(Cw: self harm) she just went on a rant about feeling like there was a void inside of her & asked me if people kill themselves to be remembered positively & i’m sitting on my couch trying to apply for jobs like
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We are seriously fucking scared for you.
And like, yeah, you barely know us.
But this cannot continue, she will break you.
She's not just putting up red flags, shes bill-boarding nuclear test site warnings.
This is a classic abuse tactic and it's not on you no matter what. When my then-gf played this card on me I backed down and it's one of my bigger regrets
The more aware of the abuse you are, the less you'll panic and spiral in response to her manipulations and the less slavish your attempts at appeasement will be, and even if she doesn't consciously understand why she'll reach for more extreme tactics to pull you back in. It really fucking sucks ❤️🩹
My father used to make this threat to my mother to coerce her into staying with him.
One day he followed through, after beating me so badly my mother finally told him to get out. He is not remembered positively - he's remembered as a violently abusive bully who took the coward's way out.
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And like, yeah, you barely know us.
But this cannot continue, she will break you.
She's not just putting up red flags, shes bill-boarding nuclear test site warnings.
to answer your question, yes
also
god damn, holy fuck
You gotta get the fuck outta this. If you're afraid of what she might do check online for resources about how to leave an abuser.
This has more red flags than a May Day parade outside the Kremlin in 1958.
I make no claims beyond that. I wasn't born yet: I didn't have the opportunity to date the USSR.
Besides which I'm pretty sure even if I was alive in 1958 dating the entire USSR would have presented its own problems.
the
actual
fuck
One day he followed through, after beating me so badly my mother finally told him to get out. He is not remembered positively - he's remembered as a violently abusive bully who took the coward's way out.