i know everyone here hates tiktok and is happy to see it go, but I’m honestly sad that we are going to lose another spot where many weird ladies have found each other and make each other feel seen and less alone
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I’m with you. My feed is also super curated, including a significant number of neurodivegent/disabled teachers of color whose contributions are def a source of guidance in my work. Tiktok also connected me with the IEP advocate I eventually hired & entrusted my kid’s ed access to. It’s devistating.
Oh man, I don’t hate it. It has been a wonderful source of information and organization around Palestine, and generally a pretty effective tool for political awakening for a lot of young people. Also, I enjoy paranormal videos of questionable provenance.
I won’t lie I hate tik-Tok, I hate the idea of what it is what it has done, blah blah blah, but now you’ve somehow made me sad for tik-Tok so that wasn’t very nice of you :(
I’m going to miss it for sure. People don’t realize how much community and information is there! I love using it for recipes, watching people go thrifting & crafting, plus there’s a huge community of diverse readers and authors who are going to lose a lot from the ban.
I love tik tok. Please let me keep my Chinese app that I’m watching on my Chinese iPad in my Chinese pjs, laying on my Chinese bed, expecting another Chinese delivery
Why does “everyone hate TikTok?” I don’t use it myself and know there’s a lot of disinformation there, but I also know it’s a place where people get information about it Gaza and capitalism and that’s why powers that be want it to go
also the fact that a lot of young people were sharing progressive content / opinions in there.
idk seems bad moving into the Trump era with one less propaganda channel for the left when every other platform is unambiguously dominated by the right, as much as I do hate tiktok
I love TikTok & have learned so much there and “met” so many interesting people from so many countries. Not to mention the recipes, household hints & belly laughs from pratfalls & sweet babies. It will be sorely missed if they really ban it.
TikTok is more than weird ladies. TikTok gives people who should have a voice a voice and gives us ears to hear things that we would never otherwise hear. This loss is bigger than we realize.
We are also losing a place where information can be disseminated, help requested, and people can report from events as they happen so u see it IRL without editing by TPTB.
I mean tiktok is a very niche area where a lot of my friends have found their peeps and i can't begrudge them that, and i can be sad they are potentially losing this thing that brings them joy
I’m bummed about it, I’ve learned so many things on TikTok. The Memphis duck hotel came up in my FYP again yesterday—I never would have known about that! And I got really into deaftok. It’s a loss.
Well, apparently we can have Tiktok now, thanks to Elonald. Bluster about tariffs is well and good but evidently the Fuhrer doesn't want actual business with China impeded. #HeilToTheChief
I felt this over the demise of twitter. So many people who helped me & my fam stay safe in the early days of covid. They want to destroy anyplace we find comfort & community but especially knowledge. Uncontrolled information is their enemy. They will steal our sources & force us to use theirs. 🫂
And I think that's part of it. I'm not a Tiktok user myself--no prejudice, just too old to 'get it'--but it seems to me that it's harder to control, so it's like 'too hard to control, just ban it.'
also not active but have enjoyed content shared on other sites. The creativity is off the charts. But our really don't want creativity to bleed over into critical thought. One reason why they are hellbent on forcing AI down our throats is the possibility it offers to control content.
From tools for parenting my highly anxious child to body positive nutrition advice to the community of late diagnosed AuDHD weird moms with chronic illness. I’m going to miss my people so much.
I have such mixed feelings about banning it. Trying to balance all the good things mentioned in the comments with my own experience of constantly fighting to get 2 teen boys to look up from their phones and dispel the conspiracy theories & misinformation they are fed on the app.
ah, sorry for being snippy, I didn’t realize you weren’t the parent. I have a 13 yr old and get annoyed by parents who try to pass the buck on accountability
You're not wrong. Everyone should read/listen to The Anxious Generation—it is eye-opening. It certainly changed my position and how proactive I am with my kids’ screen time. I am particularly careful with my ADHD girl. We, adults, are also affected if we don't keep it under control.
So much of my time on Tiktok has been enjoying a feed that feels so distinctly me--learning new things, craft inspiration, so many neurodivergent folks. I'm so sad this chapter is ending, especially when almost all the other platforms feel pretty bleak right now.
I should also mention that tiktok literally changed my life and helped me cut my migraines down by around 80% because I saw a video about how adhd folks are so likely to have the wrong glasses rx because we cheat on the eye exam
got my exam redone how it was suggested, poof! most migraines gone.
