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thisisbgm.bsky.social
Activist, author, queer theologian, relationship coach 🏳️‍🌈 ✡️ queertheology.com thisisbgm.com 🔵 Connect with your deepest values and live them out 🔵 Build relationships on your own terms 🔵 Sex & queerness are already holy 🔵 Community is key
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Just an evergreen reminder that whether or not it's a choice to be queer doesn't really matter to me. I would choose it over and over and over again. What a gift it is.

submitted 2 days ago • 2 comments

If your politics are focused on the actual sources of people's suffering, you will feel grounded and on purpose.

submitted 4 days ago • 4 comments

Appreciate this reflection by @theradr.bsky.social “Let us break open, rather than close up.” It is a hurting world, but I still believe healing is possible and will not stop working toward that precious vision.

submitted 8 days ago • 0 comments

i thought i was done with shame. but after leading our first sex+spirituality cohort at QueerTheology.com—and going through the exercises myself—I uncovered a bit more. There's a type of underwear I've thought, since I was a teenager, was so sexy. But I could never bring myself to get a pair [1/6]

submitted 10 days ago • 1 comment

"You are not giving up, and neither am I. The fact that we cannot save everything does not mean we cannot save anything and everything we can save is worth saving. You may need to grieve or scream or take time off, but you have a role no matter what, [...]

submitted 10 days ago • 1 comment

One of the lies my ADHD, anxious sometimes depressed brain tells me is that if I do nothing, eventually "it" will pass. Clarity will just appear. The anxiety will melt away. The depression will fade. That if I just take ONE MORE middle of the day nap, FINALLY I'll feel rested.

submitted 11 days ago • 1 comment

One of the ways that democracy dies is that a leader/party so thoroughly wrests control of the political, media, and cultural machines that even though there is opposition and elections, they don’t stand a chance. The Kennedy Center takeover is part of that plan.

submitted 16 days ago • 1 comment

Kinksters will teach you about a healthy relationship with God (if you'll let them/us)

submitted 16 days ago • 1 comment

Trump’s executive orders are not law. This doctor knows it. Many hospital systems know it. Those that comply with something not passed by congress and with power not constitutionally granted to the president are cowardly.

submitted 17 days ago • 46 comments

I wouldn't be the man I am today w/o so many trans guys in my life who taught me how to be a man. We need more trans insights into masculinity b/c i'ts is in a bit of a sorry state right now. I really think my friend Shannon's new book will help us all. Pre-order yours here: https://amzn.to/41d7zrZ

submitted 17 days ago • 1 comment

I take propecia to prevent hair loss & when I was considering starting it years ago, I was having angst about paying each month for something that seemed kinda "vain." One of my friends, who is trans, was like "spending money on medication to make you feel better in your body?"

submitted 18 days ago • 1 comment

POV: I'm trying to entice you out of bed with a silly little good morning dance ☀️

submitted 19 days ago • 2 comments

I just feel like if I get shown more compassion from the guy who ties me up and spanks me then I get from your version of God… … that’s a problem with your version of God.

submitted 21 days ago • 0 comments

For me it’s twice daily Celsius and sooooo many checklists

submitted 21 days ago • 1 comment

"How often do you fidget or have trouble sitting still? Never, rarely, sometimes, often, or very often?" my psychiatrist asked. "Rarely," I told her, while I had been tapping my foot most of the the session so far and had rearranged my sitting position like 7 times. WHOOPS

submitted 21 days ago • 2 comments

Read my friend Shannon's weekly email from last night and this really spoke to me: "I also know that, even in the midst of great crisis, there is work to do that matters. And it might not directly be connected to what’s happening politically at any given moment, but [cont'd]"

submitted 23 days ago • 1 comment