drtanenbaum.bsky.social
I write stories, poems, essays, and music.
I make audiobooks, actual play podcasts, undefinable games, & magical ink.
Loudly trans, queer, & disabled.
Pro mutual aid, anarchy, kindness & witchcraft.
Anti capitalism & TERFs
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I've never had sex like T4T sex, and I might be spoiled for sleeping with cis people after the last few years!
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I think you made your point effectively and clearly. I'm kinda stunned to see it flagged by @moderation.bsky.app as "intolerant"! I'm a witch and a trans woman - two labels I carry with pride. Anyone who views them as pejoratives is revealing much about their own biases, bigotry, and intolerance.
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This sounds fantastic! I gave a talk a few months ago at RPI that made a similar point, connecting the dots between magic, witchcraft, transition, storytelling, and resistance to oppression. I'd be curious to compare notes sometime:
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When the mix is going well there's not much to do except document and write mediocre bass lines, especially on an almost 6 minute long track!😂
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I got one of you laying down a groove!
Today was an absolute blast!
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Yeah... anyone cozying up to Rowling deserves to be called out for the harm they're doing. But let's not then turn around and perpetuate harm within our own community just because we feel vulnerable. Cis people are already leaping at the chance to overgeneralize from this.
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Yeah...I think part of it is that it's as hard for me to imagine *not* transitioning as it is for cis people *to* imagine transition. So I can perceive the outlines of some implicit biases in my own reaction when confronted with this idea that feel parallel to the visceral reaction TERFS have to us.
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That's fair, and I appreciate the distinction you are making here. I think it's fair to call out anyone who is attacking our access to care & that people using their status as a detransitioner as some kind of "gotcha" is reprehensible. Just so long as we don't turn into "gender cops" in the process.
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I'm glad - wholesome cozy trans representation is giving me life right now!🙏💗🙏
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I overshot my initial #transitiongoals in the first 6 months of HRT & things just kept getting better after that! The joy of getting to be me has never diminished...but there's a part of me that gets nostalgic & weepy for the me who was so scared to consider I'd be seen as anything other than a man.
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It's such a sweet story! And there's something about seeing a character cracking her egg that takes me back to that period in my own transition, when the gender euphoria flowed like milk, and for the first time I could start imagining a different life than the one I'd been resigned to.
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we have enough for everyone and the reason we don't just give people what they need is that these people who have made themselves into monsters value having power to abuse over the well-being of everyone on earth including themselves
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Following the adventures of a trans woman who finds herself in a world that is much more chill and progressive about gender and sexuality hit me pretty hard. We all deserve that better world right now, and spending time in Autumn's book has helped recharge my sense of what we're fighting for.
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That wholesomeness made me tempted to treat it as some light wish fulfillment fantasy & while it definitely is that, it's also a lot more! This is because the world of Fevara is deliciously queer! It's queer in a way that I needed right now! It's queer in the way that I want to envision our future!
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On its surface, Tilda's story sits nicely within the conventions of the "isekai reincarnation" genre. The world building is inventive, Tilda is a treat to spend time with, and the story is paced so perfectly that I stayed up most of the night to read "just one more chapter"!
It is wholesome!
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So now my boyfriend and I practice a kind of queered subversive flavor of hetero relationship dynamics where the more heteronormative and cisnormative things are, the kinkier they feel to us. We both are treating traditional gender dynamics as a site for roleplay, and it's super hot and affirming.
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...but it wasn't meant to be. One of best friends of 30 years came out as a trans man a few years ago and somehow there's something about our chemistry that is electric! And there's absolutely nothing sapphic about how we connect - it's very het, but also very queer.
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A lot of this resonates with my experiences. Prior to coming out as trans I was just kinda quietly bisexual, because I knew I was queer, but couldn't articulate that my queernes arose at least in part from my gender. After transition I embraced a Lesbian identity, because it felt affirming & easy...
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There has never been a state policing institution that is in service of any public good. Designating some people as criminals & "punishing" them is about as healthy & sophisticated as battlefield medicine was during the Civil War: it was the best we could do 150 years ago but it's intolerable today.
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Arguing in favor of more police training capitulates to the State's position that policing is necessary (as long as the police are pointed at "criminals" and not "law-abiding citizens").
Police abolition seeks to disarm the state - to revoke our consent to be subjected to state violence.
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There has never been a state policing institution that is in service of any public good. Designating some people as criminals & "punishing" them is about as healthy & sophisticated as battlefield medicine was during the Civil War: it was the best we could do 150 years ago but it's intolerable today.
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Arguing in favor of more police training capitulates to the State's position that policing is necessary (as long as the police are pointed at "criminals" and not "law-abiding citizens").
Police abolition seeks to disarm the state - to revoke our consent to be subjected to state violence.
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Oh yay! I enjoyed the heck out of the first chapter that you shared, and am thrilled to be able to throw some cash your way for the whole book! Looking forward to seeing where it's going!
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I feel that...both freeze and fawn are deeply sedimented within me. I'm glad this helped though! The only way out of this space is by connecting with each other, building trust with the people you care about, and communicating through the insecurities.
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Yuuuup. Being able to redefine *anyone* as "the enemy" is extremely effective because any time the Party "makes an example" out of someone it further incentivizes performative bootlicking & sycophancy among the remaining subordinates. People will agree "up" is "down" under those conditions.
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Honestly, por que no los dos?
It seems clear that the Right has figured out how effectively enrich themselves by destroying the people they view as less-than-human. They despise us & are capitalizing off our suffering. It's an extremely efficient form of genocide, totin bibles, wrapped in the flag.
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100%
Hoping the fascists just leave you alone or trying to be seen as "one of the good ones" only validates a worldview that says that some of us are less deserving of basic right and safety than others. It's a Devil's Bargain: nobody's safety under fascism is ever assured.
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Lol...tell me you're neurodivergent without telling me you're neurodivergent....
(also, I'm very much a passenger on the "Rua is an inspiration" bus!)
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I got into a tiff with the opening Keynote speaker at NordiCHI last fall because he talked about technologically mediated intimacy over a distance for an hour, and never considered the neurotypes of the participants involved. And there were clear RSD indicators in the data he showed.
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Heehee - I almost mentioned you by name when I cited that article, because I'm pretty sure that it's the one that I sent you that felt like I was just smashing your egg to smithereens!
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He pointedly ignored me for the rest of the conference, but he came to my keynote where he sat alone and slowly shrunk deeper and deeper into his discomfort (and his chair) as I gave what was probably the most powerful speech of my career.
It was the most delicious schadenfreude I've ever tasted!
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"Actually, I'm the closing keynote speaker."
From the back of the room I heard @jr6g.bsky.social CACKLE so loudly that it echoed around the auditorium.😆🤣
He turned white as a sheet, and it was at this point that the organizers closed off the Q&A and moved us into the break.
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He responded by saying (and I quote) "Well that sounds like it might be a good thing for you to look at. Do *you* have a paper in this conference?"
There was an implied "little lady" at the end.
And so, I got to say (calmly, and with complete honesty):
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I mentioned that women my age and older are often under-diagnosed because neurodivergence was seen as a "boys pathology" when we were kids, and that the proportion of neurospicy people in the general population is grossly underestimated.