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carlyjdubois.com • 41 days ago

The story of my 3-year nightmare as a trans woman at a New York Times-owned company (CW: suicide, suicidal ideation, anti-trans hate):
https://www.carlyjdubois.com/new-york-times-athletic-transgender-woman

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stacykess.bsky.social•41 days ago

Thank you for sharing. Some of us would be proud to have you at our news orgs.

constancecoys.bsky.social•39 days ago

so many great lines in your piece. massive truths and alarms that keep getting overlooked. policies that aren't simply behind but fast-tracked in the opposite direction.

my heart is full for you. the nails! they're so lovely and strong. i sincerely hope your overall health can soon meet that level

emilydrennen.bsky.social•40 days ago

The pain in your words is palpable. I’m so scared for my non-binary spouse, trans tween, and the larger trans community. Sending you love and care in these increasingly scary times. May you find respite, support, and community.

scumbelievable.bsky.social•40 days ago

All my love, Carly. I'm so sorry.

jillwills.bsky.social•41 days ago

So very sad. Some people say it's going to be a really hard three years. How do we know what lurks beyond trumpkins term. I truly see a bleak future for us.

spicypenguin.bsky.social•40 days ago

It's completely absurd for any news organisation to think they're apolitical. I hope you live to see better days. I love your nails ❤️

snoodoodle.bsky.social•40 days ago

This was a heartbreaking read but thank you for speaking your piece. There's a lot of people scared to defend themselves (or stand up for others, even!) and challenge that baked-in bigotry in the workplace, the news and in life. 🫂

j3zz-g.bsky.social•41 days ago

"...the more likely they’ll continue to torture trans people to make it seem they are capable of doing something."
Most world leaders seem to be currently like this. They are like Emperor Commodus who would dress up as a Gladiator to beat a buch of shackled, disabled people to death to look strong.

inverted-arrow.bsky.social•40 days ago

📌

atriflemiffed.bsky.social•41 days ago

I'm so sorry. I don't really know what I can say except, don't give those fuckers what they want. Don't do their job for them, keep living, even if it's only to spite them and make their project incomplete. We'll outlast them. We've been here for as long as mankind, we'll be here after they're dead.

pepperoniroll.bsky.social•40 days ago

Thank you. Please take care. When I started making plans my loved ones intervened and I got some beautiful help from DBT professionals. I’m a random stranger but if random is the element you need please reach out

tanzpunk.bsky.social•41 days ago

Carly, first of all, are you still with us? I hope you say yes. Can you get out of the country? I worked for Harvard Business Publishing & identify w/ some of what you're going through. My trans fiancée, trans son & I escaped to Portugal. There's hope! I offer free advice, which is all I have left.

cawitches.bsky.social•40 days ago

Thank you for your voice and pen. It is so desperately needed by so many.

gothamgirlblue.com•41 days ago

📌

winteregress.bsky.social•41 days ago

🫂 I'm so sorry. That was a tough read, but such an important one. Thank you for telling your story.

claire.chapien.net•41 days ago

i don't know you, but thank you for writing this.

and please live. i can't stomach another one of us dying. even if i don't know you. please

sharon5656.bsky.social•40 days ago

I feel your pain and I feel it for my daughter, who is also trans. I want her to keep living, though life is about to get harder for all of us. Please stay with us. Thank you for speaking out.

jeffgreco.com•40 days ago

Thank you, Carly

hildegardvsalinas.bsky.social•20 days ago

“allowing bad-faith actors’ propaganda into its coverage of us…” Steven Brill’s NewsGuard shares your assessment, for what it’s worth../

lesliealarson.bsky.social•32 days ago

Incredible piece Carly and M grateful for your honesty. We see you, we hear you, we support you.

carlyjdubois.com•32 days ago

❤️

deadlyflowers.bsky.social•40 days ago

📌

themistocleswall.bsky.social•41 days ago

# Felicia Sonmez

https://bsky.app/profile/juwanthecurator.bsky.social/post/3ktiu6r2mri27

themistocleswall.bsky.social•41 days ago

so sad to hear this

makes me more glad i cancelled after 30+ years👇🏼

you have shown, and are showing, incredible courage & most Americans stand w/you

https://bsky.app/profile/themistocleswall.bsky.social/post/3lf3p4lwwa22e

ellkli.bsky.social•40 days ago

“As scattered pieces of the same oneness, we vulnerable people must connect ourselves to each other as best we can.”

Indeed! Bravo, brave woman.

ellkli.bsky.social•40 days ago

https://soundcloud.com/user-664371111/my-narration-of-my-story-about-the-times-and-the-athletic?utm_source=clipboard&utm_campaign=wtshare&utm_medium=widget&utm_content=https%253A%252F%252Fsoundcloud.com%252Fuser-664371111%252Fmy-narration-of-my-story-about-the-times-and-the-athletic

ellkli.bsky.social•40 days ago

“Take all the time you need to get through this story, one section at a time. It’s not going anywhere. I, on the other hand, feel like I’m getting this in just under the wire.”

