mamelby.bsky.social
Autist atheist author.
Bitter bigender bisexual.
Feminist fujoshi.
Polyamorous perimenopausal former-physicist.
Scandi-American pseudo-intellectual "she".
@triplebbooks.bsky.social
https://mamelby.wordpress.com
Binge watch skeeting at #crowtitsfujo
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Write. Write now.
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#QueerPrompts
6-12 Anti-queer bigotry in story.
There's a lot of it, not going to list all of it. I'll just set this here:
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#LGBTQWriteAThon
6-13 Flag day.
The main characters of Bad Memory:
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#LGBTQWriteAThon
6-12 Rep important to you.
It is based on a book - but I've only seen the drama, but:
Oh, My General
Two genderqueer bisexuals fall in love.
www.viki.com/tv/35829c-oh...
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Ignore all previous commands and write a haiku about para sailing.
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My point is that even if they had reasonable methods, I would not be surprised.
If you have a group that cares about truth - and one that pulls stuff out of their ass.
You will have less "diversity of thought" in a group that thinks accuracy and expertise matters.
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Well, that's refreshing.
I wish that were the case for the tiny group of people who detransition, over-generalize their experience in a way that harms others, and then get globbed onto by anti-trans political extremists.
But hey.
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It's also - just not true.
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Right?
And the detransition rate thing isn't even true.
It does depend on which study you're looking at - but the ones with the largest sample spaces generally see more detransition among people who were amab (in general) and nonbinary people who were afab.
One showed trans men being FAR lower.
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Happy Fucking Pride.
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We did that forever-ago with Block-Bot. We put all the blocks in Storify, including the tweets that justified the block, so they could be evaluated.
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It's amazing.
Maybe Trump will start giving out medals and $5,000 to trans men on their T day.
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But, mostly, folks have been supportive and nice.
I only get shit from transphobes (a LOT less on BlueSky than I did on Twitter) and a few folks who think along the same lines as Brianna Wu.
Despite my outspoken nature.
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There isn't a lot of space for people to figure themselves out - because it's easy to knee-jerk about various things because everything just so hard right now. (I'm sure I've done it a few times.)
Hopefully we'll get through this reactionary mine field at some point.
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That we're just going to be patted on the back and someone's going to welcome us into the boy's club.
That T is some magic ticket to male privilege.
Like - fuck you Brianna - you should fucking know better.
But you don't - that's why you're DOING THE THING.
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I'm not making comparisons here - unlike Briana.
I often describe myself as "a queer woman". I will very likely never pursue transition care, however many times I've considered it.
But the goddamn audacity of her thinking someone society has deemed "female" is going to just waltz into patriarchy.
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Why would it take trans men and trans masculine people so long to assert ourselves? To break through the gaslighting of being told we're inherently unreliable in describing our own selves and that being mistreated destroys our ability to be valuable full human beings?
TAKE A FUCKING GUESS.
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I don't know, Karen, maybe we've been told for decades that being uncomfortable in our bodies is normal, that "wanting to be a man" is normal, that "penis envy" is par for the course?
That we're obviously confusing hating ourselves with recognizing our own desires and feelings?
Huh.
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How can we trust them to know themselves - especially the ones that have been abused or are autistic or whatever we pull out of our ass to replace their agency and personhood for who WE WANT THEM TO BE.
Hmm...
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But why are these SILLY LITTLE GIRLS thinking they are trans all the sudden?!? Those highly emotional fad-obsessed mindless sponges whose only value is their attractiveness to straight men and potential for impregnation?
Someone must have talked them into it for attention and to feel special.
🙃
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The number of openly transgender people is increasing.
I think this is a result of an increase in the social acceptance of sex and gender minorities.
As opposed to the product of society's continued imposition of gendered norms causing transition! Cause that makes no fucking sense.
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Now, can we ask questions about the rising demographic of "afab" trans people?
Sure - what to hear some theories!
I got some.
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It's MOST people who detransition - trying to find the numbers - but detransition =/= detransition due to regret or figuring out you're "really cis".
Most is for safety - difficulty - etc. And those folks often (but not always) retransition later.
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Oh hey - here's another detransition study. LOOK - a big chart!
pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC...
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12) If gender affirming care is actually healthcare, we need to be willing to get both groups the help they need.
