skeletonpup.bsky.social
tired student, gamer & cat mom | interested in studying rural healthcare & SDOHs
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I appreciate your advice a ton and I am definitely going to cut her some slack on this because she has always been a good friend. And perhaps she needs me now more than ever that she is stuck with this guy :/
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The "temporary insanity" line made me laugh and feel so much better LOL that makes sense.
Also, her now-husband does not like me at ALL (long story but he's an insecure redpill misogynist pretending to not be) so I wonder if he could be in her ear antagonizing an already sensitive topic. Ugh.
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genuinely I have no clue!! ☹️ She knows I really don't like her husband (although I keep this to myself) so I wonder if she thinks I lied to get out of it? That's the only other thing I could think of. I also ended up failing the exam too bc I couldn't study for it, so it all just really sucks.
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maybe she's not angry and maybe she's just sad but idk, it's a lot and I'm just tired
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that's how I feel too! I struggle with understanding social norms & what is/isn't rude, so I appreciate knowing it wasn't me just making a massive social faux pas here. There wouldn't have been any way around the exam regardless but I just didn't realize it would come off as rude to her.
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I totally agree about the sad thing, I think I would be really sad too so I understand.
I just wish she would communicate with me now but she seems really upset :( Thanks for helping me not feel insane.
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she texted me something today that felt mildly passive aggressive and when I sent her an apology she left me on read :/ then she sent me a picture of us at the wedding with no text and when I responded to that, she left me on read again. i just don't know how to fix it I guess
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this has been such a shitty and miserable week.
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perhaps my crime is not letting her know earlier that I couldn't attend her reception but I had always let her know from the beginning that I wasn't sure if I could make it because it was during exam time.
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it was a 2.5 hour drive home and the exam was due at 6 pm. couldn't have taken it earlier because it opened at 6pm the night before and I made that 2.5 drive there and back the day before as well for the bridal shower. idk what more I could have done but I upset my friend.
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SO precious
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It honestly hurt me quite a lot.
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I was also told that I should feel lucky that I received any aid at all.
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Also I was very pleasant and kind, since I know financial aid officers take a lot of abuse that isn't their fault, but I haven't been able to shake this conversation all day.
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very weird considering, again, 1. she knows nothing about me, 2. i qualify as a student from a disadvantaged background, 3. wrote my entire admissions essay about surviving PTSD from childhood & a traumatic event in college.
So. There's that.
Needless to say, I will not be attending.
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I appreciate that!!
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Honestly I just wanted them to know that their hard work paid off and that they were immensely helpful to me (one of my professors mentioned that it was an extremely lengthy questionnaire haha) 😊
So it helps to know that it would probably be nice for them to hear!
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I feel stupid asking this but I just wanted to ask bc I didn't know if it was proper protocol to let them know
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I'm also unable to attend the program because of financial reasons (I got massively fucked over by the school I applied to) so I'm wondering if I should say anything at all
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Thank you!!! That is a really good idea! ❤️ I will reach out to one of them. like you said I'm sure they feel the same way because like ?????!!!!!! 500 is INSANE
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They said that they do offer up to 100% financial aid based on income and also offer a merit scholarship but they won't let me see it until I pay the $500. So my fear is that I pay the $500 and then get no aid and won't be able to afford it because it's astronomical since it's a private school. 😭
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It's for a master's program! It's vocational (it's a like post-bacc for people who want to become an advanced practice nurse or DNP later) and idk anyone who has done one so I never know what is normal/not. 😢 It's a 2 year program but I will look and see if they have a TA/RA position!!
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Literally!!!! Shit like this feels like it was designed in a lab to be horrible at this point.
Even down to the part where you can't use a credit card. Like?!
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Not sure if this is normal for grad schools (I only applied to one.) but I did NOT have to pay this for my undergrad matriculation fee which was also a really good school. But the undergraduate school is public so maybe that's the difference?
Idk. Again, lots of feelings. 🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠
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And you may be thinking "What kind of scam school is expecting you to pay a $500 cash deposit to matriculate?"
And the answer is, unfortunately, a top 10 university in the United States.
Academia is gatekept so fucking hard from people who are not wealthy.
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They offer financial aid but they won't let me see the offer until I accept my admission to their program. Which sounds reasonable until you learn that I have to pay a non-refundable CASH (!!!) advanced deposit of $500 in order to matriculate.
Yes.
$500.
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oh to be a cat!!
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But it's very pretty and I'm very happy and it was the perfect weekend!!