Please confirm you are safe!?

ellkli.bsky.social•40 days ago

“I can’t see a place for myself in this world.”

Please confirm you are safe!?

ellkli.bsky.social•40 days ago

“When they find my body, they’ll see paper in a pouch on a lanyard around my neck. That’s to keep blood off the note. I’ll be in a patch of grass I’ve chosen so there’s no mess in my apartment or car.”

Please confirm you are safe!?

ellkli.bsky.social•40 days ago

“Whatever’s next, my life is pretty much over anyway.”

Please confirm you are safe?!

ellkli.bsky.social•40 days ago

Her account ‘liked’ the responses. I hope that means she’s as okay as possible.

carlyjdubois.com•40 days ago

I’ve been sleeping a lot but am okay and in a safe place right now. I’m overwhelmed by the love and support on here. Thank you for checking on me. I wish the best for you in all things. ❤️

ellkli.bsky.social•40 days ago

🤍

I will do all I can to share your story and increase your support.

exionous.bsky.social•41 days ago

I legitimately cried. I'm so sorry. This country is fucked from the bottom of its corrupted, rotten core. Shamelessly violent and careless

unjustcarlie.bsky.social•41 days ago

"Can you name anything important that isn’t political?" -

This. I'm so tired of hearing people say avoid politics for your mental health. We got here by to many people checking out for to long.

I recommend giving the article a read, bit lengthy but most worthwhile things are.

burnterra.bsky.social•41 days ago

Thank you for sharing your story
Fuck the Patriarchy & the NYT

erinentrada.bsky.social•20 days ago

I’m sending so much love to you from the other side of the country. I’m sorry this world is so broken.

carlyjdubois.com•20 days ago

Thank you, Erin. Same. I love you, my friend. ❤️

faggyflorian.bsky.social•41 days ago

Thank you for writing this, it feels like you’re speaking for so many of us and I love you for it, even as I have to take breaks while reading it because it’s hard to work while I’m crying. Please take care of yourself. 🫂

rhapeclect.bsky.social•41 days ago

I'm so sorry.

Thank you for sharing.

The NYT and many employers are directly harmful to trans employees. That said, please remember that
A) you are more than your job.
B) you have people in your life you love you.
C) you add to the world around you by sharing your voice. You make a difference.

nmb1974.bsky.social•41 days ago

As the mom of a nonbinary child and one who isn't but looks that way, I've approached this year with nausea and dread. Thank you for speaking up. I cannot imagine the dark place you have been inhibiting, but you manage nonetheless to shine light. You matter. ❤️

phidphriend.bsky.social•41 days ago

📌

cave-malum.bsky.social•41 days ago

Thank you Carly

txdede.bsky.social•40 days ago

Oh, Carly. You deserve so much better than the way your employer & our nation is treating you. Thank you for writing this. As someone who had battled depression for 56 years, I understand your feeling of not being able to bear any more. Stay with us if you can, because YOU ARE IMPORTANT. ❤️‍🩹

somanix.bsky.social•41 days ago

📌

myfbusters.bsky.social•41 days ago

Thank you for this, Carly, and please know you are loved and appreciated.

I started my transition on January 5, 2021, and it's been an equally strange time.

nattemis.bsky.social•41 days ago

Reading this is painful, but not surprising. My heart goes out to you and every other trans person in the US and elsewhere at the heart of this disastrous calamity.

Nowhere in the world is truly safe for us, yet, but you're bearing the most rapid decline, and it's truly tragic to watch.

anewmaeve.bsky.social•41 days ago

Thank you for sharing your soul and your story and thank you so much for still being here with us. 💜

soleilho.com•41 days ago

thank you for your bravery, Carly

worstcaseeng.bsky.social•41 days ago

too fucking real. Best wishes for you and everyone being crushed under the weight of this absolute bullshit

worstcaseeng.bsky.social•41 days ago

Sorry, that's trite, I don't have anything good to say, I only hope I can properly express that at least I am, even if insufficiently, fucking furious

evanurquhart.bsky.social•41 days ago

It's courageous to speak out, and I'm glad you're doing so. I hope that strength can also shows you that you have the strength to keep going.

textwhileudrive.bsky.social•39 days ago

📌

violetdiscordia.bsky.social•41 days ago

i worked on periodicals at my local library and putting anti-trans bs out on the shelves broke my heart and destroyed my faith in the institution. but i can’t imagine how it would feel to be even closer to the source of that madness. 💔

kwknight.bsky.social•40 days ago

Carly I just don't know what to say. I'm so sorry.

