willawillnot.bsky.social
She/her | Baltimore | 29 | Electrical engineer working on prosthetics 🦾
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my hot take is that the denominator should be something like e^([0.001ish]*following), coefficient subject to testing. 100/100, 1000/1000, and 10000/10000 are all very different vibes; high following counts just look spammy. 100/100 gets a 90, 1000/1000 gets a 367, 10000/10000 gets less than zero.
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there are a million reasons that i feel joy about my neovagina and this is not one of them. this is just despair. my ability and desire to go through this difficult and expensive process should not be turned into something so crass as a sorting category for inhumane prisons.
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MD gets a lot of good word of mouth among trans people b/c our name and sex changes (incl on birth certificates) are all self-ID, but i guess none of that matters the moment you're detained. all docs female, but if (either by choice or limited access) you have a penis, you get sent off for torture.
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that MD (my state) determines housing exclusively on genitalia made me sick to my stomach. if my friends and i are walking around and get wrongfully arrested for w/e bullshit, i dont think my heart could take watching us be sorted into Hell and SuperHell based on whod been able to get bottom surgery
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thank you for covering this. a lot of marylanders just assume trans rights here are "doing alright" across the board, but we have horrifying abuses like this happening in our own state.
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the comparison you made to rosa parks, while positive, was disrespectful for how flippant it was. that's where the comment gains a racist edge to it, and what people reacted to.
racism is a thing you do, not a thing you are. life contains a series of opportunities to stop doing it.
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that's fine. i don't do the hard work of growing solidarity because i want people to like me. have a good evening.
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literally immediately makes me think of shitty elementary school computer labs
i remember the day they came in to give everyone hearing tests and the technician handed me the over ear headphones i was like. wow. headphones that dont hurt my ears. these must cost 3 brajillion dollars
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literally i am so eager to meet the first substantial crop of people at the intersection of "gender neutral parenting" and "ending up nonbinary." i absolutely must know if they as a group want to be called cis. if so, screw you cis people we're stealing being cis too
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but if you cannot say something kind to a woman actually staring down this reality then maybe you shouldn't speak directly to her.
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i often work to galvanize white trans women previously unengaged with seeking justice for incarcerated ppl to pay attention to and fight for all abused by the prison system. the best time to get involved was years ago; the second best time is now.
i know why you're irked at us. i'm working on it.
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prison rape is the norm for trans women in prison. black trans women are doubly vulnerable to this abhorrent violence, but that doesn't mean other trans women are safe. one of the most prominent prisoners fighting to be free of it is a white trans woman.
www.themarshallproject.org/2024/10/09/t...
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💜 of course. if you or anyone else wants to talk to me about this in the future my inbox is open.
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disqualifying on the insurance end or the provider end? if it's the latter, i may know someone who can help.
im just being kinda cagey bc like. bluesky is hyper public and access to transition care for systems is a sensitive topic and im mindful of bad faith readers.
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the gist essentially is "i know a surgeon you don't have to lie to about the DID, assuming your system has consensus on going forward."
if the issue *is* consensus though, i feel for you. sharing a body is hard.
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then def feel free to message me, here or discord (same handle there.) perms don't let me message you here. i should be able to respond in abt 30 minutes
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no need to respond if this is off base, but i've seen you talk about this a couple times, and if the impediment is DID i know some good news and you're welcome to message me abt it. but im well aware there are other impediments you could be speaking of. again, not probing, respond only if you want.
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the moment her legal defense fund is available not only am i donating but i'm also telling all of my cis family to donate as well if they want to support my rights to exist in society
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no alt text is also a signal that could be consumed by software and interpreted as "attempt OCR and/or summary of this image and report to user," while bad alt text is just bad alt text
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i wish i was. i wasn't expecting much, yet this somehow blew my mind with how embarrassing a display it was. felt like a sucker for even being there.
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i remember when he announced this he was saying it was because he had millions in unpaid bills from private insurance clients. which makes no sense. like does he just not remind people to pay their copays??? that's a your front office problem my guy
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there are a million things i could say in response to this filth but i think what sums it all up is "eugenicists will never liberate anyone"
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that's a QUOTE? like that always seemed to be the unspoken destination of all his weird developmental theories, but i didn't know he just straight up fucking said it
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yep
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it drives me bonkers when people defend him! like okay "he's a doctor who will get you a decent dose if your normal doc is being stingy" is one thing, but he's so goddamn creepy about 'explaining' our existence. if any other cis man wrote this we'd be irate!
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furthermore if this person was a trans woman and she started to make references to a cult that recruits mentally ill trans woman, several of whose members are jailed on serious charges, i would not react by screenshotting and laughing, an action liable to increase her vulnerability to recruitment
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I have a lot of fears about living in this world where fascism is on the rise. But being part of the Fuck You I Wont Do What You Tell Me religion is something that centers me.
May we all hold those persecuted in the Light. Some of us hear that as a prayer. All of us hear that as a call to action.
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Quakers have only existed for about 400 years and our primary defining characteristic for that entire time has been "thinking both religious and civil law are unjust." We can barely agree on anything except "we won't let priests and ministers tell us what to do." The one core belief is just Dissent.
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how powerbottoms cut their food
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i keep it swapped, fork stays in left hand so long as i'm eating the food that requires a knife.
for me it's because the dexterity is better spent on the knife, which will make The Worst Sound On The Planet if it hits the plate with the same force i was using to cut the food
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if someone you respect suddenly started erratically posting about gangstalking your first conclusion would not be "oh wow, i guess this person has secretly believed gangstalking is real all these years"
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i recognize in her a kindred love-of-learning autism. when she was confused why my surgeon wants me to get an annual pelvic exam, and i told her my surgeon has a standing offer to call patients' PCPs/gynos to explain what to do, her eyes practically lit up with excitement lmao
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she wasn't ordering vaginal swabs in my routine STI panels because "current evidence based guidelines don't support asymptomatic neovaginal swabs" and i was like. that's stupid, neovaginas aren't immune to STIs, you know this. and she was like you know what yeah that is stupid i'll put in the order.