saschasasha.bsky.social
Queer deafblind writer of speculative fiction, and poet of all the other dark things that slip through the cracks. Usually found with coffee, my guide dog, and earbuds in. Transmasc. Part time Swiftie stan account. He/they
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Oh my god. Of course he did. And it actually worked, too. This is the greatest thing I’ve ever seen
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I’m another aspiring novelist and an #UglyDog, and I am SO here for this. All hail novels with the Best Dogs involved. (Mine involves the kind I’m most familiar with, guide dogs). I’m so glad this research trip worked out, and sending all the writing vibes your way.
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Words cannot express my excitement for mine
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I love her
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SAME. IT’S SO NICE. I’d been out as enby for a few years before I finally figured out I was in fact a whole dude, and it feels like that last puzzle piece has finally snapped into place.
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Oh I’m SO here for explicitly masc pieces, even as my wallet trembles. I love y’all’s work but a lot of it isn’t my personal vibe, although it’s all beautiful. Can’t WAIT to see the new offerings
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When I have eye surgeries, there’s only one eye in a socket (my right is OEM, left aftermarket). In pre-op, a minimum of two people and my surgeon, who has known me since I was 6 months old and removed my original left eye, ask me which eye they’re operating on and mark it. Go safety precautions.
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I’ve had majority eye surgeries. I only have one remaining OEM eye, and I remove my prosthetic eye in pre-op because anesthesia can discolor it.
And yet, every single surgery, they mark underneath my right eye socket, which is the only socket that actually has an eye in it by that point.
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I can’t speak to wait times/other issues right now, as I’m still in the process of submitting my initial form, but I wanted to get this info out ASAP. I will say that I’ve had no issues speaking to anyone on the phone, even once I explicitly stated I was trying to change my gender marker.
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And as I got warned about on the phone by an extremely helpful employee: the address shown on any ID given *MUST* match the address you put on the form to mail the updated birth certificate to. If you don’t have primary ID with the correct mailing address, you can submit two secondary ID documents
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A few notes:
If you’re doing option 1, you can use the same ID for proof of identity, but the marker must match. If you’re not doing option 1 or submitting different proof of gender and proof of identity documents, they don’t have to match.
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I have spoken with multiple people at NC vital records and they have all independently confirmed the form is correct and any of those three options are valid.
The form can be found here with instructions on how to submit it: vitalrecords.nc.gov/documents/NC...
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Option 2: provide a “certification signed by a physician, psychiatrist, physician's assistant, licensed therapist, counselor, psychologist, case worker, or social worker stating, based on their professional opinion” your gender identity.
Or option 3: proof of gender reassignment surgery.
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Option 1: provide a photocopy of a valid NC license/ID with the marker as you would like it shown on the corrected birth certificate *OR* provide a photocopy of a valid federal passport with the marker as you would like it shown on the corrected birth certificate.
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Definitely! Pretty sure I have pieces from y’all that aren’t explicitly masc but work for me, but I’d really appreciate having that category as an option too
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Wooo! Idk what state you’re in, but NC DMVs are a nightmare re: appointments (the entire state is booked until April) so I’m going as a walk in. Realistically I know state law hasn’t changed + l’ll be dressed masc and speaking at the low end of my vocal range, but I’m still a little nervous
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More broadly, Real ID is not federal identification, it’s a national set of standards for state identification. I can see that being fucked with later, but for now it’s not affected under the EO
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But I don’t know and that’s mostly me guessing
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Also no idea about trying to apply for a new Real ID vs. updating a current one. I’m doing the latter so I don’t have to provide any extra documentation. My instinct would be that as long as all the documentation you give for a new Real ID matches the gender marker you want, you should be fine?
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I do not know for certain but I believe they aren’t affected yet; I haven’t seen anything saying they are from journalists covering this situation. I think maybe they could be once the Real ID law finally goes into effect in May? That’s why I’m getting mine updated.
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Name changes do not involve gender markers. Adoption does only in certain cases re: birth certificates, which would again be bound by the laws in the state that issued the original birth certificate.
I understand shit is scary but there’s limits to what that EO does.
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I can absolutely see individual transphobic passport officials trying to confiscate passports because they’re on a power trip. That part makes sense. But birth certificates and IDs are all bound by state laws which the EO doesn’t touch. The only federal markers are passport and Social Security
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Do you have other evidence? I’m going to get my state ID gender marker updated next week. The rules for changing the gender marker on my state ID are made by NC state law, which allows it. The EO has no effect on that. The image says drivers licenses. That’s the part I’m side-eyeing
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To be clear I am not accusing the original poster here on BlueSky of anything, I’m speaking to the image. But the story in said image doesn’t add up logically.
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To be clear I am not accusing the original poster here on BlueSky of anything, I’m speaking to the image. But the story in said image doesn’t add up logically.
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I figured it out before I went to guide dog training by just sitting down and brute-force trial and error figuring out how to tie a knot by feel alone. Now I have no issues lacing combat boots. But at the time, it was a reminder I was not normal + extra effort. Easier to just not, so they didn’t.
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Also, if somebody can’t learn the normal way, it’s even harder. I didn’t learn to tie a knot, including shoelaces, until college because the way my family taught it was incompatible with my blind brain/concept of spatial relations. Add in neglect and they just never bothered trying to teach me.
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I was an EXTREMELY parentified child, but the one thing I never taught myself was cooking. I decided my vision + the absolute HELLSTORM that would ensue if I set off a fire alarm and the 11 year old alone in the house all day got found meant it wasn’t worth it, but I’m figuring it out in college
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Hopefully if it becomes more commonly done it’ll become easier to cite! APA and MLA just kinda threw their hands up and went “*shrug* try your best” which was fun in an asynchronous online summer class lol. Thankfully my professor didn’t count anything off
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I am but baby undergrad but I had a similar problem (I had to make a press release as if the product was just announced so I needed the pages in their original forms which did not exist currently).
Wayback Machine saved my bacon. Was a pain to cite, but it was something?
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Oh my god!!! It’s my buddy!!! Thank you so much!
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Considering how clearly she and one uncle have indicated that me continuing to be trans means I am not a part of this family, I’m a little shocked I’m being included. Though I guess if I was absent she’d have to explain why, and they refuse to admit to anyone who doesn’t know I came out.
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Soph the explorer!
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Thank you so much!
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As I frantically try to move Christmas money into my debit account fast enough: is there a list of price points pls? Love your work!
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Oh my god they move??? That’s precious
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I think there’s a place for little-c conservatives in any system in the sense that there’s always going to be people who are cautious in the face of those pushing for New Things!!! New Reforms!!! because that’s how people work.
I do NOT think our conservatives are that. They’re reactionary bigots.
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I have no framework for politics outside of total war. None. The idea of bipartisanship makes me laugh. Even if we get a reasonable opposition party in a few decades, I will *never* support working with it. That’s just a way to get screwed. I have been told this is not how politics should work.
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I do, actually! Grandparents have computers that old, I think the main tower at their house runs, at best, Windows XP? Could be older.
I can’t use them these days, but back when I had some actually functional vision I could. It was one of my favorite party tricks in elementary school, lol.
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Hey, hate to do this here but Bluesky isn’t letting me message you, do you mind messaging me? Mine should be open. I promise it is related to this post.
(I am same Sascha as chainmail bracelet from the auction Sascha, hence trying to message you. My personal email is on strike atm)
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Thank you! I bought your chrysanthemum necklace for my little sister and I can’t wait to see her reaction to it, it’s so perfectly her style