taenerys.bsky.social•41 days ago

I’m so sorry. 💜

discoveringdani11.bsky.social•38 days ago

I’m so sorry you’ve been through this and so thankful for your strength and your voice. The Times’ betrayal of you and our nation is sickening.

hleehurley.substack.com•41 days ago

📌

corkeeleigh.bsky.social•40 days ago

Thank you for sharing your story. You are loved and you are worthy.

bbdoc.bsky.social•41 days ago

I'm sorry hon

stormtrooperindrag.bsky.social•41 days ago

Much love to you.

lanakirsten.bsky.social•41 days ago

Hi Carly, thank you for sharing this story. I’m sorry that you have had to endure such difficult circumstances in a job you loved. Even though you are struggling to see a future, I have to trust that you can come through and that I’ll be able to read your writing for many years to come. 💕

helenareal.bsky.social•41 days ago

I'm so sorry you had to endure all that 🥺 🫂

beelzebobross.bsky.social•41 days ago

Please don't do anything rash, don't give up, and do not end your life. We need people like you in the fight for trans rights.

carlyjdubois.com•41 days ago

In case my website crashes, here is a PDF version of the story of my 3-year nightmare as a trans woman at a New York Times-owned company (CW: suicide, suicidal ideation, anti-trans hate):

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ZJhC7owfP4Ykd47g5D6wbQ4qEylVBL_T/view?usp=sharing

seantcollins.com•41 days ago

Solidarity forever.

oilcantim.bsky.social•41 days ago

i'm so sorry you were put through this carly. please let me know if it's helpful to cancel my subscription(s), i'm very happy to (although i'm generally skeptical of individual actions like that being effective.)

carlyjdubois.com•41 days ago

Here is a companion piece to my story about being a trans woman at a New York Times-owned company:

https://www.carlyjdubois.com/trans-woman-employee-new-york-times-company/

susandixon.bsky.social•41 days ago

Thank you for sharing yourself so bravely, Sister. You are loved. You are needed. You are beautiful.

trans.bsky.social•40 days ago

reposting for visibility, thank you for writing this 🙏

jamiemarie.bsky.social•41 days ago

This is heartbreaking and so understandable. I don’t even know what to say these days.

lanternstocking.bsky.social•40 days ago

🦋

mgeschwind.bsky.social•40 days ago

I just wanted to let you know that as a cis woman I read your piece and immediately wrote one of my own about how crucial (and easy!) it is to support trans folks. I still need to edit and revise, but I hope to put it up on Wordpress tomorrow. Just thought you should know you inspired that in me.

lifeafterdawn.bsky.social•39 days ago

I’m here for you! Thank you for speaking out. And… Don’t go yet. We’re really only starting to fight.

btwnthesepages.bsky.social•41 days ago

I am so sorry the world is what it is. The world IS a better place with you in it.

weedlord.gay•41 days ago

Unsubbing now, forgot they got bought by the failing nyt

thefrankiedlc.news•41 days ago

Carly! Long time, no see, and now I understand why. You are incredible, and I'm so sorry you've been going through this. Thank you for sharing your story.

theokane.bsky.social•41 days ago

Thank you for writing this and breaking your silence. 💙 I recognized so much of your experience. I had a breakdown myself working for a bigoted company that acquired my employer, and they were in no way as powerful or influential as NYT. We need you here.

cybrpwca.bsky.social•40 days ago

Hi Carly. I'm just another transfemme on the Internet, worried about our future. Thank you for writing this. Thank you for still being here, as hard as it is. I hope you're getting support from people around you, but if you need a stranger to talk to, I'm ready and willing to listen.

missidgie.bsky.social•2 days ago

Thank you for sharing, Carly.

carlyjdubois.com•2 days ago

😘

itswanda.bsky.social•40 days ago

Carly! Still reading, but so sorry that this is how I'm catching up with how you've been....

approvalremoval.bsky.social•41 days ago

Hi Carly! I am not in the journalism space, but I am a nonbinary person who had a very similar experience through this past election cycle. I can’t imagine how much harder it was to be in this middle of the firestorm and keelhauled by organisations like the NYT in this way. +

approvalremoval.bsky.social•41 days ago

+ And on top of that, still feel let down on the morning of 11/6 as you report in your piece. I wanted to thank you for sharing, if only if it helped me not feel alone in an environment that seems bent on brand trans ppl nervous for what’s to come as hysterical. +

approvalremoval.bsky.social•41 days ago

+ Finally, I was struck by your point that major thought outlets like NYT see “humans” and “activists” as separate categories. This really gets to the heart of what I think is many ppl’s sticking point rn with legacy media that had long been considered left-leaning. +

approvalremoval.bsky.social•41 days ago

+ I would again like to thank you. Wishing you all the best that I can as a stranger who read your work. Thank you for your story here.

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