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Looking back I realize that they were making my life about themselves - that they had better Drs and therapists and saw my words as an attack on their providers, and their pain about relationships ending because they transitioned.
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Yep. It was a weird situation of people being angry that I said negative things about my Drs and therapists and my then-wife. I was dealing with a lot of gatekeeping from the professionals and my ex was an "I'm an ally" who was transphobic to me.
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That got especially bad for me just before I had bottom surgery; a lot of attitude that I didn't deserve it and even claiming "you took a surgery spot away from a trans woman who needs it more." When my recovery went very poorly that anger just got worse, "you're so ungrateful!"
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What I got was much more trans specific. I would point out that Dykes on Bikes are a thing (I ride motorcycles as well) and would be told "that's different."
I took to distancing myself from most trans groups because of the anger that would happen because I was gendered correctly.
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I also get it from the same factions for generally passing in what they deem to be the wrong way - specifically that trans women are somehow not allowed to be butch, etc., because that's "not following the rules" and "not trying hard enough."
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I won't soon forget the announcement about a fatal train vs bicycle incident before our station when on the way home from DC last November.
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I had a different experience there in the late 90s and early 00s.
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I decided that it was outright hazing after one responded to me pointing that out by saying "it's your responsibility to be seen on time regardless of my schedule."
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If it weren't affecting my health I would have enjoyed watching them squirm as they bullshitted their way through why having no measurable serum estradiol level (below the normal male range, even!) was perfectly acceptable for me.
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I have had similar experiences in the US after surgery: "we're cutting your E dose by at least 50% and won't check your serum E levels thereafter because it doesn't matter if it's low as the protocol says this is the maximum we can prescribe to you."
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My partner and I are trans and trying to get the fuck out of the US.
gofund.me/368dcede
Luckily we can cross the bridge with our enhanced IDs. Just have to figure out how to stay longer than a visitors visa.
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I have found that it's not with most trans spaces or groups. There's a lot of belief in passing as solving a math problem - that if they wear the right things, etc., they will achieve it. The result was much anger over me getting gendered correctly when I wasn't doing what they decided was required
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I have pulled back from trans spaces because of how it goes. Being a trans woman who is butch and rides motorcycles has meant that it has a habit of becoming anger because I'm viewed by other trans people as "not trying hard enough" to deserve it.
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E.g. I think of where I might be if I had gotten the light FFS and boob job that I wanted. It would have been about the same money as the bottom surgery I was coerced into and undoubtedly have had a much more positive impact on my life
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I feel this, especially because so many years were spent under the thumb of controlling cis people who used power over my life (financial, letters, and prescriptions) to pressure me to make the transition decisions that they decided were better than what I wanted for my body.
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Oddly it took going to a PCP rather than endocrinologists for me to get that progress. The endos, all WPATH members, I first saw were all about never prescribing injections, max patches dose of 0.10mg/day and oral as the only option if that wasn't enough.
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You are very cute
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“i just met you /
and this crazzzzzy/
but i hate trans lesbians/
And boofed kratom maybe”
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tip tuesday bsky.app/profile/sine...
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I even experienced it in IT. Got reorged into a department with a manager who felt women were not capable of the job. I would write code to automate manual tasks and it would be rejected until one of my coworkers "discovered" it and submitted it for review at which point it was immediately passed.
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One of his unsurprising moves.
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MLK knew precisely who white moderates were 60 years ago and they haven't changed in the least.
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still unemployed for vanilla work & not getting food stamps reliably as a result - anything helps right now 💙✨.
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