching porn and decreased relationship adjustment and relationship commitment.
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What about romantic relationships though?
Also, has the data established a causal relationship? I.e., that more porn viewing *leads to* higher drive or more partners?
Because if not, it seems like a pretty obvious assumption that people with higher sex drives would be inclined to watch more porn
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OMW is what elevated Scalzi to the pantheon of SF masters. You should read it.
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A reminder of how absurd the premise of her character is in that movie. The trauma she’d experience losing her family, just about every friend or social contact she ever had, and every level of “home” from her palace to her city to her society to her planet. And 15 minutes later she’s nonchalant.
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One thing we know for certain that automated weapon systems won’t have is a conscience or the ability to make moral decisions, like refusing to follow an illegal, immoral, or unethical order.
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If you have a smart surgeon, you don’t need the scalpel to be smart to get the tumor excised.
Also, “AI” is no where near being actually “smart.” And Teslas, to use the ex. he cited, kill people when driving automated in edge cases like bad weather or sunlight shining on reflective surfaces.
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MF is The Worst.
He and Jack Welch accomplished so much rending of the fabric of society.
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Yes, today they’re not being held to the same standard that Clinton was correctly held to in press coverage from 2016.
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Yes. Yes, she does.
Just like rockstars selling concert tickets, the handful of podcasts at the top are significantly more lucrative than the long tail of thousands below
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NNT’s extremistan 👍
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Good lord, citing wikipedia to a person who actually knows the subject?
If you’re just interested in cynical arguing, no thanks.
If you actually want to learn something, go read some books. Start with The Dawn of Everything
(actually read The Book, not its summary on Amazon 😉)
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Are we talking about human nature still? Doesn’t sound like it…
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The Wendat, classical Teotihuacan, and the Haudenosaunee for example
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No, they should be strategic in order to get into a position of power to stop fascism in its tracks.
What they shouldn’t do is prevent that from happening by shooting themselves in the foot while Not in a position of power and accomplishing nothing while doing so.
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This is not “true” human nature. There are countless examples of societies in humanity’s past where these traits were not a dominant feature. They’re just dominant in the violent, aggressive societies that most of the modern world descended from.
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The Empire’s reach doesn’t cover the entire galaxy. Tatooine is a desert planet w/o resources located in Hutt territory. Not worth the effort to invade and take control, so the Empire made a deal w/ the Hutts to keep a garrison there to monitor hyperspace lanes. Not an example of imperial hypocrisy.
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Try putting more than 15 seconds of thought into this.
Impeachment is not going to happen. Dems in Congress should be focused on preventing the passage of harmful legislation and using their physical presence in the world to bring attention to fascist acts. Not pointless infighting like you say.
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This would accomplish nothing. It has Zero chance of passing in the House or Senate.
They should be focusing efforts on *actually affecting outcomes for real live human beings right now* not handicapping themselves with pointless symbolic procedural gestures