"What the fuck do you mean the threat of death isn't a form of force? WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?!"
Friend: "Calm down, they're trying to comfort you."
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I don't get non-autistics, but I shouldn't panic over it if I have any control over it. Stuff like this I have to accept makes no sense.
You’re not any less of a person for not understanding/picking up on certain social queues! Everyone is unique and perceives things differently. I hope you don’t beat yourself up too much! 🙂
This is a reason autistics wear clothes inside out. Why bother expending energy pointlessly and changing the shirt around? As you say, it isn't a big deal.
Autistics prioritise practicality over wearing our team's shirt and bonding further with our group. They know we are different already, and we may revel in our differences.
I have inneficiently:-) utilised my thoughts and thought about why autistics, when we want to wear our team's shirt to protect our team's sensibilities, don't notice when we have put a shirt on inside out and neurotypicals do?
I think it is as simple as typicals noticing little social tells given by people around them saying for neurotypicals to hear: YOUR SHIRT IS ON INSIDE OUT.
On the other hand, in the face of a cacophany of social tells given by people around us saying: YOUR SHIRT IS ON INSIDE OUT, autistics only hear the wind rustling in the leaves, whilst thinking, 'That's an interestingly shaped leaf - its quiet today.'
Ever since we discovered that I am autistic I’m continually asking my husband to interpret NT behavior and expectations for me. I wish I had known to do this all along!
Or!! You make neurotypical speaking styles your special interest and you constantly explain why NT people do stupid and seemingly evil things that they tend to do.
I can read people’s personalities and motivations after like two conversations. My partner calls me psychic
Like “when we say we’re going to do things, mehhhh we might not ACTUALLY do it.”
That, to me, is the hardest. Neurotypical people and some high-masking autistic people, lie just because they feel like it. And then expect people to “just get over it.”
That's just how a lot of people are, and if they have to worry about someone getting upset that they might forget something, the stress can cause them to forget more.
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Friend: "Calm down, they're trying to comfort you."
??????
I don't get non-autistics, but I shouldn't panic over it if I have any control over it. Stuff like this I have to accept makes no sense.
That also sucks
Can you also hear electricity? I can tell when a monitor has been left on just by the sound it makes
I can read people’s personalities and motivations after like two conversations. My partner calls me psychic
I had this one ex who I could read like a book and he absolutely HATED that I’d know what he was going to do before he even did
That, to me, is the hardest. Neurotypical people and some high-masking autistic people, lie just because they feel like it. And then expect people to “just get over it.”
I will never be over it.