alicemydaughter.bsky.social
Ex-psychiatrist, writer, campaigner. Trans ally. She/ her. Author ‘HER NAME IS ALICE’ on the life and death of my transgender child. Mudlark Books Harper Collins. Getting out the door a bit more these days.
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Did Alice see it? I’ll never know. Regardless, Sex Matters is a trans eliminationist body and its charitable status is a disgrace.
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NION (Not In Our Name) Women QR code to our letter.
“We reject - completely and categorically - the active discrimination and exclusion of trans,non-binary and gender-diverse people. Those who continue to target this minority group do not speak for us or represent our interests.”
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Yes, you're helping Pedro! We need more cis allies with platforms to call this out.
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This is AMAZING. Thank you for working toward this and making it happen. Her Name Is Alice is coming out in the US in the autumn/fall. I will have to check the date with my publisher.
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I knew I wasn’t going to get to talk to my MP but I did get to talk to many amazing trans people and allies. I met some bluesky friends irl. It was a profoundly important day, not without tears but also plenty of laughter. Thank you to everyone for making it so special- for all your kindness 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
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Nice to meet you, Rose.
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I know Alice’s story isn’t ultimately one of joy but there is this passage in my memoir on p.108 that describes an intimate moment of trans joy that Alice shared with her childhood friend Lucy, and a moment I heard second hand from Lucy after Alice had died. I hope I capture it in my writing.
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Very fucked up indeed.
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This is abhorrent and why I’ll be lobbying my MP today to express my dismay.
With a new toilet ban, days before hundreds of trans people visit parliament, our government is saying, trans people are lesser.
Alice was better than those wielding this cruel power. Far better.Trans people are awesome.
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It’s kind of odd, a ‘response lite’ option. I guess better than no response at all.
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Tbf to myself I don’t think I ever uttered that actual phrase, but you get my drift, I had my ‘but what about’ moments.
My writing attempts to humanise the trans experience, from the perspective of a cis mum, who learnt to embrace trans existence, not merely tolerate it.
Your child could be trans.
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It used to alienate me too. “I’m not transphobic, but…” tripped off the tongue.
Then I had a trans child and realised I was. Parenting Alice revealed the discrimination minorities face, from the inside. I soon saw my mistake.
I no longer see my womanhood threatened by the existence of trans ppl.
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What is your aim? The OP is about people (transphobic ones imo) quibbling over the term 'pregnant people'.
I'm suggesting the same people would quibble over your suggested list, see it as anti-women. So why compromise?
Incidentally, I may well have quibbled in the past, but I went on a journey.
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Point me to an anti-trans person who’d be happy with a list.
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Nooooo…my karaoke song of choice…I can’t unsee it.
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Thank you. It is a huge comfort and something I was texting about earlier, with another mum of a trans teen. After which I said, I think I need to post about this on Bluesky. So, watch out for a skeet incoming…
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There’s a UK facebook group I can signpost you to. Shall I DM you? I joined a US one but I didn’t like it. Some people on it were very rough, with naive newbie parents who were having a bit of a hard time coming to terms, yet doing their best to learn.
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You’re right. I imagine he is attempting to appease JKR, to protect himself, distance himself, from her almost inevitable wrath.
It was never going to be the straightforward: I’m sorry, she’s a bigot and has caused untold harm, that we’d all like.
But it’s a start, I hope, a step towards more
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It adds another layer to my trauma, that my experience after Alice’s death, shines a light on her experiences before her death, of being ignored, patronised, dismissed and discarded, by society, the NHS, school and sometimes, early on, at home.
Sometimes it all feels a bit too much.
(I am safe)
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The anti-trans say I lie about suicide risk in trans people. If it really were an issue where are all the other parents? It would be all over the papers, they say.
It’s no wonder there aren’t more of me, visible. I’m so tired, feel so broken. When I speak the mainstream rarely listens or reports.
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I live in hope, Emma. Yesterday and this morning saw me more hopeful, this evening, not so much.
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Thank you, Kelly. I am missing Alice particularly acutely today, and feeling that I let her down horribly, so your comment has been seen at a necessary and welcome moment 🩷
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It’s great isn’t it.
Mind boggling really, how Labour can’t see how far right they’ve become, or worse, they can.
I can’t fathom it.
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Cass doesn’t say the drugs are unsafe. It says not enough is known about their safety. Same for plenty of other meds prescribed to u18 off license, yet only meds for transition are singled out for this intense scrutiny. I can only find one answer- institutional transphobia.
I know you know this.
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Remaining cynical seems entirely appropriate.
Fry has a habit of saying whatever he likes and not seeming to care much about the consequences. Indeed there rarely do seem to be any consequences for he whose celebrity status never wanes.
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Maybe. My reply from no.10 was in response to me copying Starmer in to a letter I’d sent Streeting. I explained I was writing to the PM because the health secretary never replied.
Now the PMs office has sent that letter back to Streeting because it’s DHSC ‘responsibility’. Perhaps he’ll act now…
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You’re right, he doesn’t go far enough. I still believe this is more positive than negative. Together with the editor of the National standing up to her, yesterday was a good day. It felt hopeful. And I need that.
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That’s true. It’s by no means perfect. I still would rather have him say what he has, rather than not have said it at all.
I choose to see it as a work in progress.
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I get this, I do, he has plenty to apologise for, and I really hope he does, but this is a step in the right direction and a pretty big one, even if it doesn’t go as far as I too would like. It’s a start, and criticising him for it now could see him retreat. I am trying to learn to go gently.
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Yes. Next step a full and frank apology. I’m not holding my breath.
I’ve asked my editor to reach out to his agent to see if he’ll review Her Name Is Alice.
I suggested it could be one small step in his atonement, but I doubt that bit will get passed on and probably just as well.
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My latest blog logs my emails and letters to Streeting and Starmer. Early emails to Starmer are missing as they were sent via gov.uk.
Part of my motivation is to highlight their disregard of Alice's plight.
But 10 Downing Street has replied and scuppered that plan!
Streeting remains silent.
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I’m so sorry. This is so awful for you and all that loved her.
Say and do whatever you like. It’s your grief x
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