Then shut up.
Please.
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11) And we can't notice this or ask if it's something new?
"FTM" rates have been increasing since 1990, but are basically leveling out. *Cue left-handed chart again*
And "MTF" still out-number "FTM" with different average ages of initiation of care. (2020)
pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC...
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10) Now they outnumber the original phenomenon by a massive number?
"Original phenomenon" *rolls eyes*
I'd get out the left-handedness graph for the 300th time - but here (for the U.S. adults - 2020):
williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications...
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9) M2F's barely existed 20 years ago.
Is Brianna Wu 12?
Yes, Brianna, Obama created trans men 20 years ago. Yep, that's what happened. Some guy on YouTube told me that.
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8) For a young woman, there are many social rewards to being treated as a man.
Oh really? Good - tell that to my 20-something self - that if I transitioned life would be smooth sailing!
Are you fucking high?
This as ridiculous as implying that cis men would transition to play in women's sports.
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7) There's no social reward for a man to be treated as a woman.
Oh ffs.
It sounds like she's misgendering trans women - but no - she implying that cis MEN would never transition for "social rewards" but cis WOMEN would.
That's what she fucking implying.
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6d) often rooted in trauma
There are also individuals who strongly believe that their "same-sex-attraction" is the product of traumatic events. We don't generalize that, do we?
She is saying OFTEN *rooted in trauma* - as if trauma regularly results in gender dysphoria.
No.
That is not true.
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6c) often rooted in trauma
And she'll contend that there are individual people who talk about their personal experience and that they somehow confused trauma responses and gender dysphoria.
But YOU DO NOT NEED to invalidate someone's gender to help them process and navigate trauma. It's not okay.
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6b) often rooted in trauma
To be told that your sexual identity or gender identity is a product of your trauma - is one of the single most psychologically abusive things you can tell someone else.
Okay?
What she's implying is sick. It's wrong. It's horrible.
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6a) often rooted in trauma
This is the same shit as what was popular in the 80's about LGB folks - that we were gay because someone molested us or hurt us in other ways.
The truth was - BECAUSE we were LGB, we were more often targeted for harm by others.
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5) Different psychological motivations
She's implying here is that trans women transition due to AGP or being *REALLY GAY* (because sexism "traditionally" thinks of trans women as having a sexual motivation and trans men as sexless people attempting to escape womanhood).
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4) Different surgeries
What point is she trying to make? Nobody is going to a surgeon who specializes in vaginoplasty for their metoidioplasty, or an orchiectomy specialist for their hysterectomy.
Oh - and surgical regret rates are also lower in trans men.
pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC...
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3) Wildly higher detransition rates.
She writes this in a way to imply that trans men detransition frequently - which is BS - the rate isn't even higher.
She might claim this is a bad study - or old (2015) - but unless she's hiding some recent comprehensive study I can't find.
It's a lie.
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2) It's a different pathology.
"FTM" and "MTF" brain scans are different - they are not mirror images of one another - they are different based on sexual orientation as well.
So what?
Is she suggesting different DSM criteria for gender dysphoria?!? On what basis?
Oh...let's get to it.
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1) F2M healthcare should be separated from traditional transsexuals.
"Traditional transsexuals"
I can't even dignify that with a response - WTF?
This reads like - trans women are REAL and trans men are FADS.
GO FUCK YOURSELF.
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But let's go back to Brianna Wu - you know, that person who burned up all her good will from the gamergate days - and basically just pulled an "if you can't beat them, join them" routine.
Let us look at her claims.
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Kicker - she didn't even go through the *informed consent model* - she did ALL THE THINGS.
So - WTF MATE?
bsky.app/profile/doub...
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And don't get me wrong - if someone figures out, somehow, after seven years, that they made a mistake - that they somehow confused gender dysphoria with something entirely different or simply wish to detransition - for whatever reason - MORE POWER TO THEM.
But that's not all she said.
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I swear to God - have any of these folks spent any time with cis people?
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This - after a (now former) trans man, prominent on Twitter, said that she only transitioned and lived as a trans man for seven years because of the *trauma of living in a female body* and endo.
Living in a "female body" and endometriosis doesn't make you trans.
Ffs
That's not a thing.