when i met my bf, i was not a healthy weight. the stress made me stop eating. i got tons of comments telling me i looked "incredible." i confessed that i was worried i would gain weight back and not be as attractive to him. "do it. gain 20 pounds. gain 50. you'll be so f*cking hot." - ThreadSky

emilykmay.bsky.social • 99 days ago

when i met my bf, i was not a healthy weight. the stress made me stop eating.

i got tons of comments telling me i looked "incredible."

i confessed that i was worried i would gain weight back and not be as attractive to him.

"do it. gain 20 pounds. gain 50. you'll be so f*cking hot."

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lilyfathom.art•99 days ago

As a guy myself I can confirm this. I think women who have a little fluff to them are cute. Overly thin women just seem unapprochable and in some instances intimidating.

cmgreen86.bsky.social•99 days ago

A man who loves you AND your body at every possible size is such a goddamn delight!

kryssieharris.bsky.social•99 days ago

I got the most compliments on my body at the HEIGHT of my ED. I’m trying so hard to gain weight

emilykmay.bsky.social•99 days ago

it's one of those things that is such a mindfuck because you're literally wasting away and people are like, "wowwww, workout routine???"

theaud.bsky.social•99 days ago

Different circumstances but yeah, I didn’t even realize I was consuming mostly coffee until people started commenting on my weight loss.

bricecollin.bsky.social•99 days ago

♥️

lindseybkoehler.bsky.social•97 days ago

Me, fully anorexic, two months away from being sent to a residential treatment program for eds yet still leading worship at church, getting approached weekly for “my secret” 🙃

diamondjax.bsky.social•98 days ago

When I was in high school and at the height of my DE, my pediatrician congratulated me on my weight loss, told me to “keep it up.” Few months later I collapsed in the woods during a cross country meet. I was running twice a day on 550 calories. Worst part is, a part of me wishes I looked like that.

emilykmay.bsky.social•98 days ago

still wish i looked like i was dying, yes. yes.

quirkyinquirer.bsky.social•96 days ago

I will never forget the pinned post of a fitness influencer I followed, it said “this is what 200lbs+ looks like” or something, it blew my mind! She was fit, muscular, toned… we have to stop self shaming & holding up skinny as the ideal.
What matters is personal health, mental-emotional-physical ❤️

nashz.bsky.social•99 days ago

I’ve struggled with anorexia most my life (in recovery now 🤞), and it is truly the worst mindfuck. Like I’m literally killing myself slowly, and you’re jealous of my willpower?

aaronvanderwal.bsky.social•98 days ago

I went to a book reading once, where the author recounted being a literal starving artist while trying to get published, and he said he got all sorts of compliments even though his weight loss was due to financial hardship (which no one knew or asked about).

brianhpage.bsky.social•99 days ago

Ugh. This is one of a million examples of the crap women have to worry about while guys like me stress about who to start on our fantasy football teams on Sundays while we eat bacon sandwiches and wings.

But don't judge me too harshly, I do all of the chores first.

wellthatsfab.bsky.social•99 days ago

I lost like 25lbs in the first 6 weeks after my split - same thing. Literally gagged trying to eat food. And everyone said how amazing I looked (I had been heavy). And while I did like how much thinner I'd gotten, it was so weird to be told how great I looked while my world shattered.

crystalhikes.bsky.social•99 days ago

Yep. I’ve experienced this 3x. Both my pregnancies I lost weight and was told I “looked great”. 3rd time was due to stress. I was so weak all 3x and it wasn’t ok but apparently that’s the way the world wants women?

alyssaleann.bsky.social•99 days ago

I hate this but my kinda funny version of it: in 2022, I went to Mexico City and got E. coli and a parasite (oops) and lost 15 pounds

So when I got complimented on it, I got to say “I have a parasite, but thanks 😊” and watch people SQUIRM

emilykmay.bsky.social•99 days ago

🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃

alyssaleann.bsky.social•99 days ago

(Joey never even noticed. I told him I’d lost weight and he was like “Aw. Poor thing.”)

delareborn.bsky.social•99 days ago

THIS!!!! I lost a shit ton of weight due to stress and not being able to eat for a couple months like a human being — and suddenly everyone was like “wow you look gorgeous! How did you do it?”

It killed some of my spirit at the time. Disgusting.

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