I am SO unapologetically sad tiktok is going away. It’s got it’s superficial junk, of course, but I learned so much on the platform. About how to do things, about how people live, and tons of worthy critical discourse on a variety of subjects.
Yo tiktok has had such a profoundly positive effect on my life. Idk how I would have survived pandemic without it. Got me diagnosed with a bunch of things, made me laugh at my darkest moments, taught me so many things...it def went downhill, but still my security blanket.
we try to “win” because we have so much anxiety about performing poorly. so we squint and guess at letters, instead of relaxing our face. we think the goal is to perform well, instead of getting the help we need.
so our rx is too weak, and we end up unconsciously squinting all the time
Or find one that uses the machine that projects an image into your eye and back-calculates your prescription with no input from you. They still do some checks after, but it's mostly automated.
My vision is screwy for a lot of reasons (mostly in my brain). At least 2 decades ago, I would warn that my R eye asses out. A decade ago, I started saying "probably" on letters, even on my L. This farsighted lady can't read street signs or train tables till I'm up on em!
Omg this makes so much sense now, both my daughter and I have adhd and horrible migraines. I will do this my next eye exam and let my daughter know too! Thanks
This is so interesting. My daughter (ADHD, 8 then) kept telling me she couldn’t read (instead of see) until I started to wonder and took her for an eye test, which she mastered. The optometrist had to put some drops to relax her eyes and redo the test. Boom! She is farsighted. She said kids do that.
As an optician, we’ll see people trying to “pass” an eye test when we hear them say how they’re hurting; and we just need to know the specifics so we can do something to help. Spreading a targeted “It’s OK, these things can help” message is wonderful for reducing that stress and building trust.
Also before you say it i am aware what a VPN is and I know there’s ways of getting around a ban but there’s no way most people will know that, things will change.
i’m a software engineer. this is how it’s built. this is how it works. from the last 15 years of industry experience and from reading the lawsuits the US brought against them to force them to store data in the US.
Hope that someone *not* China can quickly make a dupe for yr ⏰platform; Short-form video on a free platform. That could be done #onhere for a fee but most folx don't pay💰 for social media(Bluesky is text, not 🎥-based).
Free platforms die or get eaten.
PS. Glad that you don't squint at the 👁️doc now!
It’s just honestly hard to imagine the next four years without this place where i know i can find laughter and comfort and understanding and cute animals and hear my language and watch native babies and find new recipes
I’m sitting here crying and i know it’s not really about tiktok. It’s just about feeling even more alone, especially about losing this connection to other leftist women in red states where things are increasingly scary. and just the looming reality that Trump really is coming back.
Just a footnote...
TIC TOC IS JUST ANOTHER EVIL TOOL TO GIVE PEOPLE THE "RIGHT" TO SPEW HATE AND DISINFORMATION..
SOME...ARE GENUINE...
MOST ARE COMMON BULLSHIT
TO RAISE ANGER AND HATE TOWARDS ARE HUMAN RACE...
I'M SAD THAT YOU CRY..I WISH A HUG AND A FEW WORDS ,CAN HELP YOU..
🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠
WELL, I UNDERSTAND YOU,
I HAVE FOUND THAT DOING THE "RIGHT" THINGS,SUCH AS PROTEST,MARCHING AT MY CAPITAL FOR BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS,IS JUST A SMALL PART OF THE PROBLEM.
I HAVE LIVED A NON RELIGIOUS LIFE SINCE I WAS 15
IT HAS CHANGED MY VIEWS.
THE POWERS( moneymen)
THAT BE..
WILL ALWAYS BE IN CHARGE.
We’re starting this for the next generation! We’ll speak and read our languages here and help create a loving and thriving community so when the next generation is ready, they’ll experience what we were so lucky to experience before them. I support you! 🫶🏽
that’s not what is happening here. a platform is being shutdown because some billionaires wanted people to be forced to use their platforms, on their terms, which are of course increasingly fascist
It's really about curation. I didn't see as much of the bad side of twitter until post-Grok & the block alteration because, like you and tt, I'd curated my feed to make it useful, comforting & informative. I'm glad we had that, but having to recreate over & over is exhausting, which is the intent.
I had the same experience with Twitter and TikTok until more recently times. Avoided the trolls and on reflection was probably gaming the algorithm. It was amazing for Maori and indigenous content.
