If someone said “Saeed, it’s important to be respectful” and I interpreted that message as an indictment… well, you’d be right to be concerned about me and for me.
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Josh Olson
It's a brutal time for young men, and to be raising one. The primary message they now is get is "YOU'RE BAD" without any meaningful attempt to offer healthy pathways beyond "Don't be a boy."
Absolutely perfect time for right wing monsters to sweep in with shitty answers.
Absolutely perfect time for right wing monsters to sweep in with shitty answers.
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Maybe they could just try giving everyone the dignity and respect they've received by default since birth?
People with more power are so scared about losing what they know they don’t deserve.
It’s a tough nut to crack - especially as so many forces in society villainize empathy.
I assume this is a result of boys being taught that anything and everything feminine-codef is bad/weak/wimpy. No wonder so many of them grow up to only like what we can do for them while actively not actually liking (much less respecting) us.
At the same time, we can be as anti-gay as the most hateful White evangelical or Muslim. We still have a lot of work to do.
I think this “crisis” is reactionary, it’s boys who want to be awful no longer being able to claim that they had no choice
https://bsky.app/profile/iramjohn.bsky.social/post/3locai2rwhs2g
Maybe Houston Texas is/was a uniquelly tolerant space,
But "Some (fella's) suck dick. Heh-heh. Heh. 🙂" was pretty much the limit of hostility I saw from my most of my elders.
Unless they were on some dope-tep "The Whites are doing this---"
But oh, we’re being MEAN to straight men when we… ask y’all to understand your power and be respectful? Boys are “afraid” to be proud of being boys because they can’t listen to R. Kelly in peace?? Oh.
That's part of the system. The structures that oppress specific groups can--they WILL be turned against anyone who tries to oppose the oppression. A straight boy becomes "queer bait" if he speaks up.
It is dangerous for a woman here to get pregnant because she might get killed by the child’s father.
That’s the crisis of masculinity.
Partly to make sure everyone is on the same page for the birth plan but I'm certain it's because of DV as well.
(Not singling you out specifically but… I’m tired. Women and girls don’t have the luxury of being surprised by this shit)
🤷♀️ For all the reasons.
But I pray for you to get free with the rest of us. Liberation is work, sure. But it’s joyful work. And we all deserve the BLESSING transformation makes possible.
Life is more joyful, in the loud AND quiet times when you are. There's power in kindness too.
We know what goes on! We were there!
Unless these parents are maybe making about them? The grown adults? And that's why it's hard?