Age gap dynamics are on the rise, but also on the scrutiny block on social media. As myself and @mrkristofer.bsky.social are in one. What questions do you have about large age gap relationships?
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I’m happily married now my wife is only a year older than me, still never changed that I was attracted to much older people tho and it’s annoying having others assume it’s because have an issue with one parent. How do you navigate that in your relationship? How big of an age gap is too big?
I’ve always been attracted to older women/nb ppl (&some men) I’ve gotten jokes that it’s my mommy issues but I never sought that with older people, do you find yourself having to explain why you’re in an age gap dynamic or feel you’re always telling others it’s not because you have a daddy issues?
My grandparents had 20 years between them, were married for almost 50 years (until my grandfather died aged 91), so I had a good example of an age gap relationship in front of me all the time while growing up :-)
I am 55 and my partner is 34. We have great communication and enjoy the best relationship either of us have had. My question is this: have you ever discussed the future as in what happens when age becomes more of a debilitating factor? I suppose having an open relationship will help with that?
14 year age gap and I’m the younger one. Everyone who knows us knows I’m the old man between us. How do you all approach those biases that he’s the maturer one or that he takes care of you or any of those biases/assumptions?
I don’t have a question just a statement. As long as everyone in the relationship is over 30 years old then age isn’t relevant and people shouldn’t make it such a big deal, as long as everyone involved are consenting adults 🤷♂️
Ppl need to stop being mad abt things that don’t affect them 🤡
Do you think there is a dofference between a gay (male) age gap relationship and a lesbian age gap relationship? In how people perciece them, how they work etc?
Do people with no context think that the older partner is the younger partner's actual, biological (if applicable), parent? If so, how do you go about educating them?
Yes, that has happened. I just politely state the facts and move on with the conversation. If they react negatively, then you can decide to either educate them or just move on with your day.
My husband is 25 years older than me. After some people have met us socially, I've bumped into them later and been asked, "how's your dad?". I usually say, "he died 10 years ago". You can see the panic! "Oh, you mean Ray, my husband, yeah, he's fine".
The one I get is:
What could you possibly have in common with someone so much younger /older than you? or Don’t you want to be with someone at the same stage of life that you’re in?
People don’t understand that each person brings something unique to the relationship that the other wants.
What would you say are some of unexpected pitfalls of being in an intergenerational relationship? What are some difficulties that arose because of the age gap that you didn’t expect?
My partner and I have a 13 year age gap that I can't even mention on Reddit or FB groups without getting dogpiled on, even in "safe" spaces. I stream and recently started a YT channel and I'm worried about how to deal with people's opinions our ages. Suggestions?
I really don't see how it's anyone else's business! If they ask honest, respectful questions, then yes, answer them. But if it's judgement and assumptions. 🖕
The subject is nuanced. While an age gap isn't inherently wrong and is usually perfectly appropriate, there are older people who target partners who are as young as possible specifically to manipulate their inexperience. I think this toxic dynamic has soured the whole concept for a lot of people.
A lot of people could use advice on how to navigate the younger partner being in a state of constant change and growth, and the older partner having more firmly established patterns. “I’m an old dog, I don’t wanna learn new tricks” makes me see red everytime now, lol.
When you are in your 30’s horny 24h in a monogamous relationship with a 60 yo daddy that all he wants to do is netflix’n chill. How do you deal with that? Asking for a friend! 😉
I'm 56 in a relationship with a 27 year old and despite his romantic "Disney" type notions, I push him to ensure he takes opportunities that I can't give him. I'm not holding him back especially as he grew up in a small town. Perhaps that's the natural daddy in me.
That reminds me of the “camp site rule” that is mentioned by @dansavage.bsky.social . When you’re partner is new or less experienced in some regard, we have an obligation to leave them better off than when we found them. That’s the Daddy / Mommy vibe in a nut shell.
The age gap between my partner and I is 17 years. I'm 41 and he's 58. Our sex life is damn amazing.🙏🤲 ❤️🍆💦
My question is non sex related. Besides theme parks and dinner/movie/coffee dates what would you do to take your 17+ year old partner out for something different. Not mini golf please. 😩
Also the only problem I have with our 17 year age gap is other people's negative ass opinions. Love is love. Everyone who thinks it's nasty can fuck right off & if they don't want to, I have no problem making them. Okurr.
FYI: we love your YouTube & my partner thinks Kris is really damn hot. Jelly😜
How do you handle generational responses to things? How something used to be okay or not okay to do and how you and a partner/s react differently to things?
Im not currently in a relationship but I have a preference for older men, like 30+ y/o all the way up to 55-ish. For reference, I'm 23M. I have an easy time hooking up with men in that demographic but a hard time with romance and dating. How do I start to overcome this?
Are there any specific red flags to look for in an older person as a younger person, and vice versa, before considering being in a large age gap relationship?
(Idk if that's a topic in itself)
How do you handle online scrutiny in regards to mental health? My Daddy/husband is actually 12 years younger than me and we have a healthy relationship but seeing what people say online about age gaps can really get me down sometimes.
Those people are making judgements and assumptions based on f**k all. Screw them. They're not paying your bills. If it's an issue, it's their issue, not yours. Don't take on their baggage. Over time you will find friends who value you as a couple. Keep them.
He [Daddy K] has older friends and you have younger friends. Do you two ever have problems where your friend groups don't intersect or they just don't like each other? Does this attract other people who are open to age gap relationships?
Follow up - do people assume sexual position and or dynamics based on the age gap ? "Dogs are boys and cats are girls" [insert snl skit whiskers are we]
Obviously, if it's two consenting ADULTS it's okay. But it really feels like a 21 y.o. + 35 y.o. is... risky. While a 35 y.o. + 60 y.o. is fine. Is there a "too big" gap for young adults, or is it all about maturity at any age.
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(I realise this isn't a question).
Totally fair, I just KNOW my father would have a smartass comment to make 💀
Ppl need to stop being mad abt things that don’t affect them 🤡
do you get each other's jokes / references?
Did you ever question if a relationship would work due to the gap in your age and your overall experience with things?
What could you possibly have in common with someone so much younger /older than you? or Don’t you want to be with someone at the same stage of life that you’re in?
People don’t understand that each person brings something unique to the relationship that the other wants.
Still love him, but there are challenges...
For instance, many people considered Taylor Swift and Jake Gyllenhall to have a major power imbalance
What if the younger one wants to be “Daddy”?
My question is non sex related. Besides theme parks and dinner/movie/coffee dates what would you do to take your 17+ year old partner out for something different. Not mini golf please. 😩
FYI: we love your YouTube & my partner thinks Kris is really damn hot. Jelly😜
Does he get tired of people assuming he robbed the cradle?
Are the gays so shallow to think that it couldn't actually be love, but must be a scam to obtain something using sex?
How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck...
Do the same people who have problems with age gap relationships also think the guys in pron actually love each other?
How much of the judgement do you think boils down to they can't get a man & are jealous of those who have?
*smiles*
(Idk if that's a topic in itself)