Who the f*** wrote that stupid s***? Well whoever did let's test that theory have them step a little bit closer because I will put a f****** pain on them that will be beyond chronic and they won't have it until their last f****** breath
WTF is this? It reminds me of a Joel Olsteen book my boss wanted us to read, first line read: No one decides to have a bad day but you.
I threw it at the wall.
Yeah the person who wrote this clearly doesn't understand what chronic illness does to people. It's a slow, painful march towards your expected end of life...which happens to usually the chronic illnesses final symptoms. Illness don't make you stronger, it weakens you until you can't fight anymore.
As someone who is chronically ill with small children to take care of this paragraph is so inconsiderate. I’d rather not live in pain and depend on a pill to survive😒 it is not something to glorify or be thankful for. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.
The worst part of this kind of bullshit is it ignores that failure is always an option, and how we deal with failures of heart, mind and body are an important part of being a fully realized human. Sometimes we fail, and it hurts.
But it's easier to pretend everything is good news in disguise...
This page brings up the question, "What the fuck is wrong with people?" I hope these idiots grow stronger through a character building disease like MS.
Nothing like a good round of suffering to make your life have meaning. 😜 Due to the pandemic and other issues I went for almost 3 years on a ground up hip joint and strangely I didn't evaluate anything except how much it fucking hurt to do anything. I guess that my life was full. 😉 The article=BS
I’ve heard a similar argument made by people against euthanasia where they argue that watching people die even painful deaths is an enriching experience for society and one that’s necessary in order for people to develop true humanity. It’s hogwash.
I’m super looking forward to the brand new adventure of having to crowd fund the treatment to some ominous, unknown, undiagnosed, disease that coulda be prevented with nationalized, single payer healthcare.
Two years ago I had an open heart surgery. Two weeks of hospitalization, followed by 4 months of physical and psychological therapy (12h/week). I paid 20 € because I wanted the laxative that tasted nice, otherwise it would have been 0. In the USA I would just be dead.
I had an appendectomy about a decade ago that ended up turning into a colectomy, as the surgeon thought I had cancer. Ended up spending a week in hospital, with a bill at the end of the day that totaled nearly $80k. My insurance cut off coverage cuz I was expensive, and couldn’t get follow up care
My mother got cancer when I was 4 years old. That, and the long-term damage caused by radiation and chemo, destroyed her health for the rest of her life. She ended up dying a painful, horrible death at the age of 55. She never looked "enriched" by her illness. She just looked really, really sick.
Someone who has NO IDEA what the F they were talking about. #painforlife (Fibro, Poly Neuropathy, Osetoarthritis, Disc Degeneration and finely the most painful one - Dercum's disease.) I know pain. I live with it, I take it with me. All day, every day, all night, every night. It hurts to breath.
Is he an Evangelical? Cuz he writes like one. I am a devout Christian. But when the doctors told me I have incurable, inoperable cancer (cholangiocarcinoma Stage 3) and they gave me two years, as far as I recall, my first prayer was "Lord, please don't let me die like an Evangelical!"
Bingo I'm not surprised. (Jeri, I'm a friend of Susan G and Karen G). I'm sorry to learn that you're ill. The second thread I read on BlueSky, and I find you.
This passage does sound like something straight out of Gothard.
Hi Cindy! Yes I am Jeri Massi. Thank you for your kind wishes! I would also like to know which particular Evangelical nitwit wrote the above passage. I am thankful to God for His presence and help in my cancer illness. He has truly been my friend. But for the cancer itself, not so much.
Everything is a choice. I chose to be a theoretical physicist on my way to an experimental physicist on this ride. I hope you do that same. I can try to teach but you have to be willing to learn.
Like the difference between chimpanzees and bonobos, I’m becoming convinced that there are human forms born without empathy, curiosity, and are the super-aggressors.
We beat them back, but they arise in every age. Destroying everything.
The dense troglodytes should resolve themselves if they believe in everything they see with their lying human eyes. Strange things are happening for sure
As a nurse, I have seen terrible pain and suffering… Gave Ativan and morphine to folks with end stage cancer … I won’t go into my own life of pain… There isn’t a positive side to pain… no way
This pisses me off to no end. Just like when my last therapist said it's good I went through all I went & am going thru bc it shows how strong I am. I told her I don't need to know how strong I am, I don't need character development thru trauma & pain. Ppl romanticizing trauma & illness are vile.
The only new and interesting direction I’m moving is towards the toilet to figure out if my back pain is disturbing my IBS or if my IBS is disturbing my back pain only to get to the bathroom and realize it’s just the medical ptsd…
What a fucking idiotic statement, I live with chronic pain and I can assure you that is total and utter bullshit, it does not enable you to live your best life it is fucking debilitating.
I actually searched that entire paragraph in the hope of sending a direct fuck off to them. Found a website that has the quote, but it tried to force me to watch a video I blocked the video then it made my phone fart out. I'm now doing a deep antivirus scan on my phone.
Idk. My chronic thing is MS so I get to try on lots of random problems. I don’t love it, but my situation doesn’t lead me to disagree with the post. I do empathize with new things. Random blindness? I feel that. Urgency? Sucks. I’ll cover you, don’t worry. Fatigue? Yeah, it’s the worst.
