Am I just being a cranky old man or is it super rude to be loudly blasting videos on your phone in a waiting room? There's still etiquette about this, right? Right?
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You’re not old, even back in the day headphones were a thing. Out on the street boomboxes ruled… but you’re in a confined space, it’s psychologically a warfare technique
It feels like post-2020, people have forgotten that it is not only impolite to do that, it's also really fucking annoying. Especially if you're in a room where you can't go somewhere else, like a waiting room.
the only thing worse is when people have strangely intimate phone calls on speakerphone for an entire bus ride
at least my noise cancelling headphones do a decent job at canceling other's music and tiktok videos, when a person starts yelling at their family over the phone I just 😭
You might be a cranky old man, but you are spot on about this.
That said, etiquette implies that people have any level of concern for anyone outside of themselves, and a lot of people in our current society do not have that capacity.
What's funny to me is my 64-year-old father will still listen to comedy sketch reels on his phone with full volume in the middle of family gatherings, yet I'm the one that gets prodded when I check email or texts.
Ugh, I don't have the guts to speak up but I would give the death stare to whoever is blasting those videos
I get nervous when people are talking super loudly in any public transport, even when I know it's to be expected. Am I the typical, polite asian girl? Nah....
i don't have crack head energy but i'm 6' 250 (not ripped or anything) and have a natural 'frown face' - people just seem to be inherently intimidated by me (i'm a teddy bear though, a pacifist even)
Walk on over there and take a peek over the shoulder. When the person looks at you strangely just say, "well the dialogue doesn't make much sense without the visual. Just thought you were sharing with us."
For the record, other people actually being rude does not preclude you from also being a cranky old man. As a cranky old man, I am an expert on other people being rude.
In the last couple months taking my mom to surgeries and a cancer treatment center this would happen more often than not. Seriously infuriating. People are nervous about their loved ones now you are adding anger and frustration to an already hard situation.
I’m a rideshare driver, and even though a person’s paying for a ride, and I don’t care to engage in conversation, I find it jarring and obnoxious when people do that on the ride.
As a society we didn't push back strongly enough when it first started happening so now people feel entitled. I think people who play loud audio on their phone in public spaces should be tarred and feathered
You're not exaggerating about that at all imo ! That's just common sense and normal behaviour to me, to respect other people in public places. But sadly that's not as normal nowadays :'( It's not that hard to respect other people...
There’s 2 ladies who do this at the gym the mornings that I see them there. Both playing different songs loudly on their phones and then talking loudly over it…
We've reached a tipping point in the collapse of civilization... we're currently at that precarious stage where people still pick up their dog shit... but then they just throw the plastic bag on the ground. Full on mayhem is right around the corner.
I think it's just some people are assholes regardless of age, like a douche in the 1960s would have played his podcasts out loud on his phone if he could
Coworkers in the break room at my job will have videos playing loudly, or be on phone calls on speakerphone, or (worst of all) chewing with their mouth open. It's maddening.
We were stuck in a busy ER waiting room, my wife was dealing with crippling migraines that wouldn’t go away. I swear everyone there had their phones on the loudest volume ever. You’re staring at your phone, you don’t need to hear all the notifications! They were like knives to my wife’s head.
The irony of reading this while I attend my shop whilst having the radio playing for shoppers and a customer is playing music off their phone is very very very Rakdos
i mean no one is perfect (are we talking the musical itself or just the movie version? because I know the musical by heart but have little interest in the film)
My wife gives me a break and i refuse to watch hamilton which she watches once a month, minimum. :)
I find it incredibly rude myself, if you don't have headphones that's on you...i got people at work taking breaks listening to this stuff in our lobbyk in the break room wherever and i just want it all to stop...then again - people doing face time calls without headephones bug me
I can rule out age as a cause on this, I'm fairly young and I will judge someone thoroughly for that. Cranky might be the common denominator here though.
It is very rude and annoying. It is one thing if you are trying to show a friend a short video at moderate volume. It is another to be watching the Sports Ball Game at max volume alone without headphones in a public space of any sort. I get annoyed by coworkers who do this during break.
I’ve yet to be to Japan, but one of the things I love about the culture there is NO ONE talks on their phone on public transportation. Meanwhile, here in the state full blown fucking conversations like they’re the only person on the bus 🤬
I just ask them if they have headphones they can use or if they could otherwise turn it down. But I do it with a tone that suggests there is something seriously unreasonable about them if they don't. Has worked every time so far. But yeah, too many people not being raised to be polite of others.
Yeah, but unfortunately it seems to be a lost art. We get folks. in between rounds watching videos on their phones while still seated at the tournament table. The level of narcissism is off the charts.
Don't get me started on people in national parks who are hiking and blaring a bluetooth speaker hanging off their backpack. People walk around in their own little worlds oblivious that their actions effect everyone around them.
There’s one older dad in the waiting room at my kids dance classes and he’s always blasting Fox News or Joe Rogan videos on TikTok/Instagram. Sometimes I want to fight fire with fire but for now I’m just stick my headphones in and watch Shuffle Up & Play instead.
With keyboard sounds on and notification sounds on I could hear in excruciating detail as the woman next to me my recent redeye flight purchased in flight WiFi for her phone.
And the offenders come from all different age groups. The most annoying for me are the older people on the train heading to work who do everything with their phones on speaker; games, shows, calls.
My youngest brother does this all the time, not just in waiting rooms. I'll ask him about it and report back, cause I thought he was just inconsiderate at his age.
I am also a cranky old man in this way. I don’t want to hear what you’re doing on your phone and would never make anyone listen to what I’m doing on mine.
You're not just being a cranky old man, it is super rude, but what is this a waiting room to? I often fail at mindfulness is I'm nervous, or uncomfortable, it ties into Neurodivergence. The videos give the divergent a hit of dopamine, or in some cases drown out the noise of their thoughts.
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at least my noise cancelling headphones do a decent job at canceling other's music and tiktok videos, when a person starts yelling at their family over the phone I just 😭
That said, etiquette implies that people have any level of concern for anyone outside of themselves, and a lot of people in our current society do not have that capacity.
I get nervous when people are talking super loudly in any public transport, even when I know it's to be expected. Am I the typical, polite asian girl? Nah....
Pacifist not prey.
It's annoying when adults do it, it's annoying when parents let their kids do.
It's just super disrespectful to the people around them.
Surely.
My wife gives me a break and i refuse to watch hamilton which she watches once a month, minimum. :)
People just ignore it because they are incapable of existing without the constant drip feed of dopamine tiktok gives them.
I have to have headphones or I’d go nuts
Lazy parenting, giving kids what they want always, hands off approach has made the young generation care less for others outside of their circle.
Please stop it. I don’t want to take headphones everywhere I go to drown out your crap.
I don't know what their life experience is but something tells me they don't NEED to be watching/listening to entertainment at that time...
Also I need to hear if they call my name. But mostly the savagery part. Mostly.
Use headphones if you’re rude.
If rude have right to request security escort from premises.
the common thread: lack of tech literacy
so yeah, there is, but only literate people do that.