Don't confuse being a fast talker with being a deep thinker. Speaking quickly signals confidence, not complexity. Don't mistake volume for expertise. Speaking loudly reflects conviction, not credibility. Sometimes the best ideas come from the least assertive voice in the room. - ThreadSky

adamgrant.bsky.social • 15 days ago

Don't confuse being a fast talker with being a deep thinker. Speaking quickly signals confidence, not complexity.

Don't mistake volume for expertise. Speaking loudly reflects conviction, not credibility.

Sometimes the best ideas come from the least assertive voice in the room.

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ampersarnie.com•14 days ago

I’ve also found other contributors to fast talking;
- Regional accents - in my corner of England we speak quickly due to accent.
- Others not giving way to contribution, or interrupting - Leading people to try and push their points or information through quickly.

rachaelnpc.bsky.social•15 days ago

Talking fast is sometimes out of nervousness.
Talking fast isn't effective communication.
I had to work on talking slower so people could comprehend what I'm saying.

radioactivecat.bsky.social•15 days ago

And then they’re quickly “so let me say it back to you” owned by one of the first two types.

capellaf.bsky.social•14 days ago

Thats way I love #LiberatingStructures. They level the participation field quickly. They foster lively participation in groups of any size, everyone is #included and #engaged.

shawnbuttner.com•14 days ago

An old co-worker and I would play a game in meetings where we would try to guess who was the loudest vs quietest, who held informal vs formal authority, etc… in the room.

It helped me advocate for lost voices in meetings, and prevented some catastrophic decisions the “confident” people pushed.

devokneivel.bsky.social•14 days ago

Also, speaking slower in English displays that you are intelligent because English has such a large and nuanced vocabulary.

I teach this to ESL students who are thrilled that the millstone of vocabulary can actually free them to calmly construct their sentences carefully.

jwparkin.bsky.social•15 days ago

Sometimes the best ideas come from the last person to speak in the room.

ricketyrico.bsky.social•15 days ago

Amen

palmertree.bsky.social•15 days ago

An older book, “The Design Sprint,” by Jake Knapp and John Zeratsky, hard arguably some of the best means of bringing out the voices of introverts I had ever read. You may have already read it, but highly recommend it.

https://www.thesprintbook.com/

palmertree.bsky.social•15 days ago

I’m totally plugging you by the way @johnzeratsky.com :) the attention to introverts was especially loved and super useful.

doughensch.bsky.social•15 days ago

@adamgrant.bsky.social Thanks for posting - I agree 100%. So, what is the best way to converse with someone like this to have a 'fair' dialogue where both parties are able to express themselves?

danlannin.bsky.social•15 days ago

I like to tell my kids, confidence does not always equal competence.

mka1022.bsky.social•15 days ago

Like the life of the party or those with gift of gab. Confidence, yes... fun maybe but often it's a smoke screen that hides a less than positive character trait(s) and eventually it shows up.

notonebutmany.bsky.social•14 days ago

I always say that just because someone is loud doesn't mean they are right!

crottymark.bsky.social•15 days ago

Similarly, some people just have to have the last word. They think that means they win!

umotu.bsky.social•15 days ago

There was a man at a company I used to work for who was a firm believer in the loudest person wins, no matter what!

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