I agree w the statement actually I’ve been suffering w heart disease this last year..it’s taken so many things from me..yet has brought me closer to life and so many people I love as well… the truth is in the middle somewhere as always…
Mary Teresa Bojaxhiu also thought the same way, except in religious terms. She thought suffering was special right up until she needed to fly to Europe for health care while people in her death houses expired from treatable illnesses.
I am so sick of people glorifying suffering. It's just not all it's cracked up to be. What about all the suffering caused by racism, sexism, accidents, deaths, genocides, suicides etc....Give me a break!
That sib thought that all I needed was:
This drivel.
Depression and anxiety
magically vanish once you know "The Secret".🥺🥺
Nobody should have that attitude towards anyone let alone family.
"The Secret" is that we all need compassion, and the human race only exists because we care for one another. The other "secret" is that billionaire conservatives know this, but they'd rather everyone believe they can improve their conditions without making a single demand on anyone else on Earth.
Yes I immediately thought it was this absolute rubbish of a book too! I threw this book out when I got to the “you may have something generic that causes xyz, but it doesn’t really cause xyz! You can think positively and make it go away!”
I feel both sides of this, but I'd never try to convince anybody that their illness was a good thing. Mine forced growth, forced me to address festering wounds and start educating myself. I'm thankful for the empathy, knowledge and skills I've gained, but being chronically ill still sucks ass.
Yes? So, that when you cling so hard to life you can actually maybe enjoy it a little more before you definitely, certainly lose everything.
The problem with this stuff is that most people just don't get it because they don't equate the full picture correctly and zoom in on one aspect too much.
Your life your choice. I'll always respect and support how you choose to do that no matter what.
My only point was that it frustrates me to no end when people think they get it, but are clueless and then talk to people that have to deal with this in real life and then say hurtful shit. 😕
The first two lines are insensitively written and total BS.
{break out the pitchforks, but...}
The third line, in my experience, is quite true. Dying a couple of times really does make you reevaluate what is important to you in your life.
If Books Could Kill just did their podcast this week on a book with similar thinking. How being in debt or in poverty helps drive people to excel. Or that being depressed is just for milking attention.
As a person who has had breast cancer. I WAS LIVING FULLY BEFORE CANCER. Don’t try to act like I need a sickness to make me realize how valuable experiencing life is. DF?!
#breastcancersurvivor #breastcancer #blackgirlcancerclub
its one thing if a disabled person is able to see "good" in their own disability, i would never call someone out for how they cope (as long as they don't make it other people's problem) — but stuff like this is unmistakably written by a healthy person. absolutely disgusting.
If you re healthy and someone with a chronic illness says their life is more positive and they have re-prioritised and now they know what’s important, living every day to the full blah blah blah
It’s for your benefit to make you feel better.
An idiot wrote this.
true i fucking hate silver linings and opportunities to shift worldviews tuesdays with mory was a horrible book because tragedy can never coincide with beauty or reconciliation of any kind
Comments
/s
I threw it at the wall.
-everyone here in the replies
But it's easier to pretend everything is good news in disguise...
This passage does sound like something straight out of Gothard.
⚛️:
We beat them back, but they arise in every age. Destroying everything.
"Jill had breast cancer 💀"
What the actual fuck.
So, sit back, take your medication (if you can afford it) and enjoy the ride!
https://youtu.be/s_nc1IVoMxc?si=Jk5u02hur6rIvdC2
This seems to be common theme in many writings - intended to make person feel more in control.
Perhaps helps some. I could do without.
Look for humor where you can.
After colonoscopy, nurse cheerfully said "At least you will not have to do that again." Opps.
Not helpful.
We ended up letting each other go.
This drivel.
Depression and anxiety
magically vanish once you know "The Secret".🥺🥺
Nobody should have that attitude towards anyone let alone family.
Instead he was at work the day he died.
I always felt that kind of capitalist indoctrination is what made people believe they should never retire and be exploited to work to the end.
But acshually, there is some truth in that too.
The problem with this stuff is that most people just don't get it because they don't equate the full picture correctly and zoom in on one aspect too much.
With clinging comes anxiety about loss.
When I let go and see my life as a limited concept of no importance it becomes much more balanced, which gives me more peace of mind.
My only point was that it frustrates me to no end when people think they get it, but are clueless and then talk to people that have to deal with this in real life and then say hurtful shit. 😕
They OBVI have never had chronic pain & should STFU FOREVER. About anything.
Honestly, HATE people like this. If you're not helping, then please just don't add to our burdens.
FUUUUUUUCK. Them.
{break out the pitchforks, but...}
The third line, in my experience, is quite true. Dying a couple of times really does make you reevaluate what is important to you in your life.
#breastcancersurvivor #breastcancer #blackgirlcancerclub
"FUCK CANCER!"
#FuckCancerWithBarbedWire
It’s for your benefit to make you feel better.
An idiot wrote this.
Full article:
https://www.huffpost.com/archive/ca/entry/hiv-patients-can-live-normal-healthy-lives-despite-the-stigma_b_9089588