It was altering the block function that made everything far too accessible. I understand that for people who aren't white like me it was always tough. Shouldn't be that way. The hard block feature here is what it should be to allow us to protect ourselves. Finding one's internet folks is a necessity
I kind of love it and think there’s all sorts of good info and connection on there for many weirdos and subsets and interests with potential for some unifying cultural fun (specific tiktok samples/trends, etc)
TikTok helped me drop the stigma I felt about being neurodivergent and feel seen. People sharing themselves honestly has been such a lovely learning experience and I hate to see it go.
We need spaces to be weird together and find each other. I'm not a big TikTok user but it's so valuable to so many people. Shutting it down makes no sense.
I have loved TikTok. There are such cool folks I follow there— and yes, they are on other platforms, but it is no where near the same. I am pretty bummed about it, honestly.
Oh… I might download a bunch. And I know these are par asocial relationships, but some of the folks I follow are so helpful— I have learned so much. I am seriously unhappy they are being taken away.
Not making fun but it's so cool to find out that other people are not as terminally online as me and not following the tiktok saga. Good reality check!
I love my TikTok. Once I have it set up correctly, it provides great content. Except for digging into comments, I am able to completely block out the toxic shit I don't want
I always used to tell my girls that TikTok was dumb. I downloaded it to prove my point and I was wrong. Through TT, I started seeing a lot more stuff with adhd and autism. It helped me and the kids understand each other more. I really hope they end up keeping it as is.
Its a mixed bag really. For every right wing chud spreading breathless disinfo there are more weird ladies like you mention. It's a reminder that social media can be great but often isn't
😥 I love tiktok! have learned more about parenting an autistic child on there than from the rare appointments with professionals. plus wild storytimes, recipes, art... Will still have access here in the UK but lose a bunch of great creators
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idk seems bad moving into the Trump era with one less propaganda channel for the left when every other platform is unambiguously dominated by the right, as much as I do hate tiktok
And it’s not lost on me that they’re banning TT where there’s more leftist political creators than right & more of them are women than men.
They’re forcing us back to Meta where now there’s no guardrails (not that there ever really was). It sucks.
I had an actual real life cry about Twitter after Musk's purchase went through
It's okay to grieve. You aren't silly. You're allowed to be upset that all of our lives are controlled by hateful old men.
I prefer reels. Or even Instagram.
got my exam redone how it was suggested, poof! most migraines gone.
I need this information
They took TikTok before they took action on guns.
so our rx is too weak, and we end up unconsciously squinting all the time
I had the symptoms of BVD, but just the right RX ended my vertigo.
The way I learned I have ADHD is by others talking about it on Twitter five years ago and it’s really improved my life.
people in India have used vpns after their tiktok ban. tt has no real interest in banning users from their platform.
when you make the account it’s locked to that country. the only way around it is to make a new account.
all that a vpn will do is change the feed location.
i’d suggest doing more research before replying. lookup the previous issue with storing american data.
Where are you getting your information?
i’m a software engineer. this is how it’s built. this is how it works. from the last 15 years of industry experience and from reading the lawsuits the US brought against them to force them to store data in the US.
Free platforms die or get eaten.
PS. Glad that you don't squint at the 👁️doc now!
Go back to SA
TIC TOC IS JUST ANOTHER EVIL TOOL TO GIVE PEOPLE THE "RIGHT" TO SPEW HATE AND DISINFORMATION..
SOME...ARE GENUINE...
MOST ARE COMMON BULLSHIT
TO RAISE ANGER AND HATE TOWARDS ARE HUMAN RACE...
I'M SAD THAT YOU CRY..I WISH A HUG AND A FEW WORDS ,CAN HELP YOU..
🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠
I HAVE FOUND THAT DOING THE "RIGHT" THINGS,SUCH AS PROTEST,MARCHING AT MY CAPITAL FOR BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS,IS JUST A SMALL PART OF THE PROBLEM.
I HAVE LIVED A NON RELIGIOUS LIFE SINCE I WAS 15
IT HAS CHANGED MY VIEWS.
THE POWERS( moneymen)
THAT BE..
WILL ALWAYS BE IN CHARGE.
I’ve spent the last few days crying over old men talking about the fires in la, and people sharing their grandparents who’ve died to bad bunny
even with how much worse it’s gotten in terms of tiktok shop, it’s a place a lot of people depend on to feed their families
Someone already is
The internet isn't meant to be static like those FB and Twitter years, that was weird Nazi shit
The most interesting people online have always been nomadically moving around to avoid Nazis, bots, and grandmas once they invade a platform.
It's designed to do what it's already done
Sorry you ended up as collateral damage in all this.