My ex just got a 21k bonus last week but he's apparently "too broke" to cover medical bills for the kids this month and asked me to help out. Meanwhile, my paycheck last week was only $450. - ThreadSky

highnessophelia.bsky.social • 94 days ago

My ex just got a 21k bonus last week but he's apparently "too broke" to cover medical bills for the kids this month and asked me to help out.

Meanwhile, my paycheck last week was only $450.

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dpaulangel.com•94 days ago

Helping take care of your kids is the barest, of bare minimums for a dad and he's still finding new ways to fail at it 😡 Eternally a POS.

highnessophelia.bsky.social•94 days ago

Splitting things 50/50 when there's an income difference like ours is ridiculous.

dpaulangel.com•94 days ago

I have the same kind of income disparity with my ex, and even when I was going l through a difficult and, in a lot of ways, traumatic separation with her, the thought that 50/50 would be fair never occurred, even at my lowest point.
I really have a special hatred of him for this.

highnessophelia.bsky.social•94 days ago

It's very frustrating because I know that me giving up my career and staying home with the kids allowed his career to expand and flourish, while mine quite literally expired.

dpaulangel.com•94 days ago

I remember you talking about that too, and that he refuses to acknowledge that is reprehensible, and all the more so since it's hurting you and the kids.

caterinamia.bsky.social•94 days ago

I don't think I've ever heard anything about him that made me think "huh, what a nice guy".
THEY'RE HIS CHILDREN! How could he not????

spudzz.bsky.social•94 days ago

Damn 21k!

thedarkrattler.bsky.social•94 days ago

He's such a shitty father! And as a single father who does everything for my son with next to no help from his mother, I think I'm qualified to say so! I'll say it right to his face, I don't care. I hate how he treats you and your kids. It's maddening!!

shinery.bsky.social•94 days ago

I didn't realize turds could get 21k for picking up extra corn on their way out.

I fucking hate him. How can we help?

highnessophelia.bsky.social•94 days ago

Someone was kind enough to help out and I admitted to ex that this month was tight and asked him to cover the $100 bill for the kids.

Now I'm going to get questions about my finances from him.. 😑

shinery.bsky.social•94 days ago

If it were me, with the caveat that I don't know the details about what you're obligated to tell him if anything, I would tell him it's none of his fucking business. Your kids with him are his business, not your life.

highnessophelia.bsky.social•94 days ago

Yah but we have to file joint taxes for last year, so I don't have a choice. Once we're divorced it'll be better.

shinery.bsky.social•94 days ago

Oh that's right, I forgot it's not final yet. I'm sorry. 😭

highnessophelia.bsky.social•94 days ago

I need to get this paperwork done so I can file but it's literally like 250 pages 😩

longhair.bsky.social•94 days ago

$100 out of 21k and he's COMPLAINING? Fucking hell, man, take care of your kids.

highnessophelia.bsky.social•94 days ago

Those bills were 22% of my paycheck for the week.

They are .0047% of his bonus.

longhair.bsky.social•94 days ago

It would be logical for him to set aside a percentage of his bonus specifically for stuff the kids might need. Because they are, and should be, the priority.

empressluna.bsky.social•94 days ago

As your beans new financial advisor my answer to any questions he has about your finances is: "gargle my nuts you fucking dildo."

empressluna.bsky.social•94 days ago

*Brand new even. I swear my autocorrect keeps getting worse over time.

empressluna.bsky.social•94 days ago

I know the original post is obviously serious and I hate him too but Jesus christ Shine! I didn't even have a drink, I just spat saliva across